If you got married and then found out...?

KAYSEE

yes! if u get married...uhmm...i think ud want ur own baby not someone elses dur :P

Funkadelik HomoSapien

you can annull the marriage. Get an anullment instead of a divorce.

roadrunner

Yes, and yes. Have a healthy and happy leap year!

ehrlich

I would divorce him in a heartbeat. Deliberately lieing about something that important and hiding it is just too serious to me. If it would have been he didn't know and you tried and tried then did tests and found out I would have just found another way to have children by donor or maybe adoption but he knew he couldn't and chose not to tell you even though he knew it was important. It would break my heart and never make me trust him again.

Right Wing Extremist

Well yes I would, since they didn't bother to tell you. It would be different if they found out after you were married. I would be worried

Mamie

That kind of violation of trust could be grounds for an annulment.

eve

I am so not advocate for divorce if there is a solution but in this case it's a life changing lie. That is huge and is info that you should have had before you agreed to marry him.

Ken

In a heartbeat. What a d. bag!

bigjohn B

Annulment.

Rachel M

yes I would. It's hard to say, not being in that situation, but I think I would probably leave them. Not because they can't have children but because they lied. Lying is a very selfish act.

Jen

He lied to you!!! Lying by omission is still LYING!!

About an extremely important issue, you have every right to be pissed!!

Get your marriage annulled, you deserve better.

dragonfire

yes i would divorce

why stay into something that will always be a impasse?

who cares what ever else they may be hiding

one lie is enough

lizanull

You can probably get an anullment under these conditions. It's called "fraud and deceit" and you can get that marriage annulled. And if I were YOU, I would do that because YES, I WOULD wonder what else they are keeping from me!

Aim

If he kept it from you knowing that you wanted a family, you have to wonder what else he has kept from you. Starting out a marriage baised on lies is no way to start. If divorce isn't an option then try adoption or other options.

Ivana M.

i would leave him, that is so dishonest and that pretty much means your relationship is built on a lie! that would really make me mad! Sorry to hear this!! best wishes in your life hon!

Senorita

To hide it from me? The relationship should had been honest from day one, I would ask him what page was it that we were not together on this relationship, and what part of being honest that he did not understand.
This is something serious that he should had not kept it to himself. Did you guys ever talk about having children? What did he say then? I'm sure that he was probably afraid of losing you..but hiding it will only make things worse. let him know how you feel.. There's always a solution for every problem.

drewxjacobs

I would have serious issues about my spouse keeping something so important from me. If it is a deal breaker, get out. Otherwise, how does he feel about adoption or artificial insemination?

Prior to your marriage, did you ever discuss how many children you wanted, if any? Did he lie about wanting to have a family? If he did and he just said things to make you happy and to ultimately marry you, I would think he is a very dishonest person and not really anyone I wanted to wait and see what else he deemed none of my business.

lina

If you are in your spouse's shoes, would you be frank to your spouse or would you keep to yourself. Your spouse loves you so much that he/she couldnt bear to lose you if the news made known to you and worst, your spouse could never get married. No doubt some people are open minded and will talk and discuss about marriage and family but this is not end of the world. You can adopt a child. Doesnt matter she's not your blood and flesh but most important the love you are showering her and the proper upbringing. No doubt, the aim of getting married is to build a family but as in your case, if you really love your spouse, you would accept him no matter who is he.....

Tara

I am sure that I would feel so many things - which might include never trusting him again .. hurt & pain .. broken heart .. loss of respect .. never wanting to see him again, etc.

You might should worry what he would do to you in the future.

You should have been told the truth - and given a choice. He took that away from you. Actually - he took your children away from you. Can you live with that ? .. and his dishonesty ?

Lots of people cannot have children, and they cannot help it ... in fact, they wish it were not that way for them .. however - they should be truthful with their spouse before the marriage.

What he did to you was not right.

Darke Angel

Divorcing depends on whether or not you love the man in spite of his shortcomings. A deliberate lie by omission is the same as lying outright. Maybe marriage counseling would help determine if there are other things being kept from you. If you seriously want children and he obviously can't have any, there are other methods for becoming pregnant. Do some research and decide as a couple if you both want children. If you can't come to an agreement, then the obvious solutions for you are divorce or remaining childless. But, in all actuality, you most likely would divorce him after a brief period of time.

sweetlittlecrimson

what eles have they lied to u about that is a pretty big one for me. i couldn't trust them anymore

erselius

Wow, that's tough. I don't know what you say. I would be very upset. Didn't the conversation of children ever come up? They better not be against adoption or fertility. I would then think about divorce.

tellit2mestraight

He didn't trust you to be able to take the truth in the very beginning, a relationship starting out with a lie is not a good thing.

Lily

Legally that is cause for divorce. However I would not assume he lied about other things.

Red Rose

Yes I think it enough reason to divorce. If he knew I wanted children some day. And he was aware he couldn't have children. I would leave him.

Kimche_Spicy

Well it was vital information a spouse should not have kept secret prior to getting married. In essence, the spouse blatantly misrepresented the facts. In legal format, this is marriage by fraud via misrepresentation.

Now is the time to evaluate how strong is your love to overcome this obstacle? Are you both willing to consider other alternatives:

in vitro, surrogacy, adoption, foster parenting, etc

If it is discovered that they intended to not ever have children and did not want any into the future, then there is a serious problem. It will come down to one being able to live with the very fact of no kids and keeping the marriage or deciding this is too much to bear and dissolving the marriage.

Either way, it is a trust broken that is either irretrievably lost or one that will take many moon cycles to rebuild.

Good luck and much prayers

chittybang1021

no. marriage is a wholeee lotabout trust.

horse crazed girl

don't get a divors if thats the only reason, maybe he did not tell because he didn't think you'd love him the same,as for kids there is ALOT of kids that need to be adopted! i guess every thing comes to do you love him and does he love you? and can you trust him AND forgive him AND yourself

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