If your husband had a 13 year affair with ex, what would you do?

I dont know this sounds like a soap opera

AVA

If the husband is telling the truth then he shouldn't have any problem with a little test called DNA.

Although the woman has alot of knowledge about the husband this in an of itself is not enough to condemn him. If he is still carrying on then she should be able to get the goods easily enough.
She should find out where the girl lives and as her friend you can help with the drivebys to see if he is there.

Don't be too quick to say she isn't lying as she could just be some obsessed person he came across.

Lastly, if she does get the proof she is seeking then she hasn't any choice but to divorce him in view of the length of the affair.

With 3 children she should make sure she takes him to the cleaners. Let's see how romantic his other relationship is when he is broke broke broke for the next 10 years or so. He will probably start coming to her behind the girls back. If he is cheating he is Scum and she deserves to be with someone who has more respect for her and all she has done by giving him 3 beautiful children.

Suthern R

Seems to me that their marriage is nothing but a lie as far as her husband is concerned and she should get out. If he has done this for this long, he will not stop. She should also let the ex's husband know everything she knows.

brooklyncrazysexycool

This story is sort of close to home for me I come from a long line of infidelity in my own family.My dad had several affairs had 2 illegitimate kids by 2 different women.The first kid he tried to hide but my mom found out and eventually forgave him for.Only to find out he did it again so they divorced after 25yrs.And then she found out he had the 2nd child but didn't know during the marriage.There's a hell of alot more to this story but not enough time.So if I were you're friend I would divorce him the ex knows way to much for it not to be true.And her husband has no respect for their marriage and obviously no love for her or he wouldn't have done it in the first place.And on top of that lie about it that's really messed up I truly feel for her.Hope things get better because she deserves much better than she has right now.

sarah k

Kick the low-life out and I would make sure the other woman's husband knew all about it aswell!!!!!

ShanneninGR

Honey, she needs to ask this question for herself. If she is asking you, her friend, what to do, tell her you can't make that decision for her. Only your friend knows what's best for her and her kids. We all have our own opinions (like my first reaction was "kick him to the curb girl!), but seriously, it's her life and her kids life. It's her marriage and her husband's marriage. Only she can make the best choices for her own situation.

cellphone_lady

All parties involved need to get together and find out the truth. Then it is up to the non cheating spouses to figure out what they are gonna do with the situation. My ex-husband cheated on me for several yrs. I tried to make our marriage work but it takes both people wanting it. I am now remarried and in a great marriage. I will say this, it doesn't take 2 to make a marriage work, it takes 3. You, your spouse and God.

zubi_mir211

that meen his wife live in kookoo land.........u no kookoo land near ice land

SuCH_a_PrInCeSs:)

I am so sorry boo. You need to LEAVE HIS A$$!!!! and quick! because he deceived you the whole time and now you're whole relationship was a complete lie! I'm glad you didn't hospital run his a$$ because I couldn't do it. You need to take your children and move with someone you trust and get a divorce! Try your best to be there for your children and move on.

nwnativeprincess

DYSFUNCTIONAL, SCREWED UP FOLK.

NONAME

Damn..... he must be really good to pull that off for so long.

Let me get his email address.....

Kat

They both need counseling if they want to stay married. The kids are affected the most. lts too difficult to forgive someone who has hurt you for many years. Most men would never admit even if they were caught. lts stupid but they keep on denying it. l would really be angry if it happened to me. She has to be strong for herself and for her kids. l wish her peace of mind.

lollipop

She has some hard choices to make. Together she and the ex could confront her husband. Both of them should be very angry as he is treating both disrespectfully. But she may get at the truth that way.

If it is true, and the ex is willing to forgive him, he will lay off the affair for a few months, then be right back at it, only more carefully. If the ex doesn't forgive him, the odds are really high that he will find someone to replace her.

Marriage counseling may help. It will at least satisfy you friend that none of this is her fault. She has been a good wife, mother, etc, and offer her some choices for the future of this and other relationships.

TLC

File for divorce, contact the other husband and let him know all the info, get a DNA on the child. He broke the covenant of marriage when he commited adultery---you don't have a marriage you have a situation.

Loosing my mind

I think that this man doesn't want to hurt his wife but by lying is. His heart really lies with the ex, but doesn't want to leave the current wife because he is afraid he will be alone. I don't think that he did any of this to hurt anyone sometimes things just happen. His wife needs to leave. Sounds to me like no matter what he says-his heart is with the ex....it will hurt for a while but everyone involved will be better off.

Curious J.

Leave the relationship. Even if they do have three children together the kids don't need a life like that and neither does your friend. Why punish herself and her babies? He's made his bed now let him lye in it!!

Lucky 7

She either lives with a cheater or divorces him!!
Maybe if she threatens divorce; he'll stop!

stive br

I think it's better not to speak about the past, but look at how is his
behavior with you now. Then decide what is an appropriate action.

Good luck.

pLaYgAl

kill him.

homes

Forgive both of them and salvage the marriage.

That's my final answer

DIVORCE and get those kids out of there, or they will grow up thinking deception is ok and they will not trust anyone them selves. He is cheating on the whole family.

Fantasy686

looks like its time for divorce, I would kick his *** to the curb

tallerfella

Your friend's not the not the brightest bulb on the string is she........

She should take his stuff outside and set it all on fire.

laura_lovely_sweet

She should tell her husband he is a coward for not telling the truth and that he can't have his cake and eat it too any longer because she is going to leave him. If he is willing to admit he has been making a drastic mistake and swears to change his ways then maybe they could have a chance but if I were her I would have a lot of trouble ever trusting him again because even when he is caught he continues to lie! MEN!

slimchuckie

it's funny you say this because my boyfriend and i broke up in December of last year and got back together the last week of January. he told me all he could think about was us and that he stayed with a cousin of his while we were apart, but come to find out he was lying. he moved with a high school sweetheart and they were dating. she told me everything and again i believed her because she knew a little too much. he claims to this day that she was lying and is jealous of our relationship. because we weren't together when this happened i am still with this man. as for the trust well it's a little shaky. as for your friend tell her that the truth will come out. ask the other woman to take a paternity test and he won't be able to deny that.

Lotus

Your friend needs to call this chick's husband and tell him everything. Get a dna test on the 7 yr old girl (poor little kid). She needs to divorce him. 13 years of lying does not bode well for the future. The woman's husband needs to know, too. Good luck to you all. You are a good friend to be concerned.

erica

Leave, it isn't going to stop.

lil redneck

3 things come to mind... a gun, a shovel and a bag of Lyme! I doubt anyone would miss either of them! just kidding! Actually I'd Divorce him take him for everything he has including child support and alimony and they could be happy together supporting me and the kids the rest of their lives! Turn about is fair play!!

Ladeebug71

She needs to file for DIVORCE and take EVERYTHING!!!! He is a PIG!!!!!!!

floridaman39us

If it was me, I would scream and jump up and down. After I calmed down, I would pack my bags and move to Beverly....Hills that is.....Swimming pools, movie stars........Yall come back now, ya hear?

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