If someone were to get married at a very young age, do you think it would last?

Lee

Hey Alma,

Anything is possible, and if they are genuinely committed to making the marriage last, maybe it will.

But what I've seen with people who got married young is that they didn't get a chance explore life, and to find out who they were as individuals before taking the plunge. They wound up divorced because

a) they wondered what they missed by getting marrying early, and wanted to be free to find out, or

b) they matured into people who just weren't right for each other.

Russian woman

She will get pregnant- 1-2 years and divorce. Always like that.

molly mallise

DEAR ALMA
I HAVE 2 FRIENDS WHO WHERE HIGH SCHOOL SWEETHEARTS THEY LIVED TOGETHER FOR 4YEARS BUT WHEN THEY FINELY MARRIED THEY ONLY LASTED A YEAR
BUT THERE MAYBE SOME OUT THERE WHO ARE STILL TOGETHER

Domino

My first marriage began at the age of 19...we were married until cancer took her away from me just a few months short of our 30th anniversary...Sure, we had some ups and downs as every marriage does but overall it was good. We had three beautiful children who've since grown up to be wonderful people...

What's most important is the amount of maturity in people. In marriage you have to be willing to sacrifice things. Everything isn't always going to go 'your way' and you have to be willing to accept that. When you get married you have to be in it for the long haul and be willing to do the 'work' required to keep the engine moving on down the track....

tannerlady

I was married at 17 years old and it lasted for 30 years, well actually am still married divorce has not gone through yet. Husband was having an affair with the company tramp was what caused the end of marriage. But yes some young marriages do work.

Melissa S

Depends on the people and the reason behind the marriage.

I know people that were high school sweethearts and are still happily married. Others don't last a year.

It all depends on them and how strong their love for each other is.

pat1268

married at 18 , still married 20 years later. It can work.

Sylvia H.

Alma, I got married at 17 and separated at 22 with two children and divorced at 23. We were together from the time we were 16, statistics say most teen marriages don't work, very few stay together but nowadays alot of ppl are divorcing at all ages. Alot of ppl have different issues they don't know how to deal with and this effects the family unit greatly. It all depends on the couple!

Robin N

It could last if they respect each other and are able to grow with each other over the years. What I mean by this is......the things we want at 20 will be different at 30 and then at 40 and so on. If the couple is able to accept these changes and support each other throughout these changes, they will stay together. That's just my opinion......

momof3

It has happened before... but realistically i think you need to explore life first single for a while...

xxxxi

It depends on the couple. I was married to my 'high school sweetheart' - we met in Grade 13 - and lasted 25 years - but that was about 10 years too long.

I found that we grew as people, emotionally and intellectually I became a totally different person in my 30's then the young woman he married at 20. He had difficulty accepting that growth and it put a lot of stress on our relationship.

I decided to end it after 25 years and it's been hard but everyone supports me and wondered what took me so long to do it.

I have encouraged my children to wait and take their time with relationships. My sons have done so but my daughter is in a serious relationship at a young age and that's scary to me. I know what it is like to feel love so strongly and think "this is it", take the leap and then regret it.

Have fun sorting out the answers!!

switchmistress

it could if they wanted it to work out, long time ago ppl married at a very young age and r still married 50 or 60 yrs..U never know what will happen

beaches

A young marriage can go the distance. I was 17 and my husband 16 when we married. We've been married for 32 years and he is my soul mate and best friend. Our marriage has not been an easy one as we both needed to grow up while being married. Then there is a time when your about late 30's and wonder if this is what you really want. If you can weather literally growing up together, overlooking some major mistakes because your young, and still maintain laughable, fun times together, and respect eachother's ideas and opinions then yes, young marriages can work and do work.

drewxjacobs

Anything is possible, of course. But I would say the odds are against it. With a 50% divorce rate, why compound the odds? Most people really haven't figured out what they are about until they have had a chance to mature. Wisdom comes with age. I married the first time at 21 and I feel I was clearly too young and ended up getting a divorce after about five years.

There is life after high school, believe me, and plenty of time to figure out what you want to do with your life. I would wait.

*~* Amber *~*

Honestly i could work..anything is possible if the love for one another is strong enough to keep them going. But they will have to work and overcome all the "drama" ahead in life

lilli

no because they havent exsperanced all the quiltys it a man/women

joyceeleann

Nope...

