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Ironhead
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That is nothing short of disrespect. If I were you I would dump his **** like a hot potato. Find yourself a man who respects you. |
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ladyren
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You married an insecure baby, sweets, and with betrayal, even if you okayed it, your marriage is over.
Would I divorce him? In a heartbeat.
Then I'd get a few sessions of counseling to get my head back on straight. |
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Sandy Ego
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Threesomes notwithstanding, I wouldn't stick around a guy with an anger problem who took it out on me. |
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willowbee3
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He sounds like he has no respect for you or your relationship and has taken advantage of you. He also sounds emotionally abusive - you have to do what you feel is best - but if if were me - I'd leave him. |
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Edie
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Honey you married a REAL jack A ss.
Didn't you know these things Before you married him?
Unload this loser. |
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Chuck T
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You should go , find a one woman man , there are plenty of us left , I was in a similar situation ,It cost me my marriage ... |
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missmojo78
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Divorce |
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NEWPORT BEACH GIRL
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TIME TO PACK HIS BAGS AND THROW HIS SORRY AZZ OUT! LET HIM GO AND BUG THOSE OTHER GIRLS AND RUIN THEIR LIVES...YOU REGAIN YOUR DIGNITY AND MOVE ON...THIS IS ONLY GONNA GET WORSE IF YOU STAY WITH THIS CHUMP!! |
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chato
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He obviously has no respect for you> How canyou have a lovig relationship build on trust, care and comunication if he does not respect you. You should divorce him and take everyhting he got. I'M SORRY BUT WHAT A DOUCHEBAG.
You deserve so one so much better than him. |
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Waitin' 4 Next Year
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Sounds like a bad relationship. He doesn't respect you physically or emotionally. divorcee is a big step however. i recommend you tell him your contemplating leaving him, and if he will consent to counseling. If that doesn't work, you are better off without him. And no more swapping/ 3somes. |
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bereal
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If he's not willing to go to counseling, you need to leave him. |
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Cesaria Barbarossa (R.I.P. Tina)
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He had to be this way before you got married. He was a dog before you got married, right? I'm not blaming him, i'm blaming you and if you had a threesome/foursome, that was your choice. You are a grown woman.
He doesn't sound like a good person to begin with so I would have never married him. So, I guess divorce is definitely an option.
Good luck. |
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gustov
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sounds like a rough situation. he sounds like an a$$hole. you have to decide though. you have to think of whether you will be happier without him. |
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Mauve
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Two words.....trust and respect. The absence of one is the death of a relationship. Don't bother hanging on to something that is already dead. |
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puckbunnietwo4
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Sorry to tell you, but adding another person or persons into your relationship never helps. It sounds like he was trying to make it seem like the whole 3some and swapping thing would be good for YOU instead of just saying that he wanted to do it.
Maybe you should get some couples councelling to see if you can work through these issues. Remember the only person you need to please is yourself.
Good luck! |
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Mich gal
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You put a lot of emphasis on not hurting him, pleasing him, making him happy. Time to put the breaks on that crap and take charge of your life and your marriage. If he can not realize the damage his desires did to your relationship, he may not be the right person to be with long term. Not saying divorce him, but you have gone way above and beyond the normal ways of compromise. |
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Julie K
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You are the only one who can answer that. I would suggest you seek individual counseling, and if, through that soul-searching, you decide your marriage is worth the fight, the two of you should do couples' therapy. That also relies on him WANTING to go, otherwise nothing will change.
Good Luck |
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LJ C
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First,I'd try to get some counciling as a couple,barring that,I don't see things working out at all.Sorry |
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Mean Carleen
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It sounds like he wants out to me. This man is disrespecting you regarding his wanting to do other women. YOU allowed the other entities in the marriage. How can one disrespect themselves to please another? If your hubby cared anything about you and/or your feelings...there would have been no swapping and no threesome.
He name calls you and throws things...not at you ...YET....I say you should have been gone!!! |
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Gonzominium
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Well your situation doesn't look good, does he respect your wishes, honnestly he might just be bipolar, I would suggest couciling it might be that easy, I wouldn't call it "cheating" because he isn't doing anything behind your back as much as immoral, if he doesn't agree to couciling then i would get a divorce, but don't be a statistic, get help, if he doesn't want it, then he wasn't meant for you. |
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angela s
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You are not fed up yet, when you are fed up you will not care about his feeling being hurt or any of his opinions. further more it is your fault as well for going along with swaping and doing a threesome, I would have left him when he disrespected you. by asking you . |
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mary p
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Most men get comfortable in a marriage and won't leave unless made to. But if they are unhappy they will venture outside the marriage for excitement. Ask for threesomes or swap....they want to pay no consequences for their infidelity. When you comply with their wishes, they lose ALL respect for you. Viscious circle,,,,sssorry you went there for him..you can depend that your marriage is over. Ssorry!!!!
If it feels wrong..DON"T DO IT!!! |
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mouser
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You're doing a lot just to please him. Tho the word is a bit psychobabbly, sounds like you are 'codependent.'
He also sounds entitled and abusive.
Find some books, get some individual counseling, then marriage counseling or divorce. That is no way to live. |
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Alexa's mommy ♥
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Yes I would get a divorce. Every sentence of yours gives good reason for divorce. This man obviously doesn't respect you, appreciate you, love you (enough), or deserve you. Do not worry about hurting his feelings because he has done that to you a million times worse. I pray you do leave this man and find happiness in someone that loves you like you deserve to be loved. |
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hazelshine
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I am really sorry to hear you are going threw all this. Remember marriage is 2 people ounce you start bringing others into the relationship. Things just start to build up between the 2 of you. You should never do anything you don't want to do or that is uncomfortable for you. If he loved you as his loving wife, he wouldn't of put you threw all this. Not only that before you love someone . You should love yourself first. No one deserves to be call stupid in life. He is trying to control your life, don't let him do so. Also if he is violent and drowse things around, next thing you know he is going to be drowning you around! You deserve much more out of life. If you want to leave him then do it! I know it's easier said than done, but life is to short to be living in a miserable relationship. Especially when it's base on only what he wants! Why would you even consider his feelings when he hasn't even put yours first. I wish you the best!! |
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his fiancee
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well... thats a hard choice to make...
i've had to sit down and talk to my fiancee before, and like you said he didnt really acknowledge what you was feeling, so throw it back on him...
say well what if i was to text someone like you do all the time or what if i was to have these thought..
you know?? tell him to step into your shoes... see if that works..... |
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