If your spouse got in a car accident, would you leave?

sunbun

hell no I would not leave...what kind of spouse would that be...through the good and the bad

chowderboxallnite

that is a tough question that many people can not answer until it happens. You didn't marry an invalid. But if you only care about the physical being then maybe you shouldn't have been married in the first place.

Quasimodo

Gee....a shame you couldn't speak to Christopher Reeves and his wife. Unfortunatly they're both dead but I think that answers your question.

nikki f

Of course I would not leave.. When i said my vows it was for better or worse, sickness and in health.. and I meant it.. that would be my job as his wife to help him through such a tragic event in our life..

gypsy g

This is horrible. If my spouse had been a good person I would have stayed with them regardless of whether or not they were in a car accident and badly burned. When you love someone you love them for who they are on the inside.
If anyone answers that they would then they should never get married.

buk84

i HONESTLY would stay. 1. because i love that person and 2. because i would think they needed me and depended on me too much for me to just up and go.

i would seriously consider what they must being going through and try to look at the situation from their p.o.v.

it would not matter whose fault it was. and i can always find a way to support myself.

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hell NO!!! he is my life companion, and i will always be with him thru thick and thin!

i love my hubby dearly, and as long as my heart still beats, it will love him, untill God parts us.

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i know it sounds corny, but thats how i feel.

Michelle

Wow...good question... If I was married, I would not leave him. If "we" were dating...I would try to make it work.

dave n

If you would leave a spouse when they needed you most you need to reevaluate and leave now. Through thick and thin remember that part.

Valerie X

NEVER NEVER NEVER.

I am loyal to the core.

I am his lady. He can count on my love and loyalty. Today and always.

elvlayarvvi fEisty wife and mom

I would stay because I love him. (for better or worse, sickness and health, richer or poorer, forsaking all others) End of Story. =)

STROMBOLI-KRAKATOA JR

When love is real unless the person injured ask you to leave one must stay the course... love shows no barriers like wheel chairs or burns or anything, love, real love is for life...

Doctor M

that hot chick

This is the question I ask myself to determine my love for another individual. Helps me to figure out if I love a man or not. If I can answer this question with a yes I'd have no second thought about staying. I'd take care of this man no matter what. When you get married the vows say in sickness or health. If you said I do , you made a commitment before God to do this . Then again People divorce at an alarming rate so I guess my theory goes out of the window. I would never leave my husband because of an accident. People that do that didnt love there husbands before the accident. I would take care of him, but that's just my nature, I'd take care of anyone if they needed help.

Poppet

I would stay. He is my husband, I love him, and...well...that's it.

Curious G

It would all depend on our bond befoe the accident. If it was a strong tie, then all the below would happen, but if i was just going through the motions, then i"d probably bail after a month.

I would stay.No. He;'s my husband, i married him for better or worse. I'll just look at it this way; he married me knowing I was disabled. He loved me knowing this too. So now that he's in the same boat, what's the difference...we'll have more in common now. It would be because i loved them and appreciated them. That would be the only way i could stick it out...because guilt would fade after a while. If they got SSD, then the support would be there, and even if not, God will provide....hopefully, and as for attraction...as long as he's still the same guy(as much as he can be), that i fell for, his appearance won't really matter. I'm not saying it won't at all(I"m not saint), but personality usually trumps appearance for me...and yeah, hygene would be the equalizer.

But if i seriously couldn't handle it anymore, and I had a support system that would help me leave...and of course, above all, his blessing(which he'd give me if he loved me), then yeah, I'd leave....but only after a good effort on my part.

Hope this helps.

*~*love always*~*

I would stay because he is still alive and I love him. I lost my boyfriend when I was 6 weeks pregnant with our son and I would much rather have him in my life even if he was burned and in a wheelchair!

