If I lose 100 lbs, will girls still see me as a big guy?

Julia S

Lose weight or build muscle mass? I think muscle mass would be better and more attractive. If you just lose 100 lbs of fat you'ld look sick and maybe look malnourished. But if you really desire to look "thin" then you could continue your routine even though i think it is unhealthy and include a tea or a pill that makes you go. (colon cleansers supposedly makes you lose ten lbs in waste)

I think if you focused on firming you'ld look healthy and not "teddy bearish". As for your height you will always be considered tall.

missmojo78

It's really sad that you keep posting this over and over when everyone says you look good. You should seek therapy. Seriously, you are going to end up with an eating disorder.

Kilroy Roboto

I've seen you complain about your "teddy bear" physique before... I think you have issues that a diet won't help. I think your issues are related more to your perception that others expect you to protect them and you don't want that responsibility. Perhaps you should work on that.

Kaya

100 lbs? Are you serious? Because if you are, please seek psychological help. I am not being facetious.

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meriholland16

what are you even talking about? you're dope...if you were any skinny you'd be one of those tall gangly lookin guys...NASTY

you've got mental issues okay? you're saying you don't care if you look horrible? well you will when no one even considers you as cute or good looking anymore...you want to be known as "manerexic"...you need phsycological help my friend

maybe you're body type is just meant to be big...

Forever Grateful, Never Dead

Aw thats sad that you dont like how you are now. You are quite cute. :)

Patricia B

100 lbs is a little extreme. You're tall so they are going to see you as big in that sense.

Check your BMI and you can figure out how much you should weigh.

http://www.mayoclinic.com/health/bmi-calculator/NU00597

donAz

but, u look great, why losing, think about it

J.A.

Dude, don't lose 100lbs, that's a great goal, but 145lbs for 6'3'' is kinda under average. I'm 6' 185lbs and I am in shape, I would say that 190-200lbs would be average for a 6'3'' guy.

jmd72inva

why lose the "teddy bear" appeal?? Be healthy, but at your height, 145 pounds is NOT enough weight.

Personally...I have always loved the teddy bears and I move away from the skinny guys.

Gizmo

At 6 Ft 3 inches 145 would be WAY too skinny. I would say that at the most you want to get down to about 200-215 lbs and tone yourself up. My roommate is 6' 1" and about 190 Lbs. and he is not a "big guy" he's built and toned, but still slim looking. Skinny is not attractive at all on guys. I think guys built like soccer players or slimmer quarterbacks are the most attractive bodywise. Neither one of these constitutes as skinny, just slim, toned and in shape.

Camey

FIRST OF ALL I THINK YOUR HOT THE WAY YOU ARE AND FURTHERMORE IF YOU WANT TO LOSE WEIGHT YOU CAN SEE GO AWAY FAST STOP EATING PORK COMPLETLY...I LOST OVER 50 LBS FOUR MONTHS

Red Letter

I have seen you ask a few questions about this issue, and I am finally getting around to answering you. It's not so important how other people see you. What is more important is how you see yourself. And from the way it appears, you do not like who/what you see. You want to be something that you are not. This mindset is what women will find the least attractive about you. This is bigger than weight, ugliness, or even a bad scar. Before anyone can accept you and love you, you first have to accept and love yourself just the way you are. Sure it's good to watch what you eat, exercise regularly, and get into better shape. But that is something you should do to fine-tune the person that you already like. I strongly encourage you to put the greatest effort into improving your self image, and let the extreme diet and exercise come as second priority.

And since you have not sought out medical advice on your diet plan, I'll just tell you. 800 calories per day is an ineffective way to lose weight. Your body requires at least 1300 calories per day to function properly. If you give it less, it will go into a starvation mode. This starvation mode will cause it to take the little food that you do eat and store it away as fat. It's like an emergency panic thing. Your body freaks out and starts thinking that it may not get fed again anytime soon, so it saves up food rather than using it more efficiently. Also, in starvation mode, your body will seek the nourishment it needs even if it has to eat itself. Your muscle tissue is easier to break down than fat, so your body will attack that first. You will notice weight loss because your muscles are deteriorating, but some of this mass will be replaced by fat. Then when you reach your weight/size goal and end your diet, you will really be in a big mess. You will find it much more difficult to lose weight and keep it off. Your muscles are the calorie burners, and the less muscle you have, the less fat you will be able to burn.

