If you had a husband that cheats all the time and beats you but goes to church would you still leave him?

pooh

Pray for your strength first of all. Ask God to not only help you, but help him also. You need to talk to someone maybe from church that can help you. See if your husband wants to get help, not to work on the marriage but for himself. IT obvious he has a sickness. You need to leave. I know you are seeking God, but you cannot allow a man to use you as his punching bag. If he was a true man of God he wouldn't be doing you like that. I will keep you both in my prayers. God Bless you.

angelhart47

I don't know what kind of church you go to but you should talk to your pastor, minister or whoever it is at your church. They won't confront him with it I'm sure unless you ask them to speak with him. They might be able to give you some advice. But the problems not going to go away by itself.

Moiraes Fate

Yes. And press charges. Who cares if he goes to church? It's almost like he thinks he can beat you and then go to church to get forgiveness and do it all over again.

Seriously, boot him out. He hasn't changed and won't. His behavior will continue so long as you continue to tolerate it.

Right on

Wake up girl...........this guy doesn't love you..he is using you...
leave that guy....he is bound for Hell and will get there soon...

If he beats you and cheats, than goes to church he is a hypocrite..........Leave him now..............

JustMe

What does his going to church have anything to do with it ? He hits you and cheats on you. So what, he goes to church to make himself feel better ?? You need to have left this man yesterday.

shiningtreasure

The decision is truly yours. But if I was in your shoes I would not stay with him. No one deserves to be abused in any way, shape or form. Verbally, mentally, physically or spiritually. He can go to church, but that doesn't say he is following the ways of the Lord. There is worship in and out of the house of God. It's by the way you live.

MadeIn84

Leave him and don't look back. No one deserves to be cheated on numerous times and to top it off he hits you? No, no, no, no. Leave.

Leaving him isn't going to make the world end. Life goes on. A woman doesn't NEED a man, we can do fine - even better - alone.

Find someone else. Or stay single. I don't even know you, but I know this much - you don't deserve to be hit, and if a man needs to sleep with lots of women, then he should be single and not comitted.

katydid

This is a very hard one to answer...I have spent many years in a marriage similar expect that he hasn't cheated...I have stayed and things did get better, however this is not always the case. Since you are active is the church...talk to your pastor, ask him for advise and pray and meditate, If you open your heart and listen, God will give you the answer you are looking for. I stayed with my husband because this is the answer that God have me and the Bible has alot to say about marriage and divorce. If you husband is cheating, God does not expect someone to stay in this kind of relationship. Again..talk to your pastor..I'm sure he will help you with your decision. My heart hurts for you. I will keep you in my prayers.

whiterose87

i feel so sorry with your problem.i know its hard to live with someone who did not appreciate us.its like wasting our time.but when love is still inside your heart,nothing you can do.i believe that you love your husband so much.but that's not mean he can do anything to you.if he really a good human whom believe with his god,he will never cheat and beat you.you must learn to face with him and be strong.show to him that you are a wife, not a servant.i hope my advice can help you.

nwnativeprincess

YES....................
SAVE YOURSELF.
THE GOOD BOOK DOES NOT CONDONE CHEATING.
SOCIETY DOES NOT CONDONE ABUSE.

deesel_12

U gotta go, him going to church may make him feel better but thats a crock.Life cant be worse without him

Bluesman

Get out of there NOW! You are not going to change this guy, and even though he goes to chuch, he is obviously NOT a christian. A christian man is a man of love, and a man of love would not treat you the way this man is treating you. Is sounds to me that he is very dangerous, and you need to get away from him as fast as you can. Find a friend that you can stay with, and get a restraining order. That is what I suggest. Staying in this relationship is only going to bring you more sorrow or worse.

Rica 82

He doesn't care about you. If he did he won't hurt you. Church has absolutely nothing to do with im. Just b/c he goes to church doesn't make him a good person. He is cruel to you. He knows that cheating hurts you, he shouldn't do it. He shouldn't be hitting you either. You should really leave him. I'm going to assume that he has stomped on your self-esteem, makes you feel ugly. You can't do anything he does. If he wants to cheat and be with other women, then why does he keep you around? Because he needs someone to manipulate and put down, in order to feel better about himself. You probably don't know what it's like to get treated like a woman. You need to start thinking about yourself and your feelings, if not well then you will always be his piece of ****. I urge you to leave him; he will never show you the respect that you yearn ever again.

Magina

From my understanding of the situation, you want a husband who believes in God and abides by him, rather than merely attend services. Your husband has clearly demonstrated by his actions how he really feels about the church and God so you should not stay with him. Chances are he's probably even laughing behind your back at how easy it is to keep you. All he has to do is attend an hour's service once a week, and he's free to treat you as badly as he likes. Don't let him walk all over you.

In the eyes of both God and society, you are far more important than he is and have far more rights. He's merely a man, and they are a dime a dozen. Leave him and find someone who treats you the way you deserve: with love, care and attention.

