If you found out that..??

AMA

Many people have the same problem as you do. As long as he's faithful now, then you can forget about the past. Hopefully he is mature now.

If we, as a society, frown upon "relationships" before marriage, then we wouldn't have this problem. Unfortunately, people go from boy/girfriend to boy/girlfriend and don't realize how valuable it is to give youself up to ONE individual, that being the individual that you are going to marry! How beautiful is it to share your first experiences in life together with your spouse? special moments, being intimate, traveling, long walks at night, etc. all with the person that you will spend the rest of your life with.

Thats why my wife and I never had any relationships with others before we married. These issues will not come up.

irish_jimmy

who cares what they do before marriage?

dlovesboxers

BEFORE is the key word here. I don't let my hubby's past interfere with our marriage. That is the past and stays there, as long as he isn't doing anything like that now.

golly geesh

whatever he or I did pre marriage will not have ANY PLACE in our marriage today. THE PAST is over.

An0nym0us mAn1Ac

Get over it. As long as he stopped seeing them when you got married, the past is the past.

Kim P

most husbands do have a string of girlfriends BEFORE they get married. It's the string of girlfriends AFTER the marriage that turns into a problem.

Krystal S

3) ignore it....that was his past. There is no need to agonize over it. What's done is done. Besides it's not like you were together then, so forget it.

kerriada

If you mean before marriage when you weren't dating I wouldn't worry about it. At least he got it out of his system and is happy and faithful with you.

CeciliaM

Who cares if he had gfs before marriage. I had plenty of boyfriends before marriage, so I would expect that he had girlfriends, unless he made it a point to tell me that there was nobody else in his past. If that were the case, then he'd have lied about his past and that would bother me since I don't see why there would be a need to lie about something like that.

Dentist H since 2001

ignore it.
he's married to you now and that's what matters.

you weren't the same person you were 10 years ago and neither was he.

LIlSis K

wouldn't care (unless he is shadey) because he picked YOU not those other girls.

Savvy1

Key words-BEFORE MARRIAGE. Get over it!

Susan C

Nothing, it was before he met me!

BabyDoll

Why would I bring up the past when we are in the present..I would not be mad but will laugh about it.

Rich

As long as the string of girlfriends ended with you, just come to terms with it. He married YOU.

Canadian Yummy Mummy

Don't Care--would I want him freaking about all my dirty little secrets? Certainly not--what's in the past is past and it's not continuing on and foreshadowing the future I'm ok with it.

simplylovely

I think you should let it go.
I had cheated on my first boyfriend back in high school, but now that I am engaged to my fiance, I know I will never cheat on him.

Q-BALL

If it was before you were married then I would ignore it . He obviously loves you if he made the commitment to you and not them . To bring the past [before marriage] into your marriage might start problems were there does not need to be .

ndnqt1966

As long as he didn't lie about his past....then his past is just that...His past!.....It wouldn't change anything....

lola

that was his past, but you are his present....ignore it.

karls dream

my husband was the town ho when i got with him. he was young and full of **** but when we got together he left his wild life for me. the only problem i had was i knew most of the girls but in time it didn't bother me cuz he is mine and will always be mine.

Annabella

Who cares? Talk about insecurity. Geez. Are you actually thinking of taking revenge by screwing some dude while you're married to your husband because he had the audacity to date someone before he even freakin met you? How childish.

fabiolamercedes

What he did when he was single was his business. Didn't you have lots of boyfriends when you were young and single? Everyone should have fun before they get married or they may have regrets.

brown sugar

how about i really wouldn't care thank god he had a life before me and learned a few tricks

Ice Queen

If i found that out, it would depend if he was still seeing of them and then he chose to be with you. I would not do anything if he is being faithful with you

robsmom

6. that was before you married him. I would think that the two of you had plenty of time while dating to talk about your pasts. Now is not the time to drag that out, even tho it can be a little shocking to realize that he had such a huge "social" life with the ladies.
Give him the benefit of the doubt and just rely on the fact that he did marry you and that hopefully he is done with the "dating" scene!!

â™¥ ummTalalâ™¥

I would be upset of course bc no one likes to be lied to. My husband acts like he was perfect before marriage but I am not stupid ;)....

I think you have to see the silver lining that he loved you so much and wanted to be with you so he was afraid that if he told you his mistakes maybe you would not love him. I think its hard to be mad at someoen for loving you. AND wow I can not even believe you would want to end your marriage over this or think about doinf revenge? That is just dumb and evil...

Xtine

If you were dating the I would be mad. Of it was before you knew him. Whats in someones past does not reflect on your relationship now. I could care less who or how many people my boyfriend has been with before we got together. It doesn't effect our relationship.

Nichole

If it happened before you why does it matter? As long as he is faitfhul to you I would not get worked up about this.

nonameblonde

It's before my marriage. There is nothing I can do about any of that now, so I'd ignore it.

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