Top Cat

I would stay because although looks are important in a relationship this is an exception and what is more important is the bond/relationship

furthermore if she was the one that would be supporting me I would look for ways to get help somewhere else

DizzyUpTheGirl

Why would you even question that.Yes,that would be tough.But you married for better or for worse,and sickness and in health.So thats a given.

wilson7878@sbcglobal.net

No way would I leave my husband, I love my husband very much.

eeyore6838

Yes, looks aren't everything, to death do us part, if you really love that person. most people that bail, either didn't really love that person, or is usually the pain in the butt person of the relationship, but if the person with the back bone is the caregiver they will stay.

sarah W

it is a very real possiblity my spouse will end up in a wheel chair. He could never be unattractive to me, I love him with my whole heart and its not because hes good looking even though he is. Its because hes the other half of my heart

Sally G

I would stay. And I would stay because I love him. If anyone would leave in a situation like that, then obviously their love was not genuine.

Mean Carleen

You dont marry for vanity...you marry for love (sounds cheesy i know) when you love someone you DONT bail on them because of a tragedy

danelady7

I was in a bad head on collision with my 2 small children in the car. One daughter was 7 years old and the other was 1 and a half years old. My girls were taken to the nearest hospital and I was life flighted to another. When I woke up at the trauma unit my husband looked at me and said, :How would you like to own a pest control company?" Only later did I find out that I was hit by a pest control company truck. But, my husband did not say to me, "I'm glad you're alive" or "The girl's are fine don't worry" He was only interested in how much money he could make off of my accident. That sentence made me hate him all the more. I did not want him around me. I didn't care if I never walked again. Anyone who would stick around out of guilt wasn't meant to be there in the first place.When you love someone everything else doesn't matter.

I would stay. I made a vow, in sickness & in health. I've had many surgeries and I've looked horrible through some of those surgeries and he's stayed and took care of me. I could never abandon him because he was disfigured or disbabled, whether it was his fault or not. I'm attracted to his heart more than his phyical features (which will fade eventually anyway). Good luck. 2D

Brodie_Knows

I would never leave my husband but thanks !

oreo04

God forbid I was ever put to the test..however, I've met people who were burned very badly and it was hard to look at them..however, once I got to know them, I didn't see the burns any longer..they were wonderful people.
I would never leave my husband..he is my life and I can't imagine the pain he would be going through..For better or worse..I would hope God would give me the courgage to endure for him, not for me. I would be tormented watching him suffer. I would hope the true friends we had would be there to help, console and comfort. I know we would do the same for our friends. We don't always like the hand we're dealt but we have to deal with it and make the best of it. When we die, we all have different bodies that will be perfect..so just think of this earthly body as a shell only. People are who they are because of their heart and soul, not because of what they look like on the surface. A surface body is for others and it helps them to get to know the real you..the heart and soul. After that, it shouldn't make any difference if they are true friends. If they are not, you don't need them anyway. Yes it's very difficult to look at someone that has been burnt,,but they are still human beings and we just have to get past it. It could happen to any of us at any time..disfigurement is not something I'd wish on anyone but it does happen. Just let the person know you love them..you'll begin to see them differently and it won't matter anymore. IF you accept, then others will too..it won't be so frightening. You'll put others at ease. Try it!

Kann

NO I would never leave him because he is my life, my best friend, my everything really. Why get married if your going to leave when the going gets tough...For better or worse is part of the wedding vows. Plus when they are at their lowest is when they need you the most.

acosmotea

Uh, no I would never leave them if they got in a car accident and were burned, in a wheelchair, had legs amputated or whatever! Depending on why the accident happened and whose fault is was really would not be able to determine leaving either because it is my spouse who I love and want to spend the rest of my life with..........
First of all even answering this question is difficult because the thought of leaving them would ever cross my mind even if this was to happen?
You married them for better or for worse and for love.
Not to bail out when the something tragic happens to them.

I39

We have a good marriage to begin with, so I feel pretty secure that our marriage would hold up under such a challenge. Physical disfigurement would not be an issue for me. My husband is quite good looking, but that is far from his best quality. My brother in law is paralyzed from a car accident so I am familiar with what some of the challenges are in such a situation. If a marriage was troubled to begin with, it would be unlikely it would last under the stress. Why would it depend on whose fault it was?

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