Good luck. I hope you don't love him anymore. That will make it easier to let him go.

columbo

there seems to be some misapprehension that if someone goes to church it makes them a good person that cant possible do those terrible things. WRONG, you only have to watch the news to know differently. Do not let him hide behind church and God, that is despicable. he needs help, much more than you can give him. i am usually the first to say sit down, talk about it it can be worked out but in this case I am lost for words. he is a liar, a chat and an abusive man will very rarely stop, I can usually give the benefit of the doubt and say that there may be a logical reason he is doing this, Hun i cant even begin to give him that courtesy. A man that hides behind God to face up to his faults and hide his wrong doings is no good, Get out before you cant.

foxieann

WHAT ARE YOU WAITING ON , HE DOES NOT LOVE YOU
#1 HE HURTS YOU
#2 HE CHEATS ON YOU
GET OUT NOW WHILE YOU CAN TALK ABOUT IT ,HE WILL CONTINUE TO HURT YOU UNTIL YOU PICK UP SOMETHING AND HIT HIM BACK ---DRAW BLOOD---HE WILL STOP

acmeraven

Talk with an attorney and change the locks. If necessary get a restraining order and a taser. If he has struck you he can go to jail for a few years and not pass go nor collect 200 dollars.

Just_Curious

Seems like the only reason he is going to church is to look good in front of people. If he is beating you and talking bad about you then you really should leave. The abuse is only going to get worse. Trust me, leave him and start a whole new life. No one should be beaten by anyone and my mom always said the reason men hit on women is because if they hit another man they would probably get thier butts kicked.

timc_fla

Leave him and have him put in jail.

notyou311

Do you know what the word "hypocrite" means? That is what your husband is. Why are you allowing yourself to be treated this way? Get out and tell the preacher at church what kind of person he really is. Find someone who will treat you right.

tallerfella

Not only should you leave him, you should have him arrested the next time he touches you.............

berry

You should leave him. He won't change.

Krissy

Get out! Move on!!!! God will forgive you and bring you greater love!

2wild4u

Even though you have strong beliefs I dont think the man upstairs would want you to stay w/ a man who is suppose to love you. You need to get out of there before something serious happens to you. Its not ok for him to cheat and definetely not ok for him to beat you. You need to be strong and leave him I dont care what you believe right now you dont deserve this no one does do you have kids they dont need to see this behavior they dont need to see their mommy treated this way. Remember your not the one doing this he is I am not religious but do believe in god and there isnt any man that I would let hurt me like this not even my own husband.

Baby Jack born 4/5/09

WHAT?? U serious?? i think you know the answer. Do you want someone to tell you otherwise i doubt it. You know what needs to be done. Do it. Youre gonna do it in the end anyway.

U.K.Export

A cheating, sadistic, Christian thug is just as bad as an atheist, cheating, sadistic thug. He will never change (no matter what he says) so get away from him before you get seriously hurt.

theoriginalquestmaker

What he is doing to you is WRONG! His attending church means nothing.
If he cheated once I could see giving him another change but he has proven that he doesn't deserve any chances.
Get out now before he really hurts you.

sonnyboy1219

You have an obligation to save his soul - and the only way to do it is to have him arrested for assault - he'll be able to ask Jesus for forgiveness as he sits in jail...His time there will make him a better person , and in that time you might be able to find a man who loves and respects and protects you...
I always thought it would be a good idea if there were a church committee that would have the responsibility for re-educating wife-abusers by means of a baseball bat. But I never heard of a church where they do that...

â™ªMsz. Nenaâ™«

Leave him.
Although your belief may discourage divorce, I know god would understand your decision. Just because divorce is looked down upon by most in a religious faith, doesn't mean you should stick around and be cheated on and abused. You deserve better, god knows this.
You're hurting and your husband doesn't care. You love him and he doesn't love you. If he loved you he wouldn't be having affairs and he would NEVER raise a hand to you. Any man that hurts a woman is a coward himself.
You have to leave for your safety, not just your feelings. First, you need to leave so you can stop being hurt by him. He is pulling you apart emotionally, mentally, and physically. You have to get away before you are scarred so deep that you can never move on. Secondly, your safety is in danger many ways. You could be beaten to death one day if he is that mad. Also, you may have come in contact with an STD, if your husband is sleeping around with many women, then he could've caught something and just as well passed it onto you.
Honestly, you deserve a safe environment.
God will not punish you; for you have given your all and taken all you could take. The pain is unbearable now and you do not have to stay, matter of fact you cannot stay. If you stay, you are only allowing yourself to be succeptable to such pain that he is causing you. It's not going to get better because he thinks he controls you and can do whatever he wants.
Since you're involved heavily with a church, I advise you to speak with a priest... he can help you find a shelter to stay in, away from your husband, until you get off of your feet. And, since it'll be a priest, you can be sure your confidenitality is in favor since priests do not tell.
It is time to get away and begin your healing process. Everything will get better and be okay if you leave..

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