If you were caught having an affair, would you deny it until evidence was produced?

gypsy g

I wouldn't....I wouldn't hurt him, I'd deny it till the day I die...he doesn't need to be hurt by my selfishness.
That is why those people who feel the need to "come clean" are horribly selfish people. Your spouse is happily going through life, all the sudden you feel the need to shed YOUR guilt because its weighing you down and making YOU unhappy. So you come clean, now your spouse is hurt, humiliated, sad, feeling all the negative feelings they other wise wouldn't of had to deal with. Shame on them. Live with your guilt and let it eat at you for the rest of your life...you deserve it. Thats what I did.

therese z

Nope, cause they are gonna find out in the end, then they'll be even more mad at you for lying

Darren G

Shaggy would!!!

But she caught me on the counter
( wasn't me)
Saw me banging on the sofa
( wasn't me)
I even had her in the shower
(wasn't me)
She even caught me on camera
( wasn't me)
She saw the marks on my shoulder
( wasn't me)
Heard the words that I told her
( wasn't me)
Heard the screams get louder
(wasn't me)
She said our dealy was over

learningsomethingnew

yes, until I knew what evidence there was. Ahh, I never get caught!

nonameblonde

If I was and he asked me? I'd admit it flat out.

Lizzie

First of all, I'd never have an affair and second if all, if for some reason I did end up having one, there would be no way I could lie about it.

Joe M

If you were caught having an affair, it would be hard to dispute the facts.

Charlie C

Yes I would deny it and I would make sure there wasn't any evidence. The only way I wouldn't deny it is if I was ending the marriage anyway.

Lisa b

I wouldn't admit anything without hard evidence.
True story, I got speeding tickets and didn't tell my husband because he'd go through the roof. When the car insurance bill arrived, he opened it and said "huh, would you look at that?" and then there was this long pause. I almost came clean but decided to ride it out. Then after an eternity he finally said "would you believe the car insurance premium went down?"
I almost busted myself for nothing.

Zac

Yes because something in the marriage is not right anyway.

cuddleyleo2003

Unless ya got DNA, Video Tape (in HD, better not be fuzzy) or catch me in the act, it wasn't me. That's my lie and I am stickin too it!

annamauria

no -- just own up to it -- no matter who it is.

Ian D

Not really a fair question, because most people will not want to admit they would be dishonest in such a situation. Most people who say they'd face up and admit it without proof are lying.

Truth be told, most everyone, with rare exception, will not admit to having an affair unless caught red-handed. In fact, most people will go to extremes to lie, cover-up and deny it.

If you or someone you know really did admit to an affair without condeming evidence, they are the exception to the rule. People like that, though flawed (like us all), have some pretty strong character to be able to come clean without getting caught.

rivasj27

No..because my husband doesn't care so long as I am happy. We all have needs and we are just honest enough to know that sometimes our needs don't include the other person.

goodies make the boys jump on it

nope i would tell my spouse straight up

l.daryle

Don't have to worry about that. My face is like a built in birth control.

ladysilverhorn

i would admit it...but not going to be an issue with us we are swingers and have very good communication. I often bring my toys(men) home and we all sit around a have a drink.

Sasha's Mommy

Thats what my husband did.

Survivor

I didn't cheat but here is my husband's response. He denies it, and when I show him the proof (the evidences show it was more than platonic), he said she is a friend. Then he got the nerve to get mad at me for accusing him of having an affair.

zax_fl

I would not admit. Rather she beleieve her suspicions were wrong rather her be hurt, especially with no evidence. I would never confess to her either, same reason.

1reedash

First, I would never be in an affair, because I think that relationships are exclusive and if you are not satisfied, you should not be dating the other person.

But for this scenario, I would not deny it. I would be honest and share what happened. I know that it would kill my guy, but forgiveness would come but not always trust. It is hard to forgive, but it can be done if you are humble in admitting your wrong and also if you say you won't do it again. It will then be the other person that you will be dependent upon for receiving their trust again.

Jimbob

My wife accused me but i would NEVER do such a thing and she wouldn't admit to an affair even after i showed her a photo of her and some guy old enough to be her father kissing in a photo booth at the mall. They never admit it but after getting kicked out of my own home she moved her lover in and 6 months later had his baby.Talk of proof! And the guy she moved in wasn't the old man in the photo. Why can't women be honest? I still love her and don't want a divorce even though i have all the "evidence" anyone could want.