If your boyfriend is abusive to you while dating when u 2 marry will he be less abusive? cuz u are his wife?

addybme

NO!!! if he is like this now, then when you get married that will mean you accept his abuse, and are willing to let it continue, then it will get worse. Dont marry him if he is abusing you.

charles s

It will only get worse. and if you marry a man who is abusive to you, it will get harder and harder to get away. Run girl run away.

Timothy C

If there is abuse just leave him. Do not put yourself in a situation where he can really hurt you.

cantik

NO!! Marriage will only make it worse, for you are legally bound to him. If he thinks he can abuse you now, he will think he can do whatever he wants to you once you are legally 'his'.
Get out of the relationship now! It is not healthy whatsoever!!

xchatterxboxx

NO WAY! A spoiled apple doesn't get un-spoiled. It gets moldy! LEAVE HIM! And go to the cops

Plexed

No No and No! He's most likely to be more abusive. You see the red flag now! Get out, while the going is good, and NEVER marry someone who is abusive to you, if you don't want a lifetime of misery!

jacks my boy

that deosnt work, they are actually better while you are dating. Once you are married to them, they dont think you will go anywhere like you could if you were dating. It just gets worse and worse and worse. If you are in this situation, please dont marry him, dont date him, dont see him. Once you forgive them they see it as okay and permission to keep going

CindyLu

NO NO NO it will not get better it will get worse because men who think that way will now consider you his property and feel he has even more right to abuse you BECAUSE you are HIS wife.

There is only one thing to do with an abusive boyfriend and it is not to marry him it is to RUN RUN RUN. If you marry this man I promise you will have a miserable life full of pain bruises and broken bones and that is up until he finally kills you. DO NOT MARRY THIS GUY, JUST GET AWAY AS FAST AND AS FAR AS YOU CAN

EmmaRoo

Marriage does not change the way you treat someone at best he will become more abusive because he will see this marriage as ownership of you. You need to get away from him now. Abusive men don't change. I know my dad is an abusive man and he has never changed no matter what any of his kids or my mother did for him.

lyja

i don't think so. if he is abusive to you when you are atill bf-gf, chances are, he will be more abusive when you get married. you see, it is normally in the bf-gf stage that men shows their best character. i don't think he will change. better think again if you really want to marry him.

Cheryl F

NO. Nothing else needs to be said.

free_angel

I'd dump him and wouldn't stick around to find out.

x__brand_new

No, if a man is abusive towards you he will not suddenly stop just because you are married. If anything, it could and most likely will get worse. There is no excuse for a boyfriend to be abusive, ever. Nobody should ever stick around in a relationship like that, and should definately not marry the guy until he gets some professional help for his behavior.

stseukn

NO, he will NOT be less abusive! Marriage is work and while it will make a good relationship great, it will make a bad relationship absolutely miserable. Add a kid or two to that and it's utter hell. It will only get worse. RUN, do not walk away from this relationship.

coolbeanie27

If your boyfriend is abusive to you while dating....run far and fast in the other direction...better yet call the police and have the idiot arrested. Things will get even worse when you marry him...he'll think he then OWNS...you like a piece of property. Been there once and have seen it many many times.

Good Luck and run fast !

Grapes

ABSOLUTELY NOT! Once you're married, it gets worse. A man should NEVER NEVER EVER lay a forceful hand on his girlfriend/ wife. That is a major red flag.

&d. i. l. i. hawt;

hah no

StarKrossedEyes

actually he will be more abusive. men have a thing that we control the women we have in our lives. and if hes abusive now...only expect it to get worse. also the more it happens theeasier it can be for him. it creates and control. leaving a woman nowhere to go when all the control is taking

mominkansas03

My ex husband was. He didnt start mentally or physically abusing me until we were married. RUN now dont take any more. Get out NOW!!!

dlmrgnk

He'll be MORE abusive because you'll be "his". He'll respect you less. Yes, I know of many abusive men and there are NO ex-abusive men. Very, very seldom do they stop and can't--without extensive help and very strong motivation.

