If you were in am abusive relationship would you leave your partner even though you loved them?

Emma Leigh

Yes, in a heartbeat

chacha777

I'd leave faster than they could blink

Momof4:nomore!

Yes, especially if kids are in the picture or ever will be. There is someone out there who will love you more, it has to start with you. If you love yourself you won't put up with it!!!

fishgirl

YES!!!!

Jackie

Yes, if they really loved you the wouldn't feel the need to abuse you.

everything's eventual

Yes...NO HESITATION!!! Look at the statistics to find out how many women die each year because they stayed with someone they "loved" even though they were being abused!!! If you are in this situation, I implore you to PLEASE LEAVE!!!

checking-u-out

no, because I'm in one and keep saying I'm going to but i never do i always think he will change or actually find some where in his heart to think about the way i feel, but so far no luck yet

bobweb

If the partner wouldn't go to counseling with me, then I would retain a "bouncer" that would act on hehalf of me. The next time my spouse hit me, I would immediately call the bouncer over to my house for a show down with my spouse. I would have the bouncer instruct my spouse that if they ever harmed me again, they would get the "crap beat out of them".

Kim

Yes, i would. It would be really difficult though but i would. He has no right to abuse any girl what so ever and i know that i deserve to be treated better. I would also get out of the relationship before i fall pregnant because then i would just put my childs life in danger. Woman dont deserve to be abused no matter what they do!

frankzappa

I did and have not regretted it at all...
Life is easier when u don't have to deal with the crazyness
U can't prepare for crazy
It's not that life is too short
IT"S UR DEAD FOR SO FRICKEN LONG...

Yes. My idea of dying for someone I love isn't by their own hand.

chrisco_1010

yeah, i would

hey yo

heck yea...there is no one more important than God and myself.

lady 2 much

some love anit good love he dont love you like how you love him otherwise he wouldnt't be abusing you so if you really love him leave him

raven44012

Yep, and I would make sure they would need a few skin grafs after I left.

JohnnyBravo

Yes, absolutely. Once I was gone, I would talk to them and see if they would seek help for their abusive problems. If they did, and really put a solid effort into it....then perhaps go back to them later.

rlkeebler

Having been abused as a child I unfortunately turned into the abuser in my first and only marriage. My lady wisely left me but not before the damage had been done. She stayed in an abusive relationship for 14 years because I had made her feel like she deserved it. I can honestly say that because of me being a blackout drunk at the time I had no memories of most of the abuse. That doesn't mean it didn't happen. I have been blessed with a second chance with her 14 years later.
I tell you this because what I once took as an act of a coward (her leaving me with the help of my own family) I now see was the most courageous thing see had ever done in her then young life. But it was actually too late. If you are in a abusive relationship get out or at least put some distance between you and your partner for awhile. You may find that what you thought was love was actually just fear of the unknown. You are stronger than you think.

cstinkerbell6969

When you love someone they do NOT hurt you soooo YES I would leave in 2 seconds flat! Men who hit women are total cowards and never fight another man- they prefer weaker and smaller prey like women and children! I would never allow a man to lay his hands on me in a physical hurting way! Or to touch my kid!!!! One slap in the face buddy and IM OUT the door! Right then and there!!!!!

Boundsy

Of course, why stay in a relationship where your getting hurt either physically or emotionally or both, even if you loved them theres no since in putting up with that

scottamancocher1

You shouldn't have to think about that one. How can you love someone who abuses u?

lunareclipse4

like a shot!!! if your partner abuses you it means they don't respect you or love you, because if they did love and respect you they wouldn't abuse you!

louise r

Yes you could end up being killed

krazi.smoke

No. There are other ways.

dipper9stikk

You never ever want to be in an abusive relationship pimp. Love has nothin' to do with abuse so remember you're leaving the abuse not something good for you.

Eddie's Wife

YES!!! WHY stick around for more...or death?!

cybereagle03

Yes and no. The word Abuse is thrown around so casually these days. If someone gets mad and yells its abuse. So my answer would depend on your definition of abuse. I'm sorry but people get angry, it is a natural emotion, some handle anger better than others, and some people are more sensitive about being the recipient of that anger.

So, If I felt like I was in an abusive relationship, Yes, I would leave.

My definition of abuse would be :
Obviously if someone beats you, that is abuse.
If someone screams at, yells at, or be-little's someone on a day to day basis without provocation that is abusive.
If someone threatens to beat you, bullies you, ect, to get their way in a relationship on a regular basis, or it forms a pattern in the relationship, that is abusive.

fairygodmother

Uh, Yeah. I hope you're a teenager and not someone old enough to know better.

dymondtears

Thats a hard question to ask because unless you are, or have been, in that situation you really don't understand the mentality of love and abuse. I would like to say that yes, I'd have the strength to leave. But if my boyfriend (who I love very, very, very much) were to become abusive I don't really know if I could leave. My suggestion to you (If you're in that situation) is try your hardest to get out. Its not likely that someone abusive will change and you're way more important then they're letting you be. Love wasted on someone who is abusive is a shame because there is someone out there who won't be abusive that will love you back!

abby

Definately! It will tear you up in every way if you don't. I know that it's hard when you love someone, but if they loved you then they wouldn't abuse you.

Fiona

Being abused by someone erodes your self esteem and you feel like you cannot leave, you can't do anything for yourself. Believe it or not loving someone who abuses you or treats you terrible is quite common, it's very closely related to Stockholm syndrome (a hostage begins to relate to their captor). He wants you to love him so that he can use that to keep control over you.
What needs to be kept in mind is that if someone loves you they truly want what is best for you, not for you to be harmed. In fact they will do anything to keep you out of harms way.
I've been told it takes a person seven times leaving and coming back, before they leave the abusive party for good. I took a long time in leaving, but it only took me once to go, and stay gone.
If you want to stay in the relationship, I would set some definite boundaries. ie. the first time that he calls you a b----h you are gone or he is, in fact, the first time he raises his voice to you in anger. You will not go back with him unless he completes a program for abusive men. He can change but he truly has to want to. Most men don't want to because they want to keep the control, it's too much work, or they feel it's not worth it.
The first step (and one of the hardest) is for him to admit that he is abusive (and believe that he is).
Bless you and keep yourself safe.

Hell

If he/she is abusive, that's not love.
Sorry but thats not love.
You just like to be humiliated, rape, hit, abuse and all the worse thing that should never happen in a relationship.

been there

Its such a definitive answer if you've never had a personal experience with abuse, isn't it..The obvious - leave him, as he doesn't love you if he's abusing you - seems so simple, sensible, sane to those on the outside. I used to vehemently say that. That was, until I had the misfortune to fall in love (unbeknownst to me until after the wedding) with an abuser. It sure is complicated when you love someone. You want to help them, you want to support them in changing their ways....but you actually can't. What you can do is get out and see if they get help. If or when they change (sadly this is rarely) then you may have another chance...but only if you aren't scared of them hurting you again. I couldn't guarantee that in my situation (as much as I wanted to believe it) as the abuse just got worse and next time I could've not survived. You gotta look at the facts.. there are no guarantees. When you have to be brave and leave your abuser whom you love, it does break your heart - hearts are not sensible! But waay better to have a broken heart than a broken body and spirit...

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