If your mate cheated would you ever truly be able to forgive them?

ashlorene84

Yes I think its possible. It would be hard and the person who cheated would have to show the other that, it would be hard work but if you could put it pass you then your relationship in the future could be better, but if it continues then there's no excuse for either one of you. After its done with and if you have forgave your mate then forgive and forget. Don't bring it up all the time cause it could hinder the relationship.

boo kitty's idol

I would be able to forgive them, but I would never be able to COMPLETELY trust them again.

deb35802

Forgive yes. However trusting them again would take some time.

dad

The problem isn't forgiving its forgetting . You can go for days weeks months without feeling hurt and loving everything about them then one day they do something like check out a person and all those memories come back of all the hell you went threw . Maybe if you had amnesia you could

sassyredhead1968

There's no quick answer to this question. It is totally dependent on the person involved and your history together. For example: Has it happened before? How long have you been together? Was it a one night stand or a long drawn out affair? Are children involved? Is it possible for the person still "run into" the other? Do they work together? The list of questions can go on and on. My immediate gut instinct is to say that I might forgive them but the relationship would be over, but you never truly know what you'll do until you get there.

david

Honestly, I am very particular when it comes to cheating. It is the one thing I personally could not get past. I love my wife ever so dearly but to answer your question honestly. I would have to say "no."

catgirl

No.

Brianna

As a person, sure....eventually. As a mate, never. A person without integrity isn't worth having around as anything...let alone a life partner.

presleygirl

Yes forgive, God desires that. However, I'm pretty sure the relationship would be over. I had a wonderful friend who kept forgiving. Eventually she got physically ill, lost much weight and couldn't sleep, she had to let go of the marriage because 'forgiving' is no guarantee the cheater will change. You forgive for your own sake, I guess..

bluec4grace

if you cheated to you might feel like o well but it will always be in your mind and you wont trust him al the way ,,, but if you did'nt cheat on him and he did you probably will always hold it against him and you might forgive but won't forget i don't think you will trust him again when his not around you'll wonder if his cheating even more when you 2 get into a fight

lonewolf

Queen B, Forgiving is doable but forgetting is nearly impossible !

Sweet Suzy 777!

Yes you can forgive. You make the decision with your mind first and then it takes a while to get down to your heart. God says you have to forgive everyone, every transgression against you. But that doesn't mean you have to lay down and be their doormat. It will be very hard to regain any kind of trust with them. Trust will have to be earned by your mate.
When ever it comes up into your thoughts again, remind yourself that you have forgiven the hurt and pray for your mate and pray God will help you.

cope_acetic

never!

bonngirl4645

yes, depending on the situation. if it was a one time thing that happened and after much talking and expressing of each others feelings, i could forgive. as for trusting like some have mentioned, if i forgave him enough to not end things, then eventually id be able to trust him. people make mistakes. you have to look at the person and the whole situation.

tannerlady

April

A friend, who has been a marriage counselor for 30 years tells me that fewer than 20% of marriages with betrayal last much past 2 years.

(Chaise) s.

I'll be able to forgive him.but I don't that I will be able to trust him.and if you don't have trust what do you have.without trust the relationship will diminish.

No because it's easy to forgive, forgetting is the hardest.

MNature

Mine did, and I go back and forth on the issue of forgiveness. The trust will never be what it once was.

scandleight

shelly

I will be able to forgive but not forget and futher I would not stay with someone who chaeated in fear that they may do it again

Lisa

It would be really hard. Even though one may be able to forgive superficially, I think they will never forget and the trust will never be there like it once may have been.

mouses1

Yes! With No Problem!

sunlight11

it will never be the same.... even if u tried.. eventually you will remember and if u fight .u will think about it all over again.. Kinda hard to just forgive and forget.. sumthings never get deleted from memory...

destiny k

you can always forgive them. however forgetting is the hard part. you have to find it in yourself to decide whether or not. you can move passed this and carry on in the relation ship. and if your mate is trully sorry for this action they will go out of there way to remove most any of the fears you have about them doing it again. it is something that may take a long time to get past but yes it is possible.

Sarah

I've heard of people claiming they have forgiven but I don't know if I believe that is truly possible.

My personal experience is that sometimes they can't even let go of the suspicion with any subsequent partners. I was continually accused of cheating because his ex did.

I guess it would depend on the person and their level of self worth. There are many factors that could affect the willingness and ability to forgive.

lil g

nope...thats why if it happens you really should consider calling it quits, before you spend years always thinking of what happened and what could happen

phorwanted

No!!!

mskennysluv

I would if he is honest about it and I don't have to find out on my own or from someone else.

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