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I would think so.
You are her husband.
I know if I cut my long hair, my husband would be disappointed.
It is not about control, it is about making your husband priority.
-If you care what your husband thinks, you should make him happy just like you want him to make you happy.
I know a lot of women who tell their husbands not to dress like a slob in a heartbeat and the husband will do what they ask because they want to please their wife. |
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Queen
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This is a major decision, but find out first why she cut it. Whether her hair is damaged or is she going through something. Talk to her show love and be sensible. Don't just jump right in acting all bent out of shape. My boyfriend loves my long dark hair and wants me to wear it down all the time. I like wearing it in different styles and diverse clips..., pony tails. etc. He has a mini fit, but when it all boils down it is my hair. My Head and I grew it!!!!
Just talk with her and see how she feels (FIRST) then tell her how you feel. ASk like do you want to know how I feel about it. Give examples. And talk it out. Please don't blow it out of whack. |
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yallerose
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You have the right to be sad but not mad. Have you ever had long hair? It is awful to wash, dry, condition, brush, hold down in the wind, etc.
Did you marry her or her hair?
One thing to remember about us women, we change our mind often, so she will eventually grow it out again. Try to be understanding. What if she wanted you to wear tights and grow a beard? |
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Dude
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I think you have every right to be upset.
However, not for too long. I mean, don't hold a grudge about it or get "revenge"
But let her know you're pissed, b/c you "thought it was so great" - - - - Try and make her feel good and guilty at the same time. |
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brittany
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as a wife who has long hair, my husband freaks everytime i go in for a haircut... he says he's afraid i'm going to come home with a "mom" haircut |
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krista a
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Let me tell you, i use to have hair i could sit on, and was very thick...My hubby had a fit when i cut mine off( and yes he was mad and didnt talk to me for days) but our doc told me to cut it off or deal with the headaches. Once he undersood that he was fine....I wear my hair about shoulder length now and i dont get the headaches anymore and it easier to take care of |
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finally happy =)
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well my mom did this to my father before they were married...and my father flipped...he loved my moms long hair and hated her short hair. he was upset but still loved her the same...
as for me i have long hair and my boyfriend loves my long hair. i have also been letting it grow more for him =) he really loves it and refers it over short hair anyday. i take really good care of my hair so only go to get my hair cut once a year and when i went this year he was upset...even thought they jsut relayered it. i think u do have the right to be upset she should of had made a deal with u..maybe cutting two inches off or something...a new hair cut for her but long enough that u stil llove it. and i would be upset if my boyfriend gained 50 pounds. i know love is not skin deep but i do expect him to keep up this appearance...he has gained ten pounds and it does not bother me a bit i still love him dearly! but would not want him to gain 50 and not try to lose it. same goes for me...i know he wouldnt like it as well...i think its time that u talk to her...dont be mad just tell her how u feel...calmy... |
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Alyssa M
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its her hair, she can do what she wants |
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Who Knew?
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Although it's her hair and she can do what she wants, i can understand why you would be upset
I haven't done something i really want to do to my hair because my husband wouldn't like it |
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cute_but_dangerous
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no you don't have the right to be mad. It's her hair. If she really liked dreads would she have the right to be mad if you didn't want them? |
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krinkn
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I think mad is probably a bit strong a reaction on your part. After all this is something that can easily grow back after a few years.
You may not love her hair style right now, but underneath it she is the same girl you've always loved. |
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Christina
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sure but it is her hair so get over it. this is not something that should upset you to the point where it causes an argument between you too. it is her hairand it will grow back maybe she needs a change or maybe she needed your attention and this is the only way to get it. good luck. |
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Jennifer
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You have the right to be mad. People don't like to see drastic physical changes in their significant other. My (now ex) fiance, forgetting it was my birthday, went into the bathroom for a little bit. I heard the electric razor going, so I thought "Oh, he's trimming his beard." 10 minutes later, he had come back out, and the nice beard he had was completely gone. He shaved it all off. I was so mad. He was too focused on applying for a job that day to care about my feelings. It wasn't even until we got to the place he planned to apply to that he realize it was my birthday. That was a horrible "birthday gift." So, I can see why you'd be upset. I just hope she warned you in advance.
I guess what's done is done. Let her know this disappointed you, and then do what you can to work with her and the new hair cut.
FYI: My relationship to my fiance did not end over this, but it is one of those many things that made me realize he only thought about himself anyway. |
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delanabobana
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Well, it is HER hair. I don't think you have the right to be mad, but perhaps, disappointed...?.... Hair will grow back. If she had cancer and lost her hair to chemo, you would still love her right? If she had breast cancer and had to have her breast removed, she'd still be your wife. The hair does not make the woman. I'm sure she looks lovely. Make sure you try to see the positive, and reassure her that although you truly loved her longer her, the short cut looks good on her. Once you calm down, you might want to mention that you miss her long hair, but if she chooses to keep it short, then you should respect that. Long hair is alot of work and requires time and effort. Life sometimes get in the way. |
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Jane Doe
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I completely understand what you are going through, as I have long hair, which I want to cut often, but I do not because my Husband has expressed his love of my long hair. I realize that it is my hair to do whatever with, but I respect that fact that he loves long hair on women and I want to impress him, not other people!! :) |
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mouseldr
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no not mad just hurt a little my boyfriend loves long hair but there is not much you can do with it thats the bad part i have really long hair and i get tierd of it to alot when you see every one running around with these nice pritty hair cuts and styles im like oow i like that he even tells me to go and get it done .i dont thow ill proble cry iv pulled up in a hair salon place and pulled out because i could bring my self to do it because im afraid that my boyfriend wont like it or my self one day i will do |
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Sandy Ego
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No, it's her choice. If you like long hair, grow yours out. |
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hyabusawife
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This is funny! I did this once. My hair was to my butt. He said "When i married you, your hair was long". My response was "When I married you, you still had hair." Get over it dude! Its hair! |
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latj
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No you do not have the right to be mad. This does not sound like this is even really about her cutting her hair. This sounds more like a control issue that you feel you lost. It is her hair. She cut it to make herself feel more attractive and perhaps so it would be easier for her to take care of. You married her, not her hair. Hair grows back, dignity doesn't. Don't make a fool out of yourself by making a bigger issue out of this than it really is. You may end up really liking it. Respect her wishes to do her hair as she pleases!!! |
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VV
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Your feelings are your feelings, and there's no saying an emotion is right or wrong.
