I was so very wrong?

deep in thought

Explain to him that you were tempted - at the same time give him the reason why you felt like this (there has to be one). From there on go to making your marriage work - he must be hurting and so you must now be prepared to give lots of loving care and attention - I hope things soon get back on the right track for you.

Spud55

You play - you pay. Deal with it.

Blunt

It's too late. The trust is lost and it will never be recovered. The harder youtry, the angrier he'll get.

He will start doing the same to hurt you and he will, just to get even with you.

You made the bed, now lay on it.

everythingszenidontthinkso

You have a long road ahead of you and you don't have to physically cheat to have cheated. If a man was texting another woman behind my back I would consider that cheating. It will take an extremely long time for him to forgive you completely. You need to sit down with him and talk about your feeling and let him talk about his feeling. Don't interrupt him when he is talking, let him get all his feeling out so you can know exactly where you stand. If you are really serious you need to seek professional help as a couple.

Tony T

buy a new phone.

jezbnme

let him know the reasons you were interested in the attention of someone else. let him know you don't want someone else but your marriage is lacking that attention and if he loves you he will need to work with you on gaining back that missed attention.

Pearl

Don't text men anymore, there's not much you can do, hopefully time will heal your relationship.

lcritter55118

You need to EARN his trust. Stay faithful and maybe he will trust you again someday.....

sweetcherrypie_â™¥

i have no idea. but good luck. maybe if he knows that you love him, he'll forgive you.

Alfirin06

I guess you have to ask yourself why you were going to cheat on him in the first place, were you having problems? If you were then you need to talk to him about it and let him know that you love him and you want it to work out.

NATALIE S

i was in the same situation, my husband found a text on my phone, all i can say is reassure him you havent cheated perhaps you just felt you needed some attention, make sure you get it off your husband and give him lots of loving!!!

vanhammer

Be totally honest with him. You need to be an open book for now so he has no doubts about where you are or what you are doing. Ask for his forgiveness for even thinking about it and tell him you love him and want to be together. Your actions will be very important from now on and communicating with him honestly will make him more trusting. Good luck

biggy

were you only texting?I don't see whats wrong with that?

A.Melissa Lim

Oop....oh dear just your luck, my dear.

Just don't do it anymore and leave/stay away from that man (he may be married and I don't think you want to be labelled as "FAMILY WRECKER" right?

How do you like your husband to do the same to you?

Get a new phone line and try to earn your husband's trust again.

Good luck to you :)

A Good Guy

Make him understand why you were looking else where and then tell him why you didn't follow it through. Having said that, the only real healer is time.

SEBASTIAN

You ahve to be honest with him as to why you even considered text messaging another man.

Not as your Husband but as your friend you need to trust in him and let him know what you were feeling that coompelled you to risk losing him. Perhaps you are really unhappy with yourself and need counseling.

It will take time. If the shoe were on your foot I'm sure you'd have a real problem with it as well. Allow him to be human and if he didn't leave you then he loves you and is willing to give it another shot. It is your responsibilty to do whatever he wants in order to make him comfortable again.

This may mean giving up your cell phone, pager, internet, etc. to appease him.

You knew how to be sneaky and now it's time to know how to be a wife. I'm sure you want him to feel comfortable and not ahve to worry about the Woman he loves and married all day.

Good Luck!

'-)

vikas n

Well..its a very tough moment of ur life i can understand...but one thing is for sure....it will take time to settle down the matter coz....if a guy got ditched by someone to whom he love the most...the most disastrous thing for any guy...and whenever that person comes in front of us that tinch in our heart teases alot...so just stay stick ...and if yu really love him...just make everything clear to him coz if he made some assumptions that are not true will be the most dangerous thing...so tell him everything....and just wait and show him that he is the most important person in ur life...im sure he will understand...
so gud luck....and may god help u ..
bye n tc...

dianesomeone

time and staying off the computer or the cell......good luck

Shy Girl S

You will have to prove it to him with alot of work and effort on your part.

Relinquish your cell phone, stay away from the computer and when hubby asks where you've been and what you've been doing, make sure you realise he has this right to know.

You're the one who messed up, and he's not going to trust you overnight but, if you are truly sorry and make an effort, he may someday forgive you and move on.

iyamacog

If you actually love him, them show him by simply being a wife, instead of one who thinks you're single. Do you remember any part of your vows???

teeth hoover

Just appologise to him and promise that you'll never do it again. Tell him you'll get rid of your mobile too (can you??) and show him lots of love and affection. Good luck

huckleberrydaddy

It's just a matter of time honey. Love has nothing to do with it. It's that itch that your husband can't scratch that will drive you to actually doing it.
You'll come across a guy like me in some bar and that's going to be that. ;-)

zeuse 666

you cant expect him to forgive and forget if you love him why even think of cheating on him with somebody else
how would you feel and react if it was him that was going to cheat

laplandfan

You will have to earn his trust again. you are lucky he's not throwing you out!!!!
if i were you i would make a point of ditching your sim card and getting another.
you were lucky this time. Don't be tempted again or you may not be lucky second time round.

jude

if he caught u than it will take a while before he can trust u again. be remorseful, take responsibility for what u did, communicate to him that u know what u did hurt him, tell him how wrong u were, and u will never do it again. show him by your actions u have changed. get rid of your cell for one. find out if he will forgive u, if he won't u should plan ahead and be ready for a divorce.

misbehave4me

I wondered why you hadn't come round last night xxx

farleyjackmaster

Trust is won back over time. Show him you mean it.

Margaret

Throw your phone away...................

Leapling

Be scrupulously honest with him and with yourself. Why did you feel tempted by this other man? Can you tell your husband why you felt tempted? If he can see his part to play in why you might have looked elsewhere he will see that he has his bit to do in winning back your whole heart not just blaming and forgiving.

Also give up all semblances ofprivacy for a bit - give your mobile phone into your partner's care the moment you are back home, let him see your diary, let him know your computer passwords etc etc. Don't hide anything or be evasive even for a second. This is the only way to win back his trust.

smcdevitt2001

Trust takes time. Just saying the words are not enough once that trust is broken, so you must show him and prove what you say is true. Good luck and NEVER but never do that again.

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