If you found out your spouse was having an affair. Would you want the other's spouse to know about it?

Daniel L

That would just be revenge or spite.

ole_lady_93

go and blab to them... might as well upset there little love boat too. Why should they be left in the dark...

kitkool

that is between the other spouse and her partner... it's enough to deal with your own laundry and correcting the trouble in that relationship and dealing with their infidelity whether it's in real time or cyber space.

Andrew

The other unfaithful spouse needs to tell her husband what she's done. Then beg for forgiveness.

Scadle

Why should you make someone feel as miserable as you do? Sometimes ignorance is bliss. If he should find out, it should be by his spouse - no one else. He doesn't want to be made to feel like a fool and embarrased in front of others on TOP of being cheated on.

Joni B

That's tough, because in today's times this can be life or death. But I'd guess the "other" would not believe you and hate you. But the guilty spouse should tell his spouse. Just my opinion, though. But, I hope you realize, once a cheater, always a cheater. Took me way too long to figure this out, don't let it happen to you. God Bless.

bcgal

To all the people that think it would be revenge-
that she shouldn't say anything, ask yourself this- what if this was your child getting cheated on....or brother....or father. What if their cheating spouse gave them an STD like AIDS? And you could have prevented it - statistics show that people who have had an affair, tend to have additional affairs.

Sue

The only thing that you should be concerned about it why your wife is doing this, might have something to do with you not being romantic with her. If the other spouse wants to know they will find out also, it isn't your job to crush them. Deal with your own situation cause what goes on it that house is none of your business. Besides it would be terribly cruel if shehe is in denial about it.

Poxxii ?

I think you should totally tell the person you don't want them to be hurt whenever they find out a different way..drop you're spouse..they're not good ebough for you.

teresa d

YES THE OTHER SHOULD KNOW AND YOU BE THE ONE TO TELL WHY SHOULD YOU HURT ALL BY YOURSELF AND WHY LEAVE THE OTHER PERSON IN THE DARK WHENITS A GOOD CHANCE THEY MIGHT HOOK UP AGAIN TELL

rein

that is the other spouse's right to know. but the decision whether or not whether he/she lets herself out into the open is with the unfaithful partner. i doubt he would come clean though... scumbags are scumbags

Gabriele

Yes, give wonderer an opportunity to tell, if she/he does not, let them know you will. Do you wish you never knew?

Dogs Mom

It would be better not to tell. I guess that person probably feel terrible with what happen. If your spouse have an affair, you should really think about if he is worth to be a husband.

Miro

Hell yeah!! So what if it's spite and revenge--do it anyway! I would always regret it if they never got caught.

chinkee104

i think you should tell the other's spouse. the cheaters are not gonna do it. every one involved directly and indirectly should know whats goin on!

the_silverfoxx

the one they are married to has a right to know this after all the faitful spouce needs to see what they are married to as well . my opion?

superboy22_h

it should be the ones who were subjected to that affair....

supdavetatt

hell yea!

cutiepie81289

tell if it were my spouse I wouldn't care

Nagitarâ„¢

Hell yes..........that other person has every right to know. Because this may not have been the first time they have done it to them. They actually may have been on their last chance.

helo pilot cfi

put the pc on the curb and her too

va8326

call it what you want but yes ..you should tell..you will feel better

Dasher

Of course you should tell them... why the hell should she get off scott free??? She shouldn't.. thats right.... do it!

curiosity

I would've have been so mad, the other spouse would've known by know.

mustanglady

Well of course, its cheating all the same!!!! One of them needs to tell!!!!

zether

yes, wether it is revenge or honesty or whatever you want to call it, the other spose that got cheated on has the right to know

my ex cheated on me with a married man, i did not intentionally seek out his wife, but i did confront her when i found out about her, i figured she had every right to know what is going on.

and as a bonus, these people wreck your life, might as well damage theirs a little i guess

watergirl

I wouldn't involve myself by telling the other spouse. He/she will find out soon enough. Remain neutral, that's playing it safe! Remember: stupid hurts.

berry

You should tell.

SweetBrunette

My first priority is where can I get the best divorce lawyer.
My second priority is where is the copy or recorded of everything that my spouse has done as evidence for my lawyer.

WhatEVER27

I'll do it..Wouldn't you want to know if the other spouse caught there husband/wife and the other person.

She doesn't mean it...She just doesn't want her husband to find out..Tell it!

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