If a girl that your hubby works with flirts with your man, what should you do?

We Love MinPins

You should ask you Husband to slowly stop aquainting with her, and you should totally stop too. No more trips to get your nails done with her, or anything like that... Its like your sending mixed messages. She will only get closer to you and your husband if you continue to befriend her. Hopefully she will get the point and back off too.
Another thing, you said something about some lotion, Number 1 she should not be touching him, she knew what she was doing when she made that physical contact. You need to be very alert, these women are ********, and they will manage to come between marriages. Just keep your cool, and dont obsessively question your husband, He should know right from wrong.

Hope this helps!
*Isa

alwayscurious

Honey, be realistic, if he HATED it, why did he let her do it, did she hog tie him down? He likes the attention, he just ain't gonna let you know it. You may be in for some trouble. He needs to tell her to back off, not you.

mommie_29801

if he doesn't like it he needs to tell her to leave him alone

olderbutwiser

Have HIM put an end to it!.....YESTERDAY!!

Just me.

Your hubby should "speak up" and not allow her to do that stuff !

presleygirl

tell her to keep her hands off him, why doesn't he tell her that?

cs_ds_02

You shouldn't do anything, he needs to handle the situation. He needs to tell her(nicely but FIRMLY) that he isn't interested in her outside of a professional working relationship and that her touching him in any personal way is unappropriate.

Thomas

In this case, your husband should talk to her about her flirting. Also, about rubbing lotion on his neck. that he can put lotion on his own neck and if he can't do it, then his wife will do it for him.

He is the one need to set this lady straight.

Katrina

In my book, the lotion thing is definitely over the harmless office flirtation line. It seems that if he didn't like it, HE really ought to be the one to talk to her! If he won't, however, I would say something - not much, but enough to let her know that he told you and you don't approve!

Alone again

I know you probably do trust your man and that is good, but he should have never let her get close enough to rub that lotion on his back. He needs to back her off! If he wants to back her off he needs to speak up. If he continues to encourage her, you can't do anything about it really.

Goodspeed

This is an issue your hubby needs to keep under control, you can do all you want but she won't listen unless it comes from him.

Janice 10

I agree your husband needs to tell her to back off and leave him alone HE IS A MARRIED MAN! She has some nerve thinking she will hit on a married man! Her character can't be trusted! You could also show up looking georous at a office party and make it quite obvious you are married and he is your husband! In front of her. Best Wishes!

spun_down

ask hime if he missed the memo

Hell has no fury like a woman scorned
Hell has no fury like a woman scorned
Hell has no fury like a woman scorned
Hell has no fury like a woman scorned
Hell has no fury like a woman scorned
Hell has no fury like a woman scorned
Hell has no fury like a woman scorned
Hell has no fury like a woman scorned

Pythagoras

There are billions of women out there and you can't confront every single one of them. However, you have one husband, and can make it clear that you won't tolerate it from him.

My wife and I had a similar experience in our marriage (no lotion), and she got her point across in a way that left no doubt in my mind where she stood on the issue. But she was tactful about it, also.

TrofyWife

She didnt just rub lotion on his neck, he allowed her to rub the lotion on his neck. He didnt hate it but he dosent want you to be jelous and nag him about her every time her gets off work. He showed you lack of consideration when he let her do that. Im not insinuating he would take it further, but thats already crossing the line. Instead of talking to her, because she dosnet care what you have to say anyway, and actually, Im sure your husband already knows what your thinking but tell him again anyways. Tell him what you think about it and the things that make you feel disrespected. Everyone can make one screw up but after that he's supposed to realize where he belongs and whos hands belong where. He also needs to decide what matters most. His marriage or this other fluzey.

rachel m

i think he should tell her to back off and that he is happy they are friends,and that they are just friends,,and that is all wants to be