My suggestion is to get on an exercise program that involves walking. The more time you spend walking, the more fat you will burn. Your legs have the biggest muscles in your body which will burn the most calories. Working them harder or faster will not increase the fat burn. It is the comfortable pace for a length of time that will do the job.

And as for your diet, counting calories is ok, but you have to make sure you get enough of them. You can easily consume 800 calories in 1 or 2 meals. What you want to do is take at least 1300 calories and spread them out into at least 4 small meals. You want to eat something early in the day to get your metabolism started and make sure you get enough carbohydrates in order to supply your body with the energy it needs to keep you going.

Looking better will help some to make you feel better about your appearance. But feeling better physically will also work wonders. You can do both at the same time if you take the right approach.

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Why do u wanna lose weight and why so much?I say if u lose weight at the most go towards 200 because u look like an average guy so i suggest that u dont lose to much weight or the chicks will think you're trying too hard.

Seth..

Dude you should only lose weight like that for health reasons, not to make some chick like you.

However if you're unhappy with your weight then speak to a dietician before you diet and get proper advice from them, cause I think crash dieting and losing a whole lot of weight at once can be bad for your health.

krissy

coming from a girl i think you look great but instead of 100lb. try 45 because the average weight of a man is between 200lb-250lb

Dr. Igor

First I'll address your diet, then your question.

At 6' 3", 145# would be dangerously underweight. Depending on your frame and musculature, a more realistic goal would be somewhere between 180# and 200#.
Also, that 800 calorie a day diet could be dangerous. Most doctors will suggest a diet of no less than 1600 calories a day for aggressive weight loss. Also fasting like this will ten d to force your body to adjust to that low caloric intake so that when you've reached your target, and try to eat a comfortable amount, you'll regain a lot of that weight quickly.

Now as to how girls will view you. It's hard to change deep set opinions. girls that already know you will likely still view you as "a big teddy bear" for quite some even once you are thin. New acquaintances, however will view you as you are when they meet you.

Mrs.BeenThereTwice

"I don't care if I look horrible, i don't care if people see me as wimpy....I just want to erase who I am right now."

Based upon this statement, I would say there is a LOT MORE going on than just your weight and/or height issues. You're right, there are plently of girls that are very attracted to guys your size (I know, I am one of them) but you cannot "erase" who you are by losing weight. I would rather date someone bigger than to date someone that threw caution to the wind to lose weight, with the possibility that you may gain it back plus some, and look terrible!

I think you need to look into changing what's inside before changing the outside...and I say that kindly! :0)

smittenkitten

hey- you would definitely not be seen as "the big guy" if you lose that weight. I would make sure that you are seen by a Dr. though if you want to cut your calories that much. You don't want your body to go into "starvation mode" which actually prevents you from losing weight quickly. And you are right, how you feel about and View yourself is what is important. I'm losing weight because I feel better that way. Good for you, and Good luck - would love to see what you look like afterwords!

dingding

100 lbs. is too much, you will look sickly and you'll be very unhealthy. But 170-180 would be a good weight for you. You will still be tall (I am too) but you'll be proportional and not at all teddy-bearish. I would recommend a lower-carb diet for you. Men do well on these plans because you are far less likely to feel hungry. Focus on lean meats and lots of veggies. Soups are a good choice too. Keep your carbs between 60-100g a day and you'll lose 2-3 lbs. a week at first, then that will taper down to 1-2 lbs. a week. You'll be looking great by summer!

kolie metz

You may always be seen as a big guy. Some times it is not just size that makes you big, but attitude as well. I am a big girl, but it is not just my size. People actually think I am taller than I am. You may need to find a better class of woman who is not LOOKING for someone to "take care of her" or "be her protector". Sometimes the changes needed are as much internal as external. I used to date "big guys".... I am dating a guy now who is 6'4 and 200 pounds. He is not extremely muscular or fat at ALL. I do not find him a big guy, but some of our friends do. In fact, I forget that he is a FOOT taller than me until I am standing directly in front of him.

Lose weight for health reasons, if you have them, but I think that trying to escape being thought of as a STRONG male figure is not a good reason. Sounds like you will still be the "Big Buy" even if you lose weight as long as you keep dating the same type.

Have a great weekend!

