If your husband cheating on you after 4 years of marriage what would you do? give him a second chance?

northwestguy45

Don't listen to all the narrow minded answers you received.
Like many relationship issues, there are few black and white answers.
You have to consider many things, do you love him, does he love you, is he truly sorry, are you two happy together.
You never know, this could just strengthen your relationship.

myogthebest

Dear th BEST u can do is gv him a chance n th way u said tht it ws ur best friend so wht u really need to do is,cut losse tht friend of urs,well u need to b clear with ur huby n whn i say clear tell him wht u will do if u see somthing like this again, n let him know tht how u felt about all this n how close tht friend of urs ws to u, Dear relationship is all about comunication between hunsband n wife, so to get ur self respect bak let him know wht he did to u n anyway way u know tht wht is gud fr u, sweety u r th one who knows who love whom th best n at th same time remeber this too tht if u frgive him now u better b ready tht he will do it again, so u make sure n ask him why he did this, wht answer he givs u tht shud b th BEST answer to ur this question which u asked here on yahoo.
u can get husband n friend again but th SELFRESPECT n UR LOVE N RESPECT FR HIM U CANT, so b bold n make a gud desition which can help u n ur relation.

JennyJo

Absolutely not! You deserve better. He is a snake. He will try to manipulate you and make you think of all the good things in the relationship but trust me it isn't worth it. DONT stay with him!

jen1999_81

hell no if he did it once he will do it again

LOST

well he did it once he will do dis twice divorce him as fast as u can

glossyflossy13

no u shouldn't it's wrong if u really know then u should get a divorce unless u have kids u should give him a second chance u never know but still if ur not having kids u should divorce him because if ur pregnant then u wouldn't want ur kid to get hurt

texasyellowbird

God doesn't allow it,it is a sin to divorce,its death do you part.

sarajane1251

gbf

jigsawinc

It is ultimately your decision. You know him better than anyone and you know your history together. Some people think that cheating is the death of a relationship and once upon a time I thought that too. Now I am older and have been married to the same man for a long time, and I think I would have to consider a few things before I just ended everything. First, it was probably not ALL his fault. It takes two to cheat and your supposed best friend could have told him no but didn't. Second, there must have been some things going on that led him to that point. You need to ask yourself if you are willing to work through this and give your marriage another chance. It would probable be very helpful to get some counseling to help both of you begin to sort out the hurt and anger. Counseling can also teach you both to communicate better. He definitely broke a sacred trust and it will take time to earn that back, but if your relationship has the other basic elements of respect, faith, compassion, communication and even laughter, you can make it through the rough times. When it comes down to it, it really doesn't matter what anyone else thinks or says. This is your life and heart and you need to do what is best for you.

cocoanutt

That's a very difficult thing to deal with, but from what I know there are many reasons other than the pure physical ones why husbands or wives cheat. I highly suggest counseling for both of you. If he refuses to go then it's your decision whether or not to stay with someone who isn't willing to put 100% into his marriage.

Cattales

Once a cheater, always a cheater, get out before you got kids that will get hurt, assuming they aren't already. He did it once, he will do it again, and besided that, the trust is gone, you will never act the same, never truely forgive or forget. He destroyed your marriage, end it now or end it later. This story always ends the same.

sparkling_apple

Talk to your husband and ask him why he did it. Get rid of your friend first. If you really love your husband and he is regretful for doing what he did and is willing to work thins out and get counseling, than I think you should give it a second try.

Sometimes marriages have bumps and those bumps can sometimes test our love for the other person. Don't make a quick judgment. Take sometime away from your husband and think about what you feel in your heart. If you want to try again try, but if he continues to sleep around on you, then let him go and find someone who will respect you and love you for the person you are.

Pancakes

Think of all the lives and friendships he destroyed for an orgasm.

rebel_hotchick

NO ONE CAN MAKE THAT DECISION BUT YOU. YOU KNOW HIM BEST. SO DO WHAT YOU THINK IS BEST. YOU'LL KNOW WHAT TO DO.

can_yew_hear_me_now

no dont give him **** he is the one that missed up and jsut pop yo EX FRIEND ( hope so ) in her face and just leave him along and divorce him

somer1j

nope,and hell no!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!cause once he dose it he will do it again

Uncle Tim

Personally? No. But, it is your decision. Only you know what is in your heart and whether you can forgive him or not. Good luck.

wmp55

Whether you give him another chance is up to you. But you need to cut the "best friend" loose forever.

fishermanswife

I would get rid of the girlfriend and keep the hubby. Of course he will have to suffer for his behavior....just kidding. Go to a marriage counselor and set some new lifestyle changes for both of you which will benefit your relationship down the road. Everyone makes mistakes and forgiveness is essential in a life long marriage. Don't be like so many other couples who throw away their marriage the first time something goes bad. You both will screw up in one way or the other throughout the years. Don't get walked all over but, give it a try.

Just a friend.

Clearly you did something wrong to make him cheat. You need to take care of him and forgive. It wasn't his fault.

oklaneal

I once cheated on my wife and had got caught she forgave me and even though I saw every bit of trust fall from her with my very eyes and see the hurt I brought to her by my own selfishness she was woman enough to forgive me and it was an eye opener because I had really just fell more in love with her I would never do that again but through her unconditonal love and her forgiveness really showed me what kind of woman i have and when we go out as a family to enjoy ourselves I often thin that one moment she could have tossed me out I would have never got to see this day

LaLa Land Gal

Not ever!!!! I would forget about him!! His is so not worth it!!!

lester

OH, HELL NO! He's probably has done it before... think about when you dated... were there any suspecions? Were there times you didn't know where he was? You forgive him this time, and he'll do it again down the road. Never fails. The 2 of you should go to counseling if you love him that much and work it out. If they cheat there is an underlying problem there.

susan

ONCE A CHEATER...ALWAYS A CHEATER!....Get rid of him as fast as you possibly can!

Peach Godiva

no. divorce him. it is the only reason God allows for a divorce. so you know if God allows it, then it is more than okay.

JOLIE69

NO! you never know hun...leave him..don't make the coward feel like a champ...pleasae...don't get hurt!

:-(

good luck

wee man !

don't even give him a second thought,never mind a 2nd chance!!

Yah00_goddess

Only you can answer that. Do you think you can forgive him, or has he caused permanent damage to the marriage?

Marriage is about trust and respect. There are plenty of marriages that have survived adultery. Only you can answer if it's worth it.

B-Rookey

Wow...that's a double blow. Your husband cheats and your best friend is the other woman. Personally I would not give EITHER one of them a second chance. But that's me. You gotta do what feels right for you.

Let me give you once piece of advice however, do not take him back without going to counseling first.

Good luck...

Momo

Hell. F*** NO!!

LeLee

Don't listen to the "once a cheater, always a cheater" comments. Can't put everyone into one category and say they will all behave the same way.

I was in a similar situation two years ago, and weirdly enough it was after four years of marriage too. My husband and I have worked things out for the most part. There are still some trust issues there, but things are pretty good. In the end though, it's up to you if you are willing to forgive and move on. There are some excellent websites out there, with advice on this subject. They helped me out a great deal. Good luck.

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