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KANGA
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Do you know this my husband is 10 years older you are supposed to feel as young as the woman you feel. Think yourself lucky she chose to be with you and stop feeling like your over the hill - she will get bored if you don't try hard to keep up a little!!! Treat her like you just met and everything will work out fine! |
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lcamel2000
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So, what is your problem? Sounds to me like it is your wife with the problem. She has children and a husband, and those should be her top priority. If she wants to go to the clubs all the time, then that doesn't mean there is anything wrong with YOU.
Your age difference isn't all that much, so don't say that that is the problem. The problem is that SHE is wanting to sow some wild oats, when she made a committment to you, and she has the responsibility of children. |
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unknown2u
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Sometimes that is the price you pay when you marry someone who is so much younger than you. If you were either closer to her age or you enjoyed going out clubbing as much as she does then it would not be a problem. If she wants to go out all the time especially without you then she should probably be set free. Not a good role model if she is out all the time and not taking care of the kids. If you really love her then you need to think about whether you are willing to accept her going out all the time to the clubs. Good luck. |
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sarah67789
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Well if you think your over the hill....your going to show body language that you are over the hill!
A Few months ago my Mother was diagnosed with a Grade 4 Brain Tumor, she is 62 years of age and everylast breath of her wishes she had a few years left of living but she hasent.
What im trying to say is live life to the fullest, because you never know whats round the corner, and dont worry about insignificant things like this......... |
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April
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Hon, at 44 you ought not to be digging a hole and crawling in it. In your place I'd be seeing a doc to find out why my energy level was so low. And, I'd recommend a few books to you, all of them written by a guy called Andrew Weil, MD. He's no dummy, a Harvard Med School grad. Your diet may well be part of your problem. I am no herbal health nut guru, and no dummy, but buy some of his things, and read. He's quite well thought of, makes no wild stupid claims, or any of the rest of the crap you read. |
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Mandi
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Well if you really love her, then age doesnt matter. Your only a couple years older, I've seen 40 year olds with 20 year olds. Now thats kinda creepy. But if you two really love one another, age won't matter and she wont leave you. |
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Tally
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Oh, come on. I'm 35 and my hubby is 44. If your wife would be out clubbing all the time like you said, something would be wrong in your marriage. When you get married, you don't go out as much as you used to, things change. You sound like you are having a pity party for yourself. It's ok, just realize wifey loves you and maybe would should talk with her about your feelings and let her reassure you that you are fine. Even thought you are SO much older. :) Just kidding. |
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twinsters
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over the hill at 44 what are you, get a life and enjoy at least one fantastic day, set aside a romantic evening it will only cost a few quid , get the children to bed early have some romance for a change ,she soon wont want to go out all the time, make being in fun,,, |
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jet-set
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I think it's your wife who has the problem, not you. It's nice to go clubbing now and then, but with young children at home, it's not practical is it? Make a deal with her, go once a month. |
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stephanie
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I am 24 and my husband is 35. Sometimes the age difference may cause a argument, but just remember the reason why you fell in love and got married in the first place. Talk to your wife about the way you feel and maybe even go out to the club with her, you are only as old as you feel. |
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suzlaa1971
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Interesting! I'm in a relationship where my boyfriend and I are nine years apart and I love it! He's "been there and done that" and he sometimes feels like he's over the hill, but really, neither of you are. He's your age and I'm 35. Maybe your wife is immature for her age if she feels or you feel she would go out clubbing all of the time. I don't club anymore because that gets old =) Like I said, it depends on her maturity level and what you both really want out of your marriage. I can't imagine being with out the man I'm with now; we don't live together or anything; but will be next year =) Best wishes!!!! |
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Ella
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This is the unforseen side effect of marrying someone who is not really in your age bracket. Of course she will want to go out and do things people of HER age enjoy.
