I was just wondering how many other women deal with this kind of issue?

So tell me how you would react to this...

You're driving in the car with your boyfriend/husband & he's telling you about being out with his friend when he hadn't contacted you all day...and how he was sitting at jack in the box with his friend super stoned in the parking lot...and there are two girls there trying to put oil in their truck...and his friend says..."I bet if she put her **** in the oil it would run." and how funny it was and that the window is down so the girl heard which made them laugh even more.

and you aren't amused & just listening. and he says whatever...it was funny I guess you had to be there. and you say...well I couldn't have been there because you didn't contact me all day...and he says...oh my gosh...I was just trying to share myself with you...I guess I should just not tell you anything...and gets out of the car at the light to ride his longboard to work.

then you text him...sorry for taking offense to your story...I'll try to not be such a prude...I love you and have a good day...

and his response back to you is...whatever. I'm over it.

I mean really, how do I deal with this kind of sitution when I think it's disrespectful & I can't get him to see this? There is no way that he would go for me not contacting him all day & then going out to the bars with my friends & then to follow it up with a story about some guys that we saw & said something deragatory (sp?) about them.

Blonde Wife

"Stressed parent" and this is the kind of crap you choose to worry about?
Instead you should be scared about the sorry excuse for a mother your children have.

Muschi

You had no reason to apologize, he was the one being inconsiderate and juvenile.

I think you made a big deal about nothing-you apologized-he accepted it and moved on-so you should too.

He was just telling you a story and making conversation with you and you took it personal-you did the right thing by apologizing. So what if he hangs out with his friends and they act like dumb guys once in a while? as long as he isn't breaking plans with you to do other things all the time I don't see the problem.He's a guy-we may never fully understand all the things they find funny but don't take it personal or so seriously.

â™¥HisBabygirl?â™¥

What would you expect from a stoner?

precious007

I think the best way to get to a man is act like it doesn't bother you and just say as calmly as possible. That's cool. I can't wait for your reaction when I go out with my friends and don't contact you all day and see if you like any of my stories about guys with there shirts off etc etc. Believe me it works. My X-fiance was like that. He was always doing stupid crap and always tried to turn it on me until I started playing his own deck of cards and he started to realize how much of an ahole he was. Instead of getting mad or upset, I just started to do the same thing back to him so he could get a taste of his own medicine.

radioactivecupcake

Wow, sounds like your bf/husband is not very mature and that your maturity level is beyond his. Personally I would never be comfortable with my bf not letting me know what he was planning on doing for the day or just getting out of my running car at a light to ride his long board to work. I'd be sooooo done with that crap. I am not you though, so it's your call on how you feel about it.

Chloe

Wait, what exactly was she putting in the oil? With the word blurred out I really can't tell if it's funny or not.

Seriously though, "stressed parent," your handle says it all. You need to take better care of yourself, stop putting others first all the time. I don't know why people are saying your husband is a loser, that to me is insulting and not helpful at all. I'm sure you can get over it. Most "normal" men say some piggish things while the wife isn't around. If you get really P.Oed he is not likely to share stories with you. You could always joke back instead. "Her *** wasn't as cute as mine, was it," etc. Lighten up babe, there's more to come down the road, LOL

HUGS~

honeybee72781

So do just that. Go out with your friends, don't contact him all day and then tell him some story from when you go out. When he starts to argue with you about it, just say it's ok when the shoes on the other foot isn't it. maybe it'll make him rethink bout him doing what he did? just a thought.

<3

id think my husband was a loser for being stoned or hanging out with someone who was.

Missy

I think you reacted appropriately, and even went out of your way to apologize to ease the tension....but he sounds like a total loser.

I'm sorry, that's just immature. To walk out and then text you saying "whatever...i'm over it". Ha!

You are not dealing with the average bf - he doesnt respect you. But it sounds like you have put up with this type of behavior in the past, you just deal with it. Therefore it doesn't change, because you let it happen.

Put your foot down and demand respect - other wise - sounds like he's calling the shots.

Maalru3

Well first off why be insecure about some stupid story, guys are guys, they look, so what. I think the bigger picture is that he was "super stoned" and that may have a lot to do with why he didn't call you all day. My question to you, is why do you want a guy who is high and doesn't respect you enough to hear you when you said your feelings. He doesn't have to agree with how you feel, but he should respect how you feel. He doesn't and he is stoned all day. How I would deal with that , it tell him I am over it myself and move on cause he isn't worth it!!!!

Crystal W

Men are immature. He's never going to understand because a man doesn't put as much thought or emotion into the relationship as the man does. You can fight it all you want but it will never change. Another man may be a little less immature but will still be self-centered.

KingAndrew

Maybe you should stop dating teenage boys. I would not only not care what he thought or said, I would not even give him the time of day, such a waste of your time.

Taurean W

I am not a woman but I would like to better understand women and coming here is just another way for me to do that. Honestly, I'd have to say that I think he is either bored with you or he doesn't want you. Maybe you guys have reached that point where things are just boring. If you want to keep him, try shocking him. Punch him playfully in the stomach one night and take charge in bed or something. If you don't want him just walk because he is at that point now but probably not man enough to say so or even worse he doesn't know what he wants.

Soon 2 Be Mrs. Pumpernickle

Don't apologize. And if he is over it, then that's just good for you. You don't need an immature brat in your life. Partners in life do argue, but they shouldn't do stupid things like he did and then act like it's all your fault.

Chelsey the Deer Hunter =)

i wouldn't care, there is no way that my man wouldn't of called.
In your situation i would be hurt and feel left out. He should have called you but as far as the jokes go boys will be boys.

__A_YAHOO_USER__

his story was really stupid and not funny. Why on earth did you text that you're sorry? Get a backbone.

Garnet Glitter

Both of you sound immature.

1) he has no business as a father & husband being 'stoned' in some parking lot with a guy friend....I hope to GOD neither one of them drove in that condition

2) You seem more concerned over the stupid oil comment than him being stoned in a vehicle in a parking lot......wow.

I suggest you BOTH do some growing up.

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