If your wife was a widow before you married her, would you let her keep pictures of her first husband?

Dee

Since I am a widow I would hope that my next boyfriend/husband would understand why I would have a picture of my first husband. It is not like we were going to get a divorce he was taken away from me after 8 years of marriage. I think with a little bit of trust and understanding the picture(s) will not phase the other person. Not only that, but we have a 6 year old son and I will make sure that he has as many pictures of his father that he wants. If the new husband can not deal with it then tough.

Roger N

How bad do you want to keep her?
That would certainly seal your fate. I'd watch out...you may be the next pig in the fire while your asleep.

special_edd_yay

Are you serious or just an idiot? That was a love lost due to death, not divorce, YOU can not do anything but understand she has a past, and it was severed by an act of God. Feel proud that she was able to love again and found that love with you. But as far as LETTING her? Time to get over your insecure jealousy of the fact she had a man in her past.Grow up and Man up, it is not your place to LET her do anything. It is your place to support her.

Poppet

OMG! How dare anyone be so horrible as to destroy mementos from a marriage that ended honorably. I am absolutely disgusted with your question. You would be single again real f-ing quick!

Whoever would do this is a cowardly, insecure, selfish pr*ck.

Michele

dont burn them that is just cruel...tell her ur uncomfortable with them up and ask her nicely if she would put them away

jude

to burn pictures of an ex dead spouse or even any ex, shows your insecurtiy, shows your ignorance, as she married u and not someone else. she loves u, if u burn her pictures it means u are controlling, and unable to share her even with someone who is gone. she will always have her memories, everyone of us has a past with someone else. if u burn the pictures, she will see the true u, be a man and don't let this stuff interfere with your marriage, it is not as though the man is taking anything away from u, he is gone, and only his memories remain, and they will be there forever. grow up, and be a real man.

horsestud0800

i would let her keep them she is with you now plz dont ask her to put them away . she is with you now what would it matter to you if she keep them out or not.. your the one with her not that poor sod so leave her B x

Joey W

wtf, everyone has a past, let her keep em

Rasta

Of course I would let her keep them. You have her now...so what if she has pics from the past.

sexybeeotch

definately let her keep them. if he wouldnt have died you wouldnt be in the picture and that is very disrespectful towards her and his memory

westfield47130

Oh yeah thats what to do.... why would you want to hurt a person you love... besides the guy can't do anything to you.... he's dead. let her keep her pics and her memories.... or she may dump you for being so insensitive.

BIG JOHN

no i would let her keep em
if it gives her some closer over his death
why take that away

gelene76

yes i think its ok to keep those pics..hes dead its not like shes gonna cheat on you with him...quit being so anal..

harley w

why cant see if he is dead that's just part of her past she cant go back to him are you that insecure?? you shouldn't burn them that's pretty rude if you do you might not be married for long

Otep Shamaya

Why wouldn't you?
But then again if she loves you she should be able to do this on her own. If she doesn't whenever she looks at one of the pictures if it really bothers you, let her know how you feel about her having the pictures. Good Luck.

musicisme

Yes, let her keep the pictures, not out in the open but in a closed photo book or something. If she's looking at them all the time tell her how that makes you feel but it would be an infringement on her privacy to burn the pictures while she is away. Don't do that.

cherryadept

yes I would... Look at it this way...
He was the person who helped her learn how to love you!
By denying her a way of honoring her love for him, you will possibly inspire her to dis-honor you!

soar

It would not be my right to "let her keep pictures" of her first husband; it is up to her if she wants to keep them or not. You have no right to burn her pictures or anything else she owns. You need to get some help and get over being so insecure. If you love your wife, get some help for yourself.

Centurion

No. let her keep them. He's dead so he's not competition. Also, it lets your wife know how compassionate you are and that you really care about her feelings. Over time, she will put them away on her own.

BabeHeart

Let her? She's an adult she doesn't have to ask anyone's permission. Burn her pics and see what of yours gets sets on fire...

Insecurity is VERY unappealing...get over it...

kitcat

Yes, let her keep them especially if there are children involved. Now if she has children and they are living in the home with you two, I would suggest that the kids have them in their room if that would make you feel more comfortable. Why would you feel threaten by a dead man?

DB9

i would

Common Sense

No..
You can't burn them while she is away..
You need to ask her to put them away..Out of your sight....

Richard G

let her keep them....It's not like she hated him, right?

YO~NO~FUI E

Sentimental Value~ You are with her...................Get it~?

Cspeedy

I would let her keep, however would not like her to be woebegone or get nostalgic. Would encourage her to look forward to brither life.

Elizabeth

I'm not a guy or anything but I think that one is ok not a big huge one that all can she but a small one that she can just have in memories of him, if thats all she looks at then you shouldnt be with her

kristin c

It would be horribly disrespectful to burn your wife's pictures of her former husband! sure she married you, but she was married to another man first, and she has memories of him. She was devastated when he died, and shouldn't be expected to forget him or pretend he never existed.
Don't do this! The guy is dead! Why does it bother you? She needs these pictures. Not because she doesn't love you or loves you less, but just because they were from another time period in her life. You can't just erase the time or the memories of a person who departed this earth. She needs the memories. In time, they will fade, but never disappear. It would be really strange for someone not to keep at least one picture of a former spouse who had passed.
Please, don't let these pictures bother you. They have nothing to do with you and are from a time when you weren't even in the picture.

sickblade

That's so wrong. He didn't do anything wrong. You signed up to be with a woman and you risk any hurt that may cause due to her past. She incurs the same risk with anything from your past. She shouldn't have any up around the house, but it's ok for her to keep them becuase that's a part of who she was and you shouldn't burn it but accept it...if you love her.

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