If your husband...?

ilse72

Yes, I see it as an excellent reason for a divorce. As you said, the trust is gone. And, on top of that, sorry to say that once a cheater, always a cheater. You would never be able to trust him again as odds are, he will cheat again.

He committed adultery. That is an accepted reason for divorce.

jbpammy004

When you married him he promised to honor you, love you and cherish you. Is that his way of doing it? He has broken the vows he took with you. It is definitely grounds for divorce.

MR. Tumnus

Well, if he does it, then he didn't uphold his vows either. I would leave him. Once a cheater, always a cheater.

tward051893

Heres the vows nothing about not divorcing him after being cheated on

"Dearly beloved, we are gathered here in the sight of God, and in the presence of this company, to unite __ and __ in holy matrimony. Marriage was ordained by God in Eden and confirmed in Cana of Galilee by the presence of the Lord, and is declared by the Apostle Paul to be honorable among all men. On this occasion we begin by asking God's blessing on this marriage service. Let us pray."

Different traditions within the Christian faith each have a standard exchange of vows, which except for a few words that don't vary much. Take, for example, these Presbyterian vows:

"Do you, __ take __ to be your (wife/husband)? Do you promise to love, honor, cherish and protect her/him, forsaking all others and holding only unto her/him?" ("I do")

"I __ , take thee __ , to be my (wife/husband) to have and to hold, in sickness and in health, for richer or for poorer, and I promise my love to you.."

"With this ring, I thee wed; all my love, I do thee give."

macyourmac

Well your asking yourself and others should you get a divorce. So that kind of says you still think in a way that you can forgive him. If you can truly forgive him then you might be able to work through it. But if you are going to throw it in his face now and then and your always going to wonder where he's at, then it won't work. It really depends on whether you can forgive him or not. Good Luck!

rkrell

He married you agreeing to be always love you and be true to him. He broke this marriage first and by leaving him you are just canceling what is no longer valid. You can't stay married to someone you can't trust and you can't be happy in a marriage like this. Divorce is an ugly thing but he caused this not you.

DMASTER

I hate cheaters you will never be able to trust him again. Divorce him, you deserve better.

buddafull54

you promised for better or worse, that doesn't include somebody else. in most states that is a crime! not just pity, thats see ya later baby. that is always a grounds for divorce. and its called for fault. you even get extra in your settlement because he did you wrong. understand?

bbq

i think that once there has been a breach of contract, all bets are off, baby

chastityelizabeth

leave THE FOOL !!!!

blessedonengod

Time to leave. He has slept with the woman. He's not thinking about your feelings. Love is saying I'm faithful and commotted to one person. Love is knowing your limits.
Apparently he has forgotten those boundaries. go ahead and file divorce. I would.

JeffyB

Point well taken, but plenty of women cheat on their husbands too. Are you advocating that men take a similar "get tough" approach with their wives?

txhypnotist

I think anyone who does not know this answer belongs on the Blue Collar TV show, as a joke.

Divorce is justified.

yellodaiseys

Sometime people can't leave due to sentimental reasons. Notice that you have to use the work mental in sentimental!

hey yo

sure..she can file for a divorce on the basis of adultry by him.

tesha

i think yes u should get a divoce if u promise him that u still can love him no matta what even if yall 2gether or not that love with still be there he just want

rainbow75051

If you don't think you can ever trust him again then it is a good reason for a divorce. But if yu think it's a relationship that can be saved then you have to decide if you want to save it. divorce should not be a an easy answer. But you should stay when your unhappy. at least that what i think.

tomcut2000

It is a good reason for divorce because he is not loving you anymore

Cinty

if hes an *** then u leave him but if u know that u r soulmates r some crap like that talk the situation out with him and if he just doesnt want to be wit u anymore just get a divorce.

recipe_addict

biblically, adultery is an acceptable reason to get a divorce.

amberharris20022000

leave the looser

ur right about the marriage vows, but it's according how much u believe in yalls marriage vows. First of all do u still love him and want to try to work this out? This is a difficult situation for u b/c u have to b the one to decide if he's worth another chance or not. Regardless of ur choice, the trust u once had for him, is gone. and u will always b wandering if he's lying (cheating) etc. It will take a long time for u to be able to trust him again and then u have to remember; usually when something like this takes place, the feelings etc., will never b the same. But I'm not saying that u can't work it out, it will just take alot of time b/c time is the only thing that will ease ur pain and help u answer this question. do a pro and con list on ur husband and see which one out does the other or do they balance out. But if this has happened more than once, divorce him, ur heart has already been through to much. Best of Luck

nemraC

That is one thing I would divorce for. I couldn't let him kiss my lips after I knew where his were.

resource man

what ever you can handle and be happy it is up to you
life is more complex thing simple quick answers

celticwoman777

This would definitely count as the worst of for better or worse part of her wedding vows. And I do understand how angry and hurt she must be. But I hope she will give her marriage another chance. She and her husband need some serious marriage counseling. If she's unwilling to go with him she could get some counseling for herself, alone, and he could join in later on. It will be hard for her to trust him again. Eventually she could reach the point where she can forgive him. Not forget, but forgive. I do believe a marriage can survive infidelity if both people are willing to do the work it is going to take. I pray your aunt will choose counseling and reconciliation. Bless you for caring enough to ask.

sweetangel_shanah

i think yes people make mistakes and if he is willing to go through counseling with you then you at least owe it to your marriage to make it work, but sometimes people feel like that is the ultimate deception and they can not ever get past it and then it is OK to divorce him because if you can not be happy then you also owe it to yourself to be happy

eliasulmonte

YES!!! Matthew 19, Jesus said the only reason to get a divorce was for JUST THAT. If he has an affair, he destroyed the purpose of the marriage. Everything else, people should stay married and make it work. Unless, the husband is abusive. Then, you need to get away as fast as you can, call the cops, and make sure he suffers.

ugafan

you'll have to decide what you want to do on your own.

madmochamama

If you can forgive and forget and I mean like not bring it up every time your mad at him you should be all right. And if you can't try couples therpy to try and work it out after all you owe it to your marriage if you love each other. If that doesn't work and you just can't get past it and all talking has been done to death and you still can't get off it then look for a divorce.

G-man

Well DUH yeah you have to divorce the A S S H O L E

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