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Kitty
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No, it's not wrong; you're all adults. |
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angeleloves
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Think of the children. Whats wrong with you. He needs to go to marriage counseling. You need to back off. |
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Crazy Pants
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YES!!!!!!!!!!!! la DUH |
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Mary's Daughter
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You cannot be responsible for this man or his wife's behavoir. But you are responsible for your own. Your love for this man and his wife needs to be that of Christian sister. They have made a life committment to one another of which you are not a part. Your responsibility is to help them (if you can) maintain that committment. If you cannot help them but may possibly sever to enhance the harm in their relationship, your responsiblity is to leave them alone.
Also, please think of yourself. Clearly, this "man" is not the kind of person you would want to commit yourself to--now or in the future. He is clearly immature (seeks vengeance by being unfaithful), crosses boundaries (discusses their intimate relationship details with another unmarried woman--you) and he is not taking responsibility in his place in life (as a husband and a father). This type of guy is actually an adolescent stuck in an older person's body. If you don't see him as this yet, you will. Please think of yourself, too!
Finally, if you are still not sure if it is okay or not, you can always pray about it! God always helps us to discern His will in matters of faith and morality.
Thanks for reading and God Bless! |
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One Sly Look
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Yes, it is wrong. No matter what reasons you give yourself, you know it's wrong. Who would want to share ther man with somone else anyway? I feel sorry for you. |
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momo13
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This is bad even if their cheating on each other if u stay with him ur just plan stupid becuz after they get a disvorce if that ever happens he would do the same thing to u!! |
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Clints_wench
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Yes you are wrong... He is still married even if he is unhappy.. wait until they get a divorce to see him again.... |
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cheetah7
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No, u shouldn't feel bad, u should be ashamed of yourself for carrying on with a man KNOWING he's married. Of course he and his wife are no better than u because they both cheated on each other. And just because she cheated on him and is a horrible wife to him, it doesn't give u the right to be part of the problem so stop making excuses for him or u to cheat. This is between her and him and if u have any morals or self dignity, u would stay out of it. You're all adults so why don't u all start acting like one, starting with yourself. |
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SECRET woman
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GURL gurl gurl,This is a spicy situation. Nah, you won't feel guilty until after it's over and you and the wifey tell each other some secrets. I understand that you are 19 and at that age you pretty much have things together, unfortunatley he does'nt and will not for a long time you know..... If you keep comparing your relationship to his wifes you will always have a problem . NEVER compare how a man treats you against the way he treats his wife. A wife as different analogy to her husband than a lover. and there are no Justifications to your actions, and becareful. Being too friendly to the wife while still having relations with the husband will lead to things that may be hazardious to your health.. |
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Den
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Whether or not you feel it is wrong,what will you have in the end?
He will never leave her for you and you can count on it.
You only have so many years to work with in this life.Are you willing to waste a few of them for no return?
If you want to cheat,then cheat:just remember that it isn't called that for nothing.
You will feel cheated in the end. |
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mustanglynnie
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When you are older & married someday, you will understand why this is wrong. For your own self esteem, end it. You are not 'dating', you are cheating...and older guys love to use young girls like you for their little games like this. |
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dukalink6000
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Too many wrongs won't make it right.
break it off and get out of the way, as it will hit the fan big time. |
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lovetotalk
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I would not have anything to do with him or his family. It's not going to turn out well in the future. Even if he does divorce his wife, she sounds smart and won't let him get much in the divorce.
He's simply trying to find a non-judgmental Alli to f.ck and get back at his wife with.
I'd run like hell from the drama. |
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Mother of One
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YOU'RE PLAYING WITH FIRE. You should wait till their relationship is over.. .OMG.. you're gonna get burnt girl! |
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ladynamedjane
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You are dating a MARRIED MAN and you are not much more than a child yourself. He is wrong to put you in this position! If you truly think you love him I would tell him you need him to file for a divorce, you are spinning your wheels and wasting your precious youth in the meantime!!!!!!!! |
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skawp
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I think your too young to involve your self with this man. Age does not really matter. Its the way your getting pulled in the middle of it all. Its too close for comfort on your behalf. The last thing you need at your age is dealing with someone that of a middle aged couple problems in life. It does sound very awkward however, knowing you were only 9yrs old when he got married, but, like my father told me if it feels good it must be right. You should at least wait until they divorce on a moral prospective. |
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mtnlady
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You say you need advice, but you justify your action because his wife is also being unfaithful. The only question you ask about the whole situation is whether it is wrong. I'm not condemning you -- I know you are only looking for affection, and so is he. But yes, it is wrong for him to seek fulfillment outside of his marriage. It is also wrong for you to involve yourself in his problem.
