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IDK WHAT TO DO....NEED UR ADVISE PLEASE!?
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on may 8th is my ex bf 23rd birthday,the guy im deep in love with.. i want to wish him a happy birthday thru myspace, since thats the only way..the only thing is that we were together for 2yrs until he ended our relationship 6mths ago and until this day idk why..but i love him with all my heart, i still do...our break up was good at first he said he cares so much about me and im a very speacial person in his life, we talked for about a week after the break up but i kept begging so much that things went bad and he just didnt want to talk to me anymore, i pushed him away by me begging so much, he got mad, called me a psycho, i was just devastated cuz i love him and didnt want to loose him..i know deep deep down he still loves or likes me atleast and i know when he ended our relationship he still loved me i know him but he just wants to be single and have fun not be in a serious relationship since i was his first looong relationship..we still see each other once in a while since we have the same group of ppl but we dont speak to each other, but i know he wants to b/c he always tries to be by me and looks at me alot but only when im not looking but i've cought him, he has asked about me so thats another sign...i want to msg him and wish him a happy b-day my friends tell me not to, to let him miss me cuz so far i havent done anything cuz i did so much before and he just rejected me but its been 6mths and i want to become friends and i think a good start would be wishing him a happy bday and if he replies back then i think thats a good sign?? idk what should i do i want to but my girls tell me not too....help! sorry for a the looog story!
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im still stuck, i dont know if i should, please ppl whats the best thing please!
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spongebobrulz1221
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if u hadnt scared him off mayb he wouldnt have tried to sever all ties, this time go easy, guys dont like ppl who have obssesion, go wish him a happy bday(screw ur friends opinions on this.. saying happy bday is not bad and if u continued this no talking he'll most likely move on bcuz ur not going anywere) try to b friends w/him again and build ur broken bridges |
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Leuco
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Honey you need to let it go. Maybe you should take a page out of his book and enjoy the single life. If he wanted contact with you, he would have contacted you. Guys don't play this "I'm so hard to get" game. If they don't want to get back together, or even talk, they don't.
Your avatar name is very fitting. I know it hurts, but the past is the past, move on. |
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molly 3/17/09
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sweety, dont bother-never chase a man, ever. |
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*Astro*
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Your friends are wanting you to play mind games with your ex - you know, "ignore him so that he will want you more" sort of thing. It is totally ridiculous, especially since you just want to be friends, nothing else.
I think you should send him a birthday wish - but just remember previous mistakes and don't go overboard and be overly clingy. Keep it short and simple. |
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BaschaW
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You don't want to be friends, you want him to love you like you love him.
Which... he doesn't.
So, what to do?
My opinion is you need to have 6 months w/o him. If you happen to be at the same party as him, and he stands beside you... move to a different part of the room. Do not contact him, if he talks to you, you need to say that you need your space away from him. (do not initiate this conversation, BTW) This is now about you. You need to find what you need. Go, sit in your room, tonight. Have a good cry, and then tomorrow, go on without him. I don't think you've realised, yet, that 1) your life will go on with out him, and 2) your life will have to go on w/o him, b/c he doesn't want you in his.
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John H
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Time to move on, find someone new to get to know. You will only get him upset or think badly of you if you still pursue him. Think of all the fun you could have with someone new!!! |
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Bio hopeful
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listen to your 'girlz" |
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cajundude1
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My advice is to give it up because if you do turn him around, he will mistreat you. Do not become sub-servant to him. He would have strangle hold on you. |
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Yvonne A
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honey there are more guys out there than just him get out there and find them |
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Empathy
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"but i kept begging so much... i pushed him away by me begging so much, he got mad, called me a psycho, i didnt want to loose him... he just wants to be single and have fun not be in a serious relationship... looks at me alot... my friends tell me not to"
Do you ever listen to anybody but what you want? Your friends tell you no, HE tells you no, he tells you he wants to be SINGLE, so you need to listen!! Also, there is one reason a guy who wants to be "single and have fun" would look at a girl alot, and it's not because he's picturing a committed ever-after! You're starting to sound like the guys on these blog: http://www.psychoticlettersfrommen.blogspot.com/
Basically think of all the happiness you could have not giving this guy one more ounce of your energy (which he doesn't deserve anyway) and finding love with someone that might actually be INTO you. We do choose who we love, it's part of growing up. If someone has absolutely nothing for us, doesn't care for us, we move on. It's called self-respect, and when we respect ourselves, others can too. Instead of using you, this guy is telling you straight up he's not interested. You need to go find someone who is, and stop being infatuated and clingy. Big world out there... lots of guys... some who will want you... why waste your precious time on this guy?
And trust me, if he's turning 23, I really doubt he's done so much in his life that there just can't be a better man out there for you... respect yourself and only go with guys that adore you. Guys that put you down, reject you, or treat you badly are toxic for your mental and physical health. Good luck. |
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lovemystinker87
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LOL get over it! Myspace is the only way huh? How old are you?! He doesn't want you let him enjoy his bday in peace. If he wants u back he'll call. Otherwise grow up |
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Niki B
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just call him to talk not about getting back together just to talk as a friend and say happy b-day |
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Raven
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