If I was with a man who did not want children. I would go out and get pregnant?

Lily

Well that certainly makes for a happy child. Evidently it is all about you and no one else.

Robert

Than I would hope he would chose the door. I don't know of any man that would want to be with a person like you for more than a few minutes.

Spring

Thanks for showing what's wrong with the world now a days.

Ali A

Not really a question is it???

Not a nice way to bring a child into the world.

shaneyboy

idiot.

diamonds

then dont go out with somebody who doesnt want children...use your brains for christ's sake!!

morgan

I'm glad your not with me

Gem*

Where is the question?

laffytaffy

why dont you just leave him and marry someone who DOES want children. that way you can raise a child in a loving environment....where both parents want and love him/her.

Jersey Boy

Fiona, you are definitely not ready for marriage.Marriage is about trust, commitment and fidelity.

In your statement your have not shown you are capable of any of these.

Good luck.

kurts99ford

WOW, glad I am not married to you!

SO, did you have a question?

Jeff D

It should be illegal to pass on your genes. Don't polute society.

runninfool

You're obviously not that bright, but you've got some spunk!
If you really want a shot at being happy without making everybody else around you miserable in the process, look for a guy that wants a family to settle down with.
I'm not saying that you can't raise a child on your own, but it would be much more enjoyable for your child to have a dad actively participating in the entire process.
So at least wait for your child's sake, if not for your own!
Good luck!

Jessica H

And you expect him to stay? He has made it clear that he doesnt.

pappysgotitgoinon

There is real marriage matterial !!!!!!!!!
Now I understand why all those men are lined up at your door just begging to be with you!

kyliekissesx

You would think that this big topic would have come up before marriage. Why did you marry him if you knew he didn't want kids knowing you definitely did? You have to keep other people's feelings in mind. Think of what this would do to your potential child.

lda915

Why are you with a man who doesn't want children and you do? It sounds like you need to grow up before trying to raise a child.

sarah W

you are so not ready for marriage. "Its my body and no one tells me!" you sound like a child. when you marry someone you should have already discussed this once your married its not just your life its the life you share. In regards to children then its three lives not just you princess. If children are a deal breaker for you you dont get married to someone that doesnt want them end of story. love honor obey its what you commit to on your wedding day

With this approach to life, you are only setting yourself for rejection and hurt.
You seem to think that standing up for oneself is to be able to do whatever the heck you want, but it's not true.
When people do that, it's Anarchy. That's why there are rules in place, to make sure people can live with each other; respect each other.
Being one's own person, is making one's own decision based on one's own belief; It's also taking responsibility for oneself and when being in charge, for others. it's not disregarding others and their wish. But it's being able to see for oneself what's right and wrong.
This attitude, will not lead you to happiness.
On the contrary.
If you say to someone that you love them, you'd have to not only say it, but mean it and show it, by talking to them, listening to them, and be ready to make compromises.
Love is not selfish.
Nobody never ever does what they want, not entirely.
Whether you want it or not, you have to take into account what others think, how your actions might affect others.
If you marry someone, the chances are, having children is a subject you would have talked about and agreed about.
If later on, you want some more when your husband doesn't and you still go ahead, then it is disrespectful and selfish.
At least, finish the relationship and do as you please, but you couldn't just go get pregnant and impose your unwanted child to your husband.
What do you expect the life would hold for that poor creature to come in a family where people are torn over its birth?
Your approach on life is lacking in maturity and sensibility.
You seem to be full of anger and resentment.
Try anger management and maybe, speak to a counsellor.

Gun Dream

No, no, the door is open for you, you're the one who's not happy. If you plan on having a baby with someone else and not letting your man know, then you are low. If you are planning on him being a part of this baby, I don't think he will be, since he doesn't want children of his own, so chances are he won't care much for other man's children. I think your proud attitude reveals justification on your behalf. Just be honest and let him go.

Kitty

What?

Nandina (Bunny Slipper Goddess)

Then let's hope you never get married, because marriage is a PARTNERSHIP, sweetie.

And if you're this selfish and self-centered, I really hope you never have kids, because being a parent is about SACRIFICE and it sure sounds like you have no clue what it means.

Edited - I went and re-read some of your earlier questions. If you're not a troll (and making all this up), then thank goodness they took your kids. You sound like a real winner and your ex and the kids are better off without you in their lives.

mysty_1969

Why was this not discussed before you were married. If you want to have children so bad why did you marry someone who does not want children. It seems to me that would have been one of the first things to discuss. Yes, you can go out and get pregnant, but that is cheating, and no doubt your husband will leave you. It seems to me if your marriage has reached this point you should end it, and then find a man who wants children and establish a relationship with him. It is your body and you can do as you please with it, but if you continue with that attitude you are setting yourself up for all kinds of problems, and will have a child who does not have much future to look forward to. Since no one can tell you what to do, why are you here asking a question? Go do what you want and see what kind of life you create for yourself and any children you may, unfortunately, have - it's your life, but once you have a child it will no longer be your life to do as you please because you will now have a child.

angel.lady

I hate to ask but WHAT is the question?

rosei16

We women sure do have all the glory huh? We can get pregnant, without the consent of our spouse/bf, and MAKE him become a father. We can abort, as our lesiure, and do just whatever we selfishly come up with.

You're a disgrace. This is terrible, and more like the rantings of a 13 y/o child than a woman mature enough to handle the responsibilities of motherhood. There is no question here either, btw. I'm sure your far enough along in your development to know how to form a question.

I read here once about a husband who had a vasectomy without his wife's knowledge. She was crushed, because though they'd said no more children, she was entertaining the idea and his snip ruined her selfish lil plot. I felt he was well within his rights, after all reproductive rights should also be afforded to men, as they help conceive.

sad sad sad, people so selfish they would bring a child into the world in this way and for this purpose.

BlueBolt

Sensing some very bad vibes from you, wots with all the me me, me? Why you got to have some strangers baby? Wot you gunna tell your kid when it grows up?- Don't think you've thought this through have you?

No_Imagination

If your going to get pregnant when he doesn't want a child, and then throw him out. Why not leave him first and find someone who does want children, then you'll be a happy family not a broken selfish one.

melanie_lanc

why did you marry somebody who didn't want kids in the first place? have you tried to understand why? finance? commitment? noise? security? etc...

I would not force a man to have kids if he doesn't like the idea, unless you want to risk your relationship.

awon_eleyi_intl

That My dear, is very self-centered.
That is the sole thing that does not let relationships work.
Dont do it.
You said" you'll go out and get pregnant", there's better way to put it..." You'll go cheat on him and sleep around", does that help you put things in perspective?
If you dont want to listen to anybody tell you what to do...stay away from relationships.
If you guys arent married and the child thingy is an issue...talk about it and if it cant be resolved...you guys should break up b4 you 'go get some".
If you are...you NEED counselling. what are his fears exactly? you guys should just address them TOGETHER

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