Pearl P

no it wont and I'm proof of it i married when i was 14 was married for 24 years when i got my divorce, we have 7 children, and he is still so stuck on him self it is down right ridiculous. he thinks the world owes him and is always asking the kids to do things for him,

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Hi Alma ...I am from Texas and I waited until I was 40 to get married..it OK to because you know by that time if the guy is right for you...There are so many people in this world rushing to get married and there is so much for a young person to explore today...Listen to your teacher and your parent's.They know what best..not the fella that want 's to marry you if he is in that big of a hurry then there must be something that he doesn't want to wait for

tinkerbell

That could be a yes or a no. My first marriage was when i was 19 . It lasted 9 month, not very long. I am now 33 and been in a relationship for 8 years and married for 5 of those.

natasha

Hi Alma! I got married the FIRST time at 19. So no. You go through so many changes when you're younger. Everything changes. You move away from home, maybe go to college, etc. You should wait til your about 25. Then you're in your groove you know. Usually you have a career going and you have settled somewhere you plan to stay for awhile. Just wait. (I am practically begging you) If its meant to be then waiting wont hurt. My first marriage only lasted 4 yrs and it was miserable.

Debi N

I read somewhere that a person really isn't an "adult" until they are about 25 or 26, when their decisions are more mature and not so juvenile, and are well thought-out and better.

I married when I was 19. It didn't last. However, when I married the second time, I decided that I would wait for a person who I felt would be good for me and good for him, and one who was my friend.

When people marry young, it tends to be for the wrong reasons, such as lust or infatuation. There is an aspect of friendship that gets left out of the decision and ultimately, that is what keeps a marriage stable. Anything other than an adult decision is mostly based on impulse.

I recommend waiting. It is worth it to find the right person at the right time. Divorce is hard, especially for young people.

kookoo4travel

NOPE! If you marry before age 30, you have a biiiiiiig chance of getting divorced. Why is this??? Your 20's are your best years to have fun, travel, date. If you are married in your 20's, you are gonna get the itch to do all this fun stuff. You will wanna date when you are already married which will equal to a divorce!

saloon girl

No, it doesn't usually last.

HH123

People mature and change A LOT between the ages of 18 and 25. The odds of it lasting are slim but not impossible. I wouldn't risk it though. The odds are definetly not in your favor! Continue to date for a few more years. Worry about marriage later. If it's meant to be, you'll still be together later in life. If not, then you saved yourself a headache and a divorce under your belt at a young age.

neicygreeneyes2

I think for those people who have been married for 30 plus years back than the only life people knew was to get married straight out of high school. Now adays you tell me that a 18 year old even remotley understands how to be an adult its not the same. An 18 year old in 1970 was an adult back than and wasnt called a baby.. now adays an 18 year old is a baby and has no business getting married. If we all married our high school loves we would all end up divorced now adays. These days 18 year olds are only interested in hooking up and making money.. I highly doubt any marraige now would last between 2 young people. I married in my mid 20's and I heard what a baby I was and now when I think about it what was the rush.. I say enjoy life and if you are still together in a few years than get married.

renae2007_1986

actually some people that get married at a young age do stay together and some dont. it depends on if the people really work at their marriage with all the love they have.

GuBur

well who knows. we all hope it would right? ha, but um, what is marriage? i know one thing it is meant to last and grow so tell me if they really believe in that and try and love forever then yes it would. they are the only ones to make it last especailly in a world like we live in today. its about love and knowing your place and responsibility

lily

Yes! Absolutely. i got married when I was 19. (yes u read that right. 19. I never even lived on my own. brat huh? :) today....18 yrs later- I'm still crazy in love w/ him. i dont know where i'd be w/out him or my 3 munchkins.
when u really give your heart to someone, no matter how old u are....theres no telling what god can do. live is hard enough but Love is forever.
wishing ya the best!

Airfox

What make you think it will not last at the first place? No matter how old are you if you cant maint the marriage life it will turn sour. So personally I think is not the age, is how handler it

flexduty

It depends. Lots of older poeple get married and endup gettig divorced so it's obviously not just an age issue.

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