Im 18 should I get married?

Lady Hewitt

This is totally up to you and your guy... If you are ready for marriage and that life time commitment then by all means go for it but if not then slow down and wait.

matthaumschild

wait a few more years. Between the ages of 18 and 25, your life will change dramatically in ways you won't even predict. New jobs prospectives, places to live...ect. If you wait until your 25 and you are still with the same guy, then yes, marry him.

naranjas99@sbcglobal.net

think about it... it's a really big step...

being boyfriends is not the same as marry someone...

Good luck for both of you !!

Pancake

If you have to ask, then you are not ready to marry.

lil sammy

Hell, no! what would be the problem with waiting? Marriage is very hard to undo, and can leave you both in crappy financial situations and with some "baggage" to carry around in the future. Get engaged if you must, with a ring and all, but there is no need to make it legal. you can love each other without a piece of paper.

Natalie

PLEASE DON'T DO IT.

Tiffany

personally I think it is way too young

Candy C

No, no, no. If I married the guy I thought I loved at 18 I'd be divorced by now. Just wait and if it lasts another 5 years or so then go ahead and do it.

4EvaAlwayz

PLEASE READ THIS AND THINK HARD . . . I got married at 18 years old. I am 22 now and I have been with him since the 9th grade. I love him with all of my heart but now I feel like I need to be free and find out who I really am. We never had the chance to be ourselves because as soon as we got married- responsibility hit us! We tried to go to college together but trying to live married life got in the way. . . I ended up having a baby (and it was no accident-which I'll never regret-but we should have waited) and for the past 2 years we have been struggling to survive. We never have time for each other.

Truthfully, I don't think you should marry him right away. The person I was at 18 is not me any more -and I am STILL CHANGING! We as people are going to change throughout our whole lives. . . but believe me the person you are now is not going to be the person you are going to become and I am not saying that you and your boyfriend are meant to be but you guys need to find out who you are individually. I only secluded myself to my husband -I had no friends -nothing! I finally found a friend and she showed me the person that I can be without him and I feel tied down now -TRAPPED!

We too argued a lot in H.S. and I now that I look back we probably never should have married and had a baby it was like we were pretending that our relationship was perfect - we just got caught up in the hustle to survive and provide a good life for our son . . .but what about us -we're not happy. . . I am so stressed. . . it is showing in my health. . DID I MENTION THAT I AM ONLY 22!!!

I am not saying that you guys aren't meant to be but you should hold off on the marriage. It is a legal binding between you and another person and getting out of it (if that ever becomes the case) will be difficult. You can committ to each other in other ways. . . I know you love each other but remember that you are responsible for your own happiness and don't depend on another to give it to you. .Good luck. . . .

Jen

In my opinion (I know we all have opinions....) I would NOT get married at your age hun. You need to live and see the world and what it has to offer. Getting married at a young age doesn't seem to fare well with the statistics. I mean, I'm not saying end the relationship just learn to have fun together ALONE, without children or a legally binding piece of paper with the courts! If it's true lasting love it will survive and maybe later on down the line you will still get married or maybe even, sad to say, you may learn more about yourselves together and it won't be there anymore. Maybe try living together first, like a trial period.... I don't know. You will do what you want to do, I know. I just know that I got married at a young age and sometimes wonder what would have been.

cfalways

are you ready to end your social life as you know it? then by all means go ahead and get married. dang...you are only 18? why is he in such a rush to get married? you have your ENTIRE life ahead of you? why not just enjoy your life as it is and give it a few more years?

Happily married

You're the only one who really knows if you're ready. Just remember that 18 is very young. You still have a lot of growing and changing to do within yourself. As young as you are, this guy is probably the only thing you know. All I know is if I had married the guy I was dating when I was 18 (we dated for 5 years) my life would be miserable! Just listen to your heart and you'll know what to do...just be careful!

remailer000

I would give it about another 5 years, Marriage is just a peice of paper, if you love him do just that love him and take it day by day.