Did your wife have every right to do whatever she wanted to do with her own hair? Absolutely!
There is no objective right or wrong here. If the two of you have agreed to consult each other about this type of thing, then a broken agreement is a broken agreement.
I wonder if you would expect to have to consult her, or if you think she'd have the right to be mad, if you made similar changes.
So you'll just gain 50 pounds?! What an immature and selfish reaction!! If you think your wife's short hair is as unattractive and unhealthy and disrespectful as you gaining 50 pounds, then YOU are the one with the wrong attitude about marriage!! Gees!! GROW UP!!!!!!!!!!!!! |
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Michelle A
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No...it's her hair. You can like her hair long but she is the one that has to deal with it everyday. I'm sure she didn't cut it to spite you, but to make her life easier everyday.
Remember, while she is your wife, she still has to also do what is best for her (as well as you), just like I'm sure you do what works for you (as long as it doesn't HURT your wife).
The bigger question is: why is it such a big deal to you.
Concentrate on the good and important things. These trivial matters just can't be that big a deal.
Remember, you love the woman, not her hair. Enjoy her and her shorter hair. |
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Bogie74
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My fiance and I had this very discussion last week! First, he feels the same as you do. My position is as someone above already stated, It's my hair! To the women who posted that they wouldn't make the changes they wanted to make because their husbands wouldn't like it - SHAME ON YOU! He married you for everything, not just your hair. Grow some cahoona's and do your thing! If it's going to make you happy then for pete's sake, DO IT! He'll get over it! |
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Mother M
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No... you do NOT have the right to be mad.
It's her hair...she is the one that has to deal with the challenge of taking care of it.
If you like long hair...grow yours! |
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Tina
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It may be beautiful and you may like the long hair, however she is the one that has to deal with her hair every single day of her life. If she cut it off...so be it. Hair does grow again if she decides to grow it back...but doubt she will. You will just have to learn to live with it the way it is! How would you like to be forced to do something with your body that you did not want to do?? There are more serious things in this life to deal with and be upset about ...then HAIR!! |
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Dolyn
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Gaining 50 pounds, and cutting your hair are 2 very different things. By gaining weight, a person has changed their lifestyle, is probably more u healthy and less active, and that is very bad for a marriage, I'm sure. However, cutting your hair is a whole 'nother ball game. While it's nice to consider your significant other when it comes to completely making yourself over, in the end it should be your choice, and your spouse should support you and love you.
My husband happes to haven the prettiest red hair you've ever seen. It's such a deep red, and it so thick, and i love to play with it. When I met him it was long and in a pony tail. After we got married, he got it a little more styled, but it was still long. Then, one day, he went to get a trim without me and the lady doing it misunderstood what he wanted. He only wanted 2 inches taken off, but she only LEFT 2 inches. He felt so weird, that he thought he might be able to look better if he shaved off his beard. I came home to man I have never seen before! For about 3 seconds I was furious because he had done this without consulting me. Then, I kissed him, laughed and told him "You better not be here when my real husband gets home!"
As it turns out, he likes the feel of the shorter hair. It's less hassle for him, so he keeps it shorter now. Sometimes I miss the old hair, but he's still my husband, and he has the right to comfortable. My love for him does not revolve around hair. My suggestion, get over it. She's your wife, not an accessory. |
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Garnet Glitter
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Her hair is her personal statement about her...not you. |
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Holly
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dude its hair..do you have anything better to get angry about? |
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Jack's mommy loves him tons
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I dont think you have the right to be mad. It's her hair and I'm sure she did not cut it just to cause a problem. My husband likes long hair, but it is so hard to maintain and style every morning that I like to keep mine short. It takes a lot to manage long hair. Don't be mad.. |
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Flaca_in_Az
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You need to let your hair grow so you can see what a hassle having long hair can be, shampoo , get it right b/c is to long even to go to bed..with a pony tail or a bun ..ect..ect....it can be really irritating..lol..Is she a good wife? if yes then her hair won't make any difference from the wife or a person he is towards you.Changing sometimes is good..specially in a female :)
Don't be mad at her there is nothing you can do at this point. Is there?..after all is her hair, her decision. ..Enjoy her new look :)
Chill :) |
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will216549
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no u should not say anything. I have been there and done that. with my ex wife. You should not even on knowledge, she cut her hair. That will piss her off |
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