Lindsey

No it is not right that the girl is throwing herself around at your husband! It would make me very angry. I would do this.......sit your husband down and have a very serious conversation with him. Tell him you are very uncomfortable with this womans actions. Tell him that it is up to him to put a stop to her behavior, and he has the power to put an end to it. He could ignore her and give her the mesage that he doesn't like her and say my wife would not be happy with you messing around with me like this. He could include the lotion incident telling her that my wife knows what you did and she is not happy with you. He needs to put her in her place! He is better to make her angry than you. Tell him to tell her that you said if she puts her hands on you one more time she is going to come up to workand slap them for you.....she doen't like it and really he could say neither do I so please quit will you. I would not trust her and she could be out for him. Tell your husband to be carefull of her and you will not tolerate anything if something ever happened. You never know he could be enjoying her flirting with him like that! She seems nice but you really don't know her. Tell him it is none of his bussiness about her personal life and problems and you don't want him caught up in it in anyway. Sometimes affairs start up this way and it doesn't matter if you have a great relationship.....because if she plays on him enough and she pushes him in a corner with no way out he could fall into her temptation. Most women dealing with a husband that has cheated always say it was not in his character. Men are strange like that I don't know why they just are! Keep an eye on this situation and make sure you end it before anythig could start. Best Wishes.

netta

I would have to tell her to stop touching my man he don't like it and i don't either you don't have to be nasty but say it in a way that she will know your not playing

baby balla

just atlk to her let her no your point of veiw and if she contiues talk to him abiut it, and finally if it still continues then beat her a**

*Miss C*

shoot her. Gimme my man ***** lol no im jk i dunno....tell ur husband to talk to her

Nena S

Perhaps both your husband and you should talk to her...

And tell her that although you know ((wink)) she doesn't mean any wrongdoing, this action of rubbing his neck didn't seem appropiate. So if she could limit her contact to her job and make it 100% professional-only , you would appreciate it.

OH...And if she even thinks of doing something similar again, you will hire someone to slash her tires..! ((Double wink))

Italia 28

First of all if this is there place of business why is she rubbing anything on him, does she not get paid to do a job? Is her job there the company masseus, I think not? A few things need to take place I am sure your "hubby" is a fabulous guy, but the fact remains he is male and males like lady attention, it can be innocent, as you say, but they still like it, so he needs to tell her a friendship is fine but she can not cross the lines with excessive flirting and touching. There should be a NO touching policy at the least.

In my opinion this is his job to take care of out of respect for you it has nothing to do with jealousy or insecurity it is basic respect she and he should have for you. She obviously doesn't so he needs to set her straight. If he doesn't do this I would maybe question him as to why, and take care of her yourself. Explain to her that she is a sweet gal but he is your husband and you find her flirting disrespectful and leave it at that. But again I say if he hated the neck rub, why did he let her do it? Even if he stopped it that was his out to tell her she needs to know the boundaries.

cheeky_beth_62

I was once in a similar situation and I telephoned the Director of the organisation. I placed my grievance in writing and submitted it by email.

Let his boss know what she is doing to him. It doesn't matter if you know her or not - I did not know this woman, but she soon knew me because I called her right before I sent the email. I told her she should expect to be disciplined by her Director - and she was.

Be brave!

Sara B

Your husband should set boundaries, including not being friends with her if she crosses his boundaries. I would be worried if I were you because he doesn't set them or he is afraid to, or may not admit he doesn't want to. We'll give him the benefit of the doubt and assume that he actually hated her rubbing lotion on him. If this is the case, he should tell her to stop. It isn't right for something that intimate to occur between two people that are married to other people.

She may be stirring up trouble because she is troubled. I wouldn't trust your husband around her. It isn't your place to tell her because she might make you feel even worse. If you want a solution and not a lot of drama, then talk to your husband and make it perfectly clear that you are not happy that he let her get that close and if he lets it happen again he will have to face your anger. Make him accountable, he isn't innocent in all of this. I do appreciate you wanting to give him the benefit of the doubt, though. It shows a lot of moral character and strength on your part, but don't be blind.

dawnb

If your husband is all you claim then he has to be the one who tells this woman to back off and he better step up fast. That woman is starting to work on him and he should know better. And by the way, she isn't nice.

smiley101

lotion on his nek, tell her to stay away

windwalker

it doesn't matter what she is doing what matters is how your husband is reacting to it.if your husband is faithful he's not going to put himself in a situation where something could happen.he should be the one telling her that she is crossing the line not you if it comes from you it will just sound like your a jealouse wife and being insecure.

dale

The situation depends on your hubby. Anything that this girl is doing will lead to nothing if your hubby will not tolerate and appreciate. You should give extra attention to him and dont change. Never nag him cause it may cause to something you will never like. Just be the best wife for him.

holeeycow

quietly talk to her, away from the office.

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