Mickey.Slick

eating only 800 calories, you're only going to screw yourself over. you're going to go into starvation mode extreamly quickly and then you will not lose weight, because everything you DO eat, will just be retained by your body because it thinks its not going to get what it needs, so it will not burn off the calories correctly. what you WILL burn, is muscle and eventually internal orgrans will start breaking down.

at 6'3, a healthy weight would be around 180ish if you still want to be skinny skinny. just look at it like this, i'm 5'6 144lbs and on my weight loss plan, i'm supposed to eat between 1220-1500 calories a day. for men its more automatically since your bodies dont hold on to fat as much as the female body does.

and remember. if you DO do a severealy drastic weight loss scheme, as soon as you stop you WILL gain it all back plus some as your body is beyond confused and will just take evrything it can (ever heard of yo-yo dieting?)

do it smart and do it safely. its safe to lose 1-2lbs a week. it wont send your body into shock. and remember, you didnt gain all the weight over night, and its going to take some time to get it to drop off. its nature. you cant screw with it.

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I honestly think you look great the way you are. You do not look Teddy Bearish or pudgy to me and I have no reason to lie. However, if you want to change the composition of your body I think you should consult with a personal trainer. Your weekly weight loss goals and caloric intake sound unrealistic to me.

cas

I know you said you don't care if girls like big guys, but I am one of those girls. I hate when guys are too skinny, it's gross. Plus, I'm sure you're fine the way you are. Lose a little weight to be more healthy if you want, but don't eat 800 calories a day. In fact, eating less and less will make you gain weight. By eating less calories, your body doesn't use its metabolism as much to burn off your food. So, sure eating 800 calories a day (which has got to be 2 bowls a cereal and a granola bar) will make you lose weight, but the second you eat an actual meal for the first time, your metabolism (which has been sitting around not burning off any food) will be so slow and so weak, that it won't even know how to burn off that actual meal you finally ate once your diet was over with. A good way for a man of your height and weight is to eat at least 1000/1500 calories a day, cardio for at least an hour, and yoga/pilate's (which really makes you lose inches.) If your dieting to construct your appearance, than that's ok, but don't become obsessed and only want to do if for girls. That's never a good way to diet. Please be safe and do it the right way. You could really hurt yourself and that wouldn't get you anywhere.

Jason L

no, 100 pounds is a lot..

Tiny Clanger

Not all girls are shallow. As cliche as it sounds, there will be a girl you will find that will love you exactly how you are and you wont have to care about what people think about you. You seem to be making yourself out to be like really huge, I mean, I saw your photos and definitely didn't see what you were coming across as. The reason your weight may be as big as it is, is because of your height, the taller you are, the more of your there is, bigger bones, muscles, all those add up to the weight.....
About the diet. I think trying the 800 calories a day is a bad bad idea. You are starving yourself of energy. You need 2500 calories a day to get sufficient energy to get you through the day. Stick to 2500 and burn them off via exercise. That is the best way to lose weight, im really not just saying it. If you don't eat enough food, your body will store fat to compensate and that will very slowly get burned off, when that is burned off, the muscles start going too. It really is a bad idea if you thnk not eating much will help. Eats lots of veg, fish and protein and drink lots and lots of water, keep up the exercise and you could easily burn off 4, maybe more calories a week.

Jenna Z

Ok, hopefully you'll read this in full lol. If you want to lose the weight this is fine (even though I frankly think you look hot and not at all teddy bearish), HOWEVER there are restrictions there. I do not think you physically can lose 100 punds considering your height. I would sat shoot for 60, it is more realistic. Each height has it's own weight niche and for a 6;3" guy it starts at 170 pounds I believe. You might turn out scrawny but there is still no way you'll be at 140 without totally starving yourself and looking like a victim of holocaust. I hope you'll take this in consideration and won't get too depressed if you won't achieve 145

skatesforcandy328

6 inches seriously!?! that'd put you down at 5'9 with me. i have no problem with my height but why go shorter? Anyway dude your talking about starving yourself to become someone your not. No bueno my friend its unhealthy for you in both physical and mental terms. Here's what you should do. Diet and exercise healthily, hit the gym to build lean tone muscles and not mass. RUN MY FRIEND, or do some sort of sport that requires running. This will pretty much make you as small as you can possibly go without being unhealthy.

Dude your a big guy thats just how it is, All the girls you've dated haven't really known you and that could be your fault. Maybe you need to more clearly define yourself to them before. You can probably lean out quite abit but you'll always be a tall man. 145 is like anorexic for you you would die, i'd say just above 200 would be good for you, you could maybe lose more but it'd get unhealthy.

what the hell is that like a possum? its tail is so creepy, other then that it's maybe cute?

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