If after 14 years marriage you catch your wife cheating?

hammer

tell her to hit the road and don't bother asking for alimony because you'd win that case...

cheaters are the worst in my book.

vareeabull

I would get a divorce and make her life a living hell.

Radical Raven

Dump her ***.

Eric T

leave her

veronica b

damn that sux i would dump her a** once a cheater always a cheater

cireengineering

Dump her, take the kids, and leave her with nothing.

Sassy

I would leave her. I would explain to the 14 year old what their mother did, and leave the cheating wife. I would also sue for custody of the children in court.

thandal

The trust is gone in the relationship. Without trust the relationship can never last. If I caught my husband cheating in this same exact scenario I would divorce him.

TSI

man you divorce that sh!+. and make sure you get everything.

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Divorce

momof3

If I cared and still loved her.... I would ask what went wrong, how we could overcome..... if she responds that she no longer loves you, find someone who does...

lilyblue_2000

The children will be more effected than anyone. But find out if she wants to go with you to counseling. If not, time to end the marriage.

Honest Guy (Eire)

doesn't matter what you do mate, the wife will ultimately make the decision regarding your future , if she stays with you its because you must be a good provider ,its obvious you are going to stay with her , you're talking yourself into it by asking these questions and stating you have kids , what i would suggest you grow some baxxxxs and leave her to get on with her new man , tell her that you forgive her but will never trust her again because lets face it you will never and could never trust her again , so your relationship is doomed anyways

Jen

wow! that's tough

PainKiller

If I caught my husband cheating after that many years (or even now we have 2 kids and have been together for 7 years.)
Bye-bye obviously you don't love me. Kick him to the curb and file for divorce.

just_c0wb0y

THE SAME OLD ANSWERS , if you love em , get counseling , talk to em , all bull shyt , i suppose i would do just like i did , i would be the single father of a 4 and a 14 yr old , and she could damn well hope that the door didnt hit her in the azz on her way out , cause id slam it

Looking4answers

First off I am so sorry man... secondly LEAVE HER! Take the kids and everything you can! I hate people who cheat on their loved ones! You deserve better!

drc457

first leave her. Take your girls with you. Ask her if she's willing to seek counseling. She made her choices and acted upon them. Now you give her your choices. If she is unwilling to deal with the fallout she has caused. Then nothing will work out between the both of you. Move forward try get over her and the pain she's brought on to you and children. I'm going through this now with my wife. We have 4 kids. Unpleasant just doesn't come close does it ?

chrissyone

Well I know a couple who got over a cheating husband but it took MAJOR COUNSELING and for the guy to kiss her a** for a few years EVERY DAY and also-he always had to be available and account for every minute of his life for a few years and never get mad when the wife asked questions or expressed doubt and he had to buy her lots of presents and always tell her about his undying love for her and basically worship her STILL and it has been like 7 years now.. they are best friends again and still married and going well.

ANYTHING IS POSSIBLE...but the b*t*h better really love the guy and be willing to do all the stuff above and be a helluva good woman inside who just made a mistake. Otherwise, forget it and D - I -V -O - R - C - E.
It was gruesome, tho.

jimrich

I'd do whatever it takes to protect my children from crumby parents!

MiMi

Actually, I have been on the OTHER end of this. I was the cheating wife. I was SO miserable in my first marriage. They say "once a cheater always a cheater" but that's not so .. at least not in my case. What I did was wrong, terribly wrong. I could give you every excuse in the book but it was still wrong. I did not have any children involved in the marriage so it probably made it a little easier for us to split up. I was tired of a lot of things and wanted out of the marriage and went about it the wrong way. Physical and mental abuse from him contributed a lot. Honestly, I would say that you need to let her go. Maybe try marriage counseling first and see if there is a way you can rekindle but it will probably always be in the back of your mind. My now-ex and I tried several times to get back together but he told me that he just couldn't picture me without the other person. I didn't blame him, it was hard for both of us. Today, almost 10 years later, I am married, moved away from the area I was in and am involved in church and even do the Children's Story at our church with my husband. My ex even eventually forgave me and remarried (although I haven't spoken to him in several years). I know God has forgiven me too. The hardest part was forgiving myself. You will one day forgive her at least for the sake of your children. Above all, if divorce is inevitable, let your children know, in no uncertain terms, that you love them no matter what and that this was NOT their fault. They still need both parents. Good luck to you!

Ron Akia

I'd say that all of the other aspects of your marriage need to be taken into consideration.

I'd definitely make certain that she was aware of the fact that I'm on to her and go from there.

Overall, is the marriage worth saving otherwise?

rookgaroo

I feel for you, friend. If you still love each other and think you can make it work, I'd suggest counseling. Especially considering the kids. Good luck.

Rachel

give her a slap

stealth

THE KIDS COME FIRST .TAKE CARE OF YOUR KIDS FIRST THEN SEEK PROFES/HELP THAT DONT HELP SEPRATE THEN DEVORSE THEN TAKE THE KIDS AND GO.

Tee Tee

Is it worth giving her another chance? We all make mistakes and should be forgiven at some point. I do feel that going to counseling and church would be a great help for your relationship. I have been in your place. Good Luck to you, your children and your marriage.

â™¥Momma2MendoTwinsâ™¥

I would not continue the relationship. Once a cheater, always a cheater. (in my opinion). Life is too short to wonder every day if your partner is being faithful. Move on.

carrie s

Talk to her and find out WHY? Is she sorry? Is it a one time thing?
How's your marriage been? Relationships Can survive infidelity..but both partners have to acknowledge the problems and issues in the marriage. Maybe it was a one time screw up..I dont know. You have to decide how much you love her and if she loves you enough to not do it again. also dont stay with someone just for your children.

Lissy C

divorce or couseling

Genevieveâ™ªâ™¥

it depends on how long and what kind of cheating it was. Also, how sorry she is. in my opinion, i'd divorce her regardless, but everyone has a different idea. if she was cheating for a year or mored efinately yes. If she seemed really sorry, id consider no divorce. Also, who did you catch her with? someone you trusted?

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