If you have been with the wrong person for 5 years, would you just stay with them because you have a history?

~leaving traces~

Been there, done that, and it took me 10 years to realize that life is too short to be living it that way. I think if you are truly unhappy and know you want out, you do not only YOURSELF an injustice by staying, but the person you're with too, because your heart is really not in it. Only you know what you've been through. It's easy for people to tell you stay, you're married, period...when they have no idea what you've been treated like, made to feel, etc. I say you HAVE to follow your heart. Listen to your inner voice. I doubt when you get to the end of your life you're gonna say, "I wish I'd stayed in a dead relationship longer just for the sake of the marraige certificate." What will you be saying? You have to be true to YOURSELF before you can be true to anyone else, and that's the solid truth. Don't worry about those that would judge you. Observe, do some inner soul searching, and then do what you know you have to do. It's OKAY to move on and be happy. If you think you can work it out, that's great too, but when it comes right down to it, you need to do what's best for you.

Jane

no....if you realize the relationship or the person is wrong it's only fair to both people involved to move on.

Good Luck!

OnliiMee88

No. That's like living a lie. I would leave him and start over. Most people only stay in a loveless marriage or relationship because they're afraid to start over or feel like nobody else will want them. But I would just leave. Why stay and be miserable?

Andelusional

No hun, you only get to live once. This life is not a rehearsal you know. Once its gone, its gone. Its too brief to be unhappy!

Karen

When I was younger maybe but as time goes by and you start losing loved ones you realize life really is too short for crap like that.

Deanrijo

No, never. You have already spent 5 years of you life and come out with something that is no longer making you happy. Get out of it, learn from it, and move on.

Emanon

I had been with the wrong person for seven years (and knew it), but I married him anyway and got stuck for another nine years. What a waste of 16 years!!!! Never, never, never again - history or not!!!

No way...I would stay with them because I love them. If they are wrong for me, I would end the relationship.

mitchchan

NO! Why should you remain unhappy in a relationship just because you too have gone out together for so long? It's better to leave than to be miserable for the rest of your life! Do not settle for something else when you deserve far better in life!

Conor

No, find someone new if you think it's the wrong person

Dana M

not if im unhappy

ncbookseller

No way! You should do what makes you happy. I think Mark Twain put it best when he said, "25 years from now, you won't remember what you did; you'll remember what you didn't do."

tim n

If you have been with the wrong person for 5 years,

YOU JUST ANSWERD THE QUESTION YOURSELF!!!!

barthebear

â˜…Greedâ˜…

Many people do,

Bond girl

No way, not if I didn't love them. Don't even think of it.

Liv

if youre married, id try to make it work, if not , then NO lifes too short to be unhappy

elcot32

If there is kids involves, I'll think about it twice but if not , I'm never going to stay with someone if there is no more love ...
good luck!

SAMD010

Five years is an awful long time. I don't think that you should "jump ship" just yet; but still what if you find out something later . . . And then you wished that you would have . . . You know . . . "Called it quits" because "Not enough ever happened that could have kept our relationship that interesting." . . . So to speak. You know, sometimes two people can just get caught up in the rut of it all. I hope you do okay. Take care.

TRACY W

Easy answer No ... move on , life is too short

Amy B

No it's not right to string someone along due to obligation. That person has real feelings too, I would suggest a long talk.

"IAN"

Absolutly not!

fieryfairey13

if he is not the right guy i will totally DUMP HIM TO THE CURB!!!!!!!!!!!

budsky17

hell naw , you can do bad by urself let alone someone is dranging you down with them.....if the feeling isnt the same try to talk , if thats not a option just tell them that its not workin

chickibabe1965

NO NO NO - time to move on and quit wasting you time - life is too short!!!

musicpanther67

You are NOT obligated to! If you are unhappy then change it. If it's the wrong person then don't delay. Of course I have the same problem as you and I don't know what to do either. So my advice might not be the best. I can advise people on what they should do, but I never follow it! How sad is that. I hope you're stronger than me. History can be re-written. You can and should leave. Like I said, I'm in a similiar situtation and lately all I can think is "Is this how my life is going to end?" I'm probably older than you though, I'm 40. I don't want my life to be like this. Do you?

?? yaddajean ??

No, not unless I am married to him and then I would try to work through my problems, but if we are only dating I would have to let the relationship go

Sweet Suzy 777!

Only if you are married to them.

Ms. GTO

HELL NO!!!

The only thing worse than being with the wrong person for 5 years....is being with them for 5 years and 1 day!

End the relationship and find the right person....but you can't be successful in a relationship until you resolve all YOUR issues first.

April

depends. If you have children together, step to the plate, get into counceling, and find out how you can make your relationship better. "Wrong person" doesn't really say much. If he is abusive, a drunk, cheating, yadadadyadya, then no. If your marriage just needs some fluffing, then get some help. Getting into serial monogomy is a sad situation.

6@5^&%

been with my husband terrance for 6 years and i'm just around for the history but i do need to move on

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