Are you afraid she might meet a younger man. Or is it that you are afraid that she might get off with another woman at these night clubs. I'm a bi female and I can say that there is often a lot of action that goes on between women when the drink is flowing and the atmosphere is right...... |
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big H
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get a life my friend, good god man your only a kid yourself, i,m 58 my missus is 24, yea you might say disgusting but we very happy and dont care what people think,talk share adjust to each other. we take each day as it comes and enjoy it. ps she got the good job earns twice as much as me, and is very attractive. thankyou god[if there is one] |
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bibus75
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stick around and show interest in her needs in bed and outside of it and you will be fine. |
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smecky809042003
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A fourteen-year age difference shouldn't be that big a deal between to mature people. There are plenty of women in their forties who are hot-to-trot and it has nothing to do with their age. You still have whatever it was that attracted her to you, play it up man and don't let yourself go. Do the stuff you did before you got married and do not get dull; she will think you have lost interest in her and WILL think about stepping out. Fuel the flame, man! |
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Tiss
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She sounds a bit immature. At 30, married and a mother, she should be done with the clubbing. You're not over the hill, you are a normal dad. Don't leave her, because then she would be out clubbing, while the kids are with a babysitter. |
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loulu
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I just turned 31 and my hubby will be 45 in July. Lately I have been hanging out with friends more and as a result drinking a little more. However these are moms of my daughter's friends and we have just really clicked and I truly enjoy spending time with them because our lives are similar. We don't go clubbing but usually to dinner and have a few drinks. I always invite him and sometimes he goes, but more often, does not. Does she have new friends? Before assuming the worst, look at the big picture......there is NOTHING out there that beats the hubby I have, and your wife likely feels the same way! |
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BabeHeart
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I didn't see a question in there, but assume you'd like some feedback or you wouldn't have posted (remember this is Yahoo! Answers though, so we're supposed to be responding to Questions) ☺
Perhaps it's time for you to see a doc and find out why you think 44 is "over the hill". I'm 42 and I'm FAR from being over the hill. If you feel worn-out and useless then you either need some medical or emotional attention.
I know plenty of people in their 40s and 50s who are more active and vital than some 20-somethings.
Get busy being the person you want to be...and if your wife hasn't expressed a desire to leave you or that you aren't fun anymore, then drop the "better off without me" idea. Be the kind of person you'd enjoy hanging out with! |
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bluelitttt
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my wife is 12 yeaars my younger, it changes as she gets older, i mean to the better
hang in there |
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NLH823
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She's 30 not 21. And if you have children with her? She needs to grow up and take responsibility. But if she is unhappy with the relationship don't force it. You need to be honest with her and let her know how you feel. |
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Krystal
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you should talk with your wife, maybe you can start to go out together, my husband and I are 14 years apart too, you sound like a good husband and dad so don't let it make you feel bad about yourself and just because you don't want to go out clubbing doesn't mean you are over the hill, don't be so hard on yourself! |
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bernie o
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Hi as a 32 yr old wife myself with kids i found over the last 3 yrs I've really settled down before all i wanted was to be out clubbing she'll get sick of all that soon so don't give in. |
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zeke58
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you're only as old as you act and feel.
take a night every week or two weeks and just go out with her and make her happy. Even if you are tired or dont want to, just do it and you wont be thinking that she'd be better off without you.
try exercise and proper dieting also to stay in shape and increase your energy levels. |
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sally w
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their is a 16 year age gap between my husband and me i am 25 and he is 41 we still go out together but also apart you cant go every where together if you want my advise let her go out with her friends and you go out with yours then all meet up later. go to a club with her see how you feel about it then if you don't like it you can leave just check she can afford a cab home that shows that you trust her and she will see you care |
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My 2 Cents
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I have a friend who married a older man, she Love's him deeply, but when he wants to lay around she often go's out with me and her friends to chick flicks and shopping and stuff, it work's out great they are very happy sometimes people need room ,(but i would go with her to the clubs) also the take time for each other, |
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tinyblondie23
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If you love her and she loves you, the age difference doesn't matter. Talk to her about your feelings. She probably feels the same way. |
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truebrit
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iam 24 and my husband is 37 and we dont have alot in common but we idolise each other and trust each other with our lives age shouldnt matter |
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panalwayscute
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You should really sit down and talk to her......afterall she's already 30.....old enough to be much more sensible...... |
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