Im having trouble with my husbands drinking and diabetes?

my husband had diabetes and lately his meter is reading between 200 and 400. he is on medicine. he drinks two 40 oz beers every night and when i tell him that its not good for him he says that is the only thing to help me unwind. when he drinks he then snacks alot. I mean I have the shredded wheat and the 100 calorie packs but he sneak eats. And he is so bitter with me. Is it cause his blood sugar is so high. I dont know what to do anymore. I love him but it gets to a point where I cant wait till he goes to bed so I dont have to hear him gripe about stuff. We have one more payment on our house which is a single wide no lot rent We live on my moms land so after this last payment we are debt free. On another note he wants a "house" I am just glad to say we dont have a house payment. he works 40 hours a week and I got laid off about 2 months ago and am drawing unemployment. which wont last forever. I just want to be happy. I do work a very part time job of 2 hours a night. sometimes i just dread coming home.

Tracy M

Sounds like more than the drinking/snacking is bothering you. I think you need to sit down and have a heart to heart conversation with him and talk about things that are bothering you and try and work together on fixing the problems.

ranger_co_1_75

Sugar imbalance can cause people to act irrationally and say irrational things. Not all diabetics, just some diabetic people are affected this way.

Control of his sugar is his responsibility. Only he can control it. You can't tie his hands behind his back or lock him in the closet to prevent his eating and drinking things that are bad for him. All you can do is provide low carb, low fat snacks for him, you can't make him eat them.

Don't be an enabler or tolerate his abuse. Tell him in no uncertain terms that if he wants to kill himself, that's his choice, but if he thinks he can abuse you while he does it, he is wrong. And then be prepared to follow through if you have to.

Poppy

Sorry to say dear but at this rate your husband won't be around too much longer anyway. Sounds like he's got a death wish.

Bai Su

You need to sit down and have a heart to heart with your husband about what you're feeling. Be brutally honest and allow him to be brutally honest about how he's feeling as well.

Clearly he's stressed about something going on under the surface. Be there for him!

Explain to him that until you can hash things out between the two of you, and get back on track in your marriage, you'd rather not take on the additional stress of buying a house and moving.

Best of luck! Just remember, you LOVED him when you married him. Don't forget why and try to see those qualities in him still :)

BabyGirl

I feel your pain! I was married to the same sort of guy. He was diagnosed with diabetes in his mid 20's & is insulin dependent (2 injections a day!) He is now in his mid 50's & drinks himself STUPID most nights. And he drinks bourbon! He constantly insists that the alcohol does NOT affect his blood sugar....which is crap! Ask any doctor. And, like your husband, whenever my husband's blood sugar would get too high, he became very irritable & sometimes verbally abusive. He seemed to think that because we were married, that I was the one responsible for controlling his diabetes....as in preparing meals at precisely the same time every day; preparing meals low in sugar & carbs, etc. It was also my fault if he ran out of syringes, etc. (go figure!) Needless to say, after 15 yrs of marriage, I divorced him. His main problem now is alcoholism, not diabetes. Either one of them is bound to kill him sooner or later!
I really empathize with you. I know how stressful it can become! Especially now that you've lost your job. (if your husband is like mine was, he resents the fact that "you get to stay home all day"...like it's a vacation or something!) Please know that my thoughts & prayers are with you. As for the house....best not to incur any debt right now. Wait till you're employed again. Our country's economy is too uncertain right now! Take care of yourself!!

Diabetics are usually tired of being told what they can and can eat/drink or do. It's hard to tell them because you care about them but don't want to push too far. Is he a type 1 or type 2 diabetic? It's hard because you feel like you have to treat them like children sometimes. I would really recommend trying counseling if you want to stay with him. He needs to know that you do not "nag" him that you are only trying to help him prolong his life. If he keeps it up he will be in horrible shape by age 60 if not sooner. Try looking up diabetic support groups and see what they have to say as well. Try to compromise with him, maybe one night a week he can have a couple beers(yes it's bad for him but how would you feel if you couldn't eat or drink everything you wanted to?) Living with a diabetic can be very hard so it is important you stay connected with support groups and his doctors.

I have about a million diabetic recipes too so if you would like feel free to email me:)

silly_duck96

Tell him he needs to seek help. Tell him he IS killing himself. Do you know any one who works in health care? Have them come over and tell him what he is doing.
Beer really isn't bad. But snacking is. Stop buying snacks. Buy carrot sticks and ranch.
Tell him you don't want to come home any more. Communication is key.

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