Jason

your to young , you need to experiance life a bit before you get married

Megan Z

This is totally based on what you feel. I am 19 and recently married. I love my marriage and wouldn't change a thing, especially my decison. If you love him and can't picture your life without him then please go for it!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

shay223

Well, if you love him, yes. Do you think it would be the end of the world if you did break up? Are there any doubts in your mind about your relationship? If there are, then don't do it.
I dated someone for almost five years, we got engaged when I was 18, and I doubted our relationship. I ended up leaving him last december, and a whole can of worms opened.
I found out so many things were going on with out me even noticing. If he is the person who makes you complete, and your ready to settle down. Go ahead. If you still want to go out and date people, that's ok too. You're young, and believe me there are a lot of guys to choose from! You don't have to settle so don't think you do!
I guess all I'm trying to say is, if you feel 100% positive about your relationship, and you feel like you've hit the jack pot, go for it!
Good Luck!

Josee G

if that's what you really want but if that were me, i don't think so-----------don't you want to see the world first-you're too young!

Rich goldie

The rs one thing you have to remember arbitrage it a com-
meant. Live with this person for at least 6 months and see how it is. You don't really know some one until you live with them. Many people get mar rid and just after short period of time can not stand to be in the same room be careful.

Jessica M

I got married at the age of 17 in 98. It was all good but then it went to ****. We had two kids and got divorced in 2002. I wish I wouldn't have gotten married so young bc I didn't get to live a young life. I was forced to grow up soon. I wish I would have went to college and had fun. But I wouldn't give my kids up for the world. Just take it slow. Why is he in a big hurry? Go to college and see how it goes from there. I was with my ex husband since I was 14. So I was very young when we got together and married. Take it slow girl! Live life to the fullest!

ELDER

I am 20 years old now and I got married at the age of 18. The best advice I would give anyone is to follow your heart. Pray and ask God to help you with the decision. The worst thing that could make you unhappy is if you marry the wrong person. Be sure that this is something you want.........Do not make a decision based on your feelings because feelings always change

Lolly M

No, don't do it!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Things are going to change for both of you as soon as you get into your 20's.
I repeat
Don't do it!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!...

sweetgranny06

only if you both love each other five year's is plenty of time if you two don't know by now what's in your heart's and whether you want to spend rest of your life together you'll never know my first marrige i rushed into it we knowed each other two month's when we married and divorced in ten year's so if you love each other follow your heart

mimegamy

Ask that question AGAIN in about 5 years. 18 is way too young to get married and if you two really love each other you will both be so much more mature and adult-like in several years. You are 18. Have some fun, live on the edge a little.

Michelle M

Get an apartment together first. See how you handle living with him and sharing responsibilities and bills like rent and food. This is definitely the first step to see if you can live with someone the rest of your lives together. If it doesn't work out...then you're young enough to move back in with your parents or whatever. Good luck!

If you don't know the answer it's probably not the right time.

bevis yo

I just turned 19 and I got married two months ago and everyone thought I was too young but I still went for it. I was also completely positive that's what I wanted too though and you don't sound so sure... just make sure it's what you really want.

pirategirl1103

This is something only you can answer if you should or shouldnt. Honestly if you are having to ask, then no not yet. have a long engagement and see how things go.

CTYGRL

Many questions to ask yourself.....are you going to college?? Is he going to college? How are your going to support yourselves? When do you "plan"on getting married? Are your parents still married? Are his?? How your parents/and his parents relationships are towards one another plays a big influence in your relationship. Yes, there is nothing like your first love but think outside the shadow of love for one moment. You both have your whole future riding on this commitment and it will take some seroius and mature conversation for each of you to make sure you are dong the right thing. If he is willing to sit down with you and talk about your future together then your chances are better. If he wants to just be "goofy" and not serious then he is not mature and ready for the commitment of marriage. Best wishes!

Mysterious

me and my fiance have been together 6 years but we delay our marrage cause she is i college it is gonna be harder if i am the only 1 working full time.

TEA

It sounds like you have a strong foundation for your future marriage. Be true to yourself. If you honestly feel like this is the one and only man that you want to share the rest of your life with, then there would be no reason not to marry. You marriage, like your relationship now, will have its ups and downs. Its important to remember that you are in it together.

Nurse Answer Mama

Just because you are engaged, doesn't mean you have to get married right away. I recommend waiting until you are finished with college and are self-sufficient.

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