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Gabe S
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I'd say question him. |
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smars442002
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he's cheating, move on |
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Steve
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Do you have a hammer? It needs to be introduced to the phone. |
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natyai
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I have had my husband cheat on me once, I forgave him that time. BUT if you catch your hubby more than once, forget thinking about it, you need to be healthy and in order to do that, you have to be happy. Go on your gut instinct, and leave him if you are not truly happy with him. Dont kill yourself over a man that does not honor you. |
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la21unica
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and what are you gaining for being with someone who obviously doesn't care for you? if you know all this..and he has done this times before..and he takes you for a joke...and thinks your are dumb enough to buy such explanation...and has his family doing even more dirty work for him...
why are you still there?
are you sure you are not getting a fix from being 'the victim'?
he is not leaving because he knows you won't have the guts to leave first...or he wants you to leave first that way he can say well...she left..and not take any responsibility...
ask yourself what are you gaining from being in this situation...
what do you have to lose..
what do you have to gain...
i hope you make the right decision for you...one that will make you happy...
good luck |
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strawberryrhubarbpie
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He sounds controlling and manipulative, if it were me I wouldn't spend another minute with him. I would pack up and leave no matter how hard it would be. Do you have any family or friends that can help you?
You deserve better sweety. |
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ghemcartographer
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Go to a counselor cause you guys have huge problems that are very likely to lead to divorce, stop it now while you can or it's gonna be over, it may not be too late. Especially with the distrust he has of you and going overseas. |
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MJ
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He's gone overseas? Now is the perfect time to take what you want and get out. Go ahead and get the divorce papers ready while he's gone. There is no reason for you to bang your head against a wall constantly, it isn't going to move. Besides, the next thing you know, he will be coming to you with a bottle of pills saying he messed up and now you have an STD. |
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asbratcher
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He's a cheatin' S.O.B.!! Leave him! Do you really want to live in the same house as him after corrupting his vows to you? He's a lier and a thief. He lies to you about doing other women and a thief because he stole your happiness. Leave him! |
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Well la-di-da
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Sounds like a very dysfunctional relationship and if I were you I'd get a lawyer right away.
When you said he has people check up on you - is he controlling and abusive? If so, you may need some extra help and support from a local woman's group or shelter who specifically helps women in abusive relationships, as that is the most dangerous time for the woman - when she is leaving.
If it's not abusive and he's just cheating, you just need to divorce his ***. |
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Goodspeed
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walk out...he is basically telling you he won't stop and you can't leave..thats BS, you deserve more...walk. |
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boxley4404
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He is a CHEAT! DIVORCE him and find a GOOD man! You do NOT deserve to be treated badly by someone who"loves"you! How does he treat his enemies? |
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free_angel
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Pack his **** and throw it out of your house. If his family and friends stop by to see what you're doing, tell them to get a damn camera and take pictures of his **** thrown outside since they want to see what you're doing. |
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Cindy
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You should have the girls # if he texted her, I say call and confront her or send her a text as him and see what happens. And since he is over seas what is he going to do, leave him, so what if his family and friends stop by his parents shouldn't support a cheater get the evidence and show his friends and family that he is making a fool out of you. Turn the tables. |
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makinitthru
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He did it to see if you were going thru his phone...LOL...he needs to quit it.
Think about it...he has his cake and eating it too...why would he leave.
He has his family searching the house because he knows you know he cheats and he couldn't handle it if you cheated...
Leave this joker alone...you just sound miserable and you don't deserve that!! |
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Ivy_Woman
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Go speak with an attorney. He is lying, my hubby even read this, and said, he's lying to her. I do not know the legalities, but there has to be a way for you to leave. If he is in the military, I would report this to his CO, and tell them that you want to divorce him and need help. |
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mrsb
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I think he is absolutely wrong for what he is doing, and you did the right thing for questioning him. Although this must be so painful, I think you should try marriage counseling. Sometimes people find that although affairs are devastating people can get through them. You have made a committment for life, choose to keep it. A great true life book about affairs in a marriage and how they came back together to be stronger than before is called Marriage Under Cover- by Meisner |
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Nicole E
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Next time this happens dont Question him..Wait a little time or set him up, to make sure he doesn not have any way to defend himself..(Words of experience)
If I were you, I would find out where that woman was, and find her face to face...Investigate...Just for your own sake....
I would go to her and in a very passive way, question her...
The same exact thing happened to me...At this point I was not able to find out if something was going on...cause I got furious right away and questioned him, of course he told me that his best friend knew I had the phone and asked his cashier to call his phone with the purpose of getting mad....