During their wedding (which you attended), the vows they spoke were supposed to be eternal and unconditional. Even if she cheated first, this does not create the option for him to cheat. If he broke these promises to his wife, why should you trust him?
Marriage is not always easy. I've had many unhappy days with my husband. Being unhappy in my marriage does not give me the right to cheat. There is no "happiness clause" on a marriage license.
Getting yourself involved in this family's problems will only bring you harm. Do the self-respecting thing and get out of the relationship with him as soon as you can. As I pointed out, you cannot trust a man who breaks these sacred vows to his wife. |
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cynt
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karma is a ***** and you will get yours when you become serious with someone......LOL |
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nwnativeprincess
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YOU MUST HAVE VERY LOW SELF-ESTEEM TO ALLOW TO BE TREATED THIS WAY. BEING WITH SOMEONE ELSES HUSBAND IS WRONG. YOU SHOULD ALWAYS COMPLETE ONE RELATIONSHIP BEFORE STARTING ANOTHER.
TWO WRONGS DO NOT MAKE A RIGHT....... |
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teresa d
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FIRST OFF IF YOU DONT FEEL BAD WHY ARE YOU UP HERE ASKING IS IT WRONG YES YOU FEEL BAD AND YOU KNOW DAMN WELL ITS WRONG HE IS MARRIED SO WHAT IF SHE IS MESSING AROUND ON HIM ITS NOT YOUR PLACE TO COME TO THE RESCUE TO HELP HIM OUT I HOPE THE WIFE FINDS OUT ABOUT YOU AND HIM AND TEACH YOU BOTH A LESSON AND ALL THAT TALK ABOUT HE TRYED TO GET A DIVORCE AND SHE IS STOPPING HIM BULL CRAP THAT'S THE GAME HE IS TELLING YOU GO FIND A TEENAGER YOUR AGE AND MESS UP HIS LIFE |
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Shelby W
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I am here trying to get advice from everyone on being broken hearted by a married/seperated guy that i was in love with but broke my heart. And i was 19 when i met him. Please do not let this happen to you like what he did to me. Because its a pain that you wish not to ever experience. So be on your guard!!! |
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justagrandma
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Are you so ugly that you either have to carry this mans baggage or never go out on another date with a biped again?
You should feel bad about getting involved with such a miserable situation. A cheating man, a cheating wife 2 innocent kids...misery on all sides. And no happy ending in sight, miserable wife will aggravate Mrs.2 till the end of time. Mr. Cheater will continue to cheat yea unto Mrs. 3 and 4 and the kids will put ex-lax in your chocolates because in their eyes you broke up the family. Oh yes and you betray the friendship with his family which doesn't speak well for you either.Wheres your self-respect? Don't you think you deserve something better? You could hardly do worse.
Get out girl. Run away. Now. Don't wait. |
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Ynot me 2
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leftovers aren't bad |
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schlongy1969
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Get pictures of her cheating, that will force a divorce. , and he will be holding all the cards. |
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conan_0565
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Yes it is wrong but that is not the question , Will he leave her for you , and will he ever do the same to you ? Answer more than likely yes . All old bucks like young does , but it hardly ever works out . |
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John H B
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We are only friends, NOW THAT'S ORIGINAL, just like the sin, who are you trying to kid, (no pun intended), I wonder who is lacking in the self esteem department here?, I heard that same line 20 years into my marriage, six years later, I'm getting punished for keeping my vows. Anyway, this day and age in MODERN America there is no stigma for being an adulterer or es. But whatever you do as long as you can rationalize it, it must be O.K. Just like my devoted (attend church on holidays or when mom and dad visit to look good) Catholic future ex.
So are you doing something bad? nah, just tell the guywith collar and then say ten hail mary's and you'll be just fine>>>>>>>>>>>>> |
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hate life
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i cant tell you what you are doing is bad or not that is up to you but i can tell you that dating a married man happy or not in his marriage. can be hard on you just be carful . the longer it goes on the harter it can get on you and it may start to make you feel bad i know been there done that |
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YAY AREA_408
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does it feel wrong it up to you |
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shirls4
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of course it is wrong or you wouldn't be asking. I bet she already knows about you and him and is playing you. |
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