magnolia813

NO, absolutely NOT...I am speaking from experience here and they only get worse , not better...Once you are married then you are truly their piece of property and then you get pregnant and you have brought a child into this mess..Honey,,please believe me, I say this from the heart, a broken one at that, you can not change a person unless he or she feels they have a problem...Most of the time once an abuser always an abuser in one form or another. The cycle of abuse is a dangerous one that seems to cycle faster and more painful once you commit..He may tell you now the only reason he is doing this is he loves you so much and is so afraid of losing you that he can't control himself. Then comes the "if you would only marry me then I would not feel so insecure and would not have to be so jealous, well he is feeding you a line, which he might even believe himself..But trust me.,.it will only get worse and worse the longer you stay and Please don't marry him.....

Jeffrey P

seriously, it will only get worse, never better.

Syann M

If your boy friend is abusive that is really not good. The minor problems you have now are nothing!

Think about when you get married how much frustration and problems will come up that will get him mad and stressful which im guessing = abuse

My advice is to get out of this situation usually abusive men get more abusive as the relationship gets deeper because more problems arise

Best of luck

Tee

It will definately be the same or even worse. Don't marry him please!

kiss4u

No he will be more abusive!!! get away from him you do not deserve this treatment. How can you tell your children you knew this and still married him.Girl look in the mirror and say my little child I love you so much i wanted you to grow up with a Daddy that abused his wife and your Mommy. I did this for you. There is a man out there that will love you and your children. He will put them first.

anotherguy

Absolutely not. The best indication of future behavior is present and past behavior. I don't know how he is being abusive, but if you feel abused, you need to stay away from him. Someone who really cares about you will not make you feel that way. You will feel better about yourself, and be happier, if you leave him.

DCK2003

No, if you get married the abuse will get worse. He will have you "trapped". It is alot easier to walk away from a relationship than a marriage. Alot cheaper to. You should attend a domestic violence support group. You will learn real fast you are putting yourself in a dangerous situation and he most likely will never change because the pay off for him is the control.

mommasquarepants

Usually it gets much worse. End it NOW. What happens if children get involved and he starts beating up on them too? No child deserves that. That is completely ridiculous. Do not think that just because you get married, it eases up. The reality is it just gets worse. You may end up in the hospital one day. Please get out NOW, if not for your sake, then for your future children that don't deserve to be in a situation that they see their mother abused or get abused themselves....please I beg you.....please. IT IS NOT WORTH IT.

No matter what he has you believing, you do NOT DESERVE THIS. He deserves to have his d*** cut off for treating you like this. You can do MUCH MUCH MUCH better. YOU DO NOT DESERVE IT.

kalea_kane

Getting married is not going to make an abuser any less abusive. The only thing that will help that is therapy and a genuine desire to change. I would not marry him as he is now.

Alyssa C

If my man even raised his hands on me he's eat the floor! Any women who lets a man hit her and does not leave deserves it because there stupid to stay and they have low self esteem and no respect for herself.

SAK

The truth---if he is abusive now while you are dating, that is just a sample of what you would be going thru once he is married to you! It won't get better for you-it will get worse. Please, if he has told you anything like that, that is a 100% LIE! Guys like that, once you are married to them, you are their "property", you best do as they say, when and how they say, or you'll "get it". Guys like this don't know what respect is. They know what fear is, to make you scared of them. They call that respect-for them only. Not for you. At all. Yes, my ex husband was abusive. He didn't hit me, but he did show his temper in other, not so safe ways. A good movie for you to watch, is "The Burning Bed". I think the name of another one is "Stranger In My Bed". These are movies of women who have been abused, and how dangerous it can get. Please, if your boyfriend is being abusive to you now, get away from him ASAP! Get a restraining order on him ASAP! I'm serious. Please, in your area, locate a Center For Battered Women. Your guy can't know what you are doing, or definitely NOT where you are going. Find out from them, get some literature from them about abuse. I truly wish you the best. Take care.

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