It happened again a second time and I called that girl, I knew who she was and I knew he was married..so i kept calling her cell phone until her husband answered and I told him that his wife had be sending messages to my husband and that my husbnad did not know why she was doing that...I dont know what ever happened after that...But at this point tehre is no way I can prove anything....So whewn something like that happesn just dont say anything and investigate... |
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LoveSlave
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Find out what he really wants from you. Would he be okay with you messing around with other men?? I think that 'set up' for you story is bs. Call the number of the other woman and ask her what's up. It's obvious he doesn't want to deal with the issue with you.
Hopefully this can work out with counseling. I believe that we should try to be there for better or for worse, but cheating is not acceptable. And you being disrespected is wrong.
He's having his family come by to check on you to cover up his possible affair. Be careful, he may telling his friends and family that YOU are doing something behind his.
I really don't see a problem with you checking his cell anyway...Good luck! |
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mel_rose777
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If u know he cheats, and is cheating.. quietly.. get you a divorce lawyer... do not leave your home.. (if you have kids... do not leave period).... get the attorney tell the attorney whats going on.. and you tell your husband.. if he is not going to be committed and a HUSBAND in every way, then if HE wants to leave.. tell him to get his tooth brush, his clothes and leave. Youre not going anywhere.. your lawyer will advise the same... if you have ANY evidence of his indiscretions??? Keep it!! You will need it!! Even subpoena his family.. I am sure they KNOW what he does.... |
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nataliexoxo
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do you have the # ?
text/call her from yours and say you know about the messages and back off your man.
or text/call her and say if you want him so damn bad you can have his lying cheating 2 time double dealing mean mistreating piece of crap self!!! or something along those lines lol
if you really want out... just file for divorce when he's gone and have the courts issue a no contact order or protection from abuse order (nco and pfa) so when he gets back from his trip he can't stay with you in the house!
screw that- if he gets upset like that he's hiding something, only guilty ppl react that way. someone with nothing to hide won't care if you see their phone or emails etc.
don't stay in a bad relationship- better is out there waiting for you to be nice and single so they can find you and sweep you off your feet and treat you properly!
oh oh oh i almost forgot if the phone account is in your name/or a joint account- TURN OFF HIS PHONE!!! OR CANCEL THE TEXT CAPABILITY!!! THAT WAY HE CAN'T GET TEXTS FROM HIS TRAMPS ON THE SIDE!!!! |
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me 4 fun
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simply tell him to knock this crap off if he knows whats good for him.... |
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sunshine f
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well, i went though the same thing you are. i found out that my husband of 15 years was texting another woman , an telling her that he loved her, so i told him that if he loves her to go and be with her. i kicked him out that night, and he is still gone. |
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Ember
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Lawyer up! He's gone overseas and now is the time to consult a lawyer. Figure out your options and if needed move out. Go stay with friends or family or a shelter if you must but you seriously need to do something about this. You dont deserve to find out he's asking a woman, bluntly put, how she would like him... inside or her on top... sadly he wont stop. And it appears you already know that and you know he's cheated in the past, so your suspicious and he has trust issues to the point where his family and friends check up on you while hes gone.
So if your gunna stay in the house, and he's going to be gone for awhile, either keep the doors locked to prevent his welcome wagon from peeking in on you, or change the locks if they have keys. You are entitled to your privacy when you are in your own home. You are entitled to happyness, trust and RESPECT! Take note, he is providing you with none of the above! Get a lawyer and get him out of your life! |
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ize4love07
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WOW, that really has to be tough. If you know that he has been cheating BEFORE he went over seas, and you do want out. Use the time that you have now to make sure that you can take care of yourself on your own. Don't mess up his credit, don't take all his money and don't destroy his property. That will only make you look bad in the end. Be smart and fair, even though he was not fair to you by cheating. Divorces are VERY tricky and can get very nasty, but if you do right when he is doing wrong, you will come out on top in the end. As for the friends and family coming through your house, they have no right to invade your privacy. If you don't have anything to hide, let them do what was asked of them so THEY will know that you really are being good. They may not take your side when things get bad, but are more likely to take up for you and know that he was the one in the wrong. |
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jennifer r
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well i were you i would get me a boyfriend!!!!!pay back is a ***** |
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egyptianla
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my mom and I is going thu the same thing with my dad. and I want this to make it clear that none is this your fault and on the note gather as much info as possible about this women and your husband I'm going to tell you now that whatever u found out is going to hurt you very bad. and I found out alot now I cant sleep at night think this bitc* for a man his is nong to me dont destory life over this confront the women in tell her that you know but dont take it out of hand even thu you want to ripe her hair dont. mske sure you have someone you can go to and talk to about it cause could hurt alot I wish you the best of luck and hope that everything that happen to me dosent happen to you |
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damn spitchus is lost
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is his name charles? |
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IntenseToTheLimit
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hate to say it
but leave him |
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♥The Mrs.♥
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Get out now. If you don't you will just struggle with his friends and family spying on you while he is gone and then you will split when he gets back. |
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erin b
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D-I-V-O-R-C-E |
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