Im pregnant and my husband cheated!! HELP!!?

It's a sure thing

I am sorry this happened to you. You just have to follow your heart. If you can eventually forgive him and move on with your marriage, then you should. If you can't forgive him, your hurt and resentment will turn into anger and it will ruin your marriage as you will never be able to trust him again and both of you will be miserable.
A child deserves both parents though, so if you feel you can still work on your marriage, please get some counseling. I wish you the best!

unsung hero

If there is one thing I have done and has saved my marriage was counseling. Get it. It saved my marriage and it can save yours too. This world influences us all in a negative way most of the time, it orks on breaking marriages.

With a counselor you can work through the pain, and create a bond so strong nothing will come between you if you both want it to work and put forth all your effort.

Alicia

The fact that he is already cheating and you are still in the "honeymoon" period is cause to worry. Your relationship hasn't had enough time to get stale, so what do you think he's going to do in 7 yrs when you have kids??? I wouldn't tell anyone right now (friend included) that you are pregnant. You have to figure out what to do with your husband first. I would get yourself (alone) in to see a therapist. You need to sort through your feelings and find ways to deal with your husband.

I would then get into couple counseling because you are starting out a lifelong relationship on the wrong path. If he is really trying to work thru things, then he'll agree to go. If he is resistent, I'd ask him to move out temporarily until you can sort thru some things. That might wake him up!

Good Luck, but I have to say that I don't have high hopes for your marriage, don't wait too long to take action.

If he's trying - which it sounds like he is - then you need to be open and upfront with him about everything. Keeping secrets isn't going to do anything to help you rebuild the trust in your relationship. That doesn't mean you can't take the time to figure out in your own head what you'd like to do about the baby before you tell him, but you do need to tell him and work this out one way or the other. If you're having trouble doing that on your own, then consider calling in a neutral third-party counselor.

LaLALALA

If I knew now what I knew then the first time I was cheated on I would have left and ended it. Instead I gave him another chance sure he kissed butt for awhile after he cheated and was so good to me. But then it happened again and I found out so much I never even knew about.
I am raising my daughter that once a cheater is always a cheater and I don't want them to go through hell like I did. My oldest daughters dad I found a girl with him at my house. I left him I was about 3 months pregnant at the time.
I thought about it at the time should I stay or go give him another chance what you know I didn't know what to do. I left because it's just something you can't get over and it makes it harder when your pregnant.
I left and was a single mom for years and I don't regret it the best thing I could have done. Later on I met someone else he cheated on me I was pregnant at the time with my youngest so I gave him another chance. He did it again and then I found out a bunch of stuff I didn't know that he did behind my back.
Like I said if I knew now what I new then things would be so different. Life is to short and I have had many of relationships and I can tell you when I been cheated on they promised and swore never to do it again but later hun they did do it again.
Someone who cheats will again there is no doubt in my mind not only have I seen it in my own life but with others lives that I know too.
Just the thought that someone is supposed to love you and yet in one night they can screw someone else without even thinking about how you would feel and thinking that they could lose you over this.
In my opinion they don't care because they will cheat anyway then think in the back of their mind will if I get caught I will do my best to save the relationship so she won't leave me. Then later on the guy thinks well she gave me another chance if I do it again this time she will give me another chance again.
It was cool being a single mom with just me and my child it was so much better walking out on her dad after he cheated on me then it was staying with him and trying to make things work.
I didn't have to deal with the drama and the hell he put me through by cheating. As time went on I was fine and got over it for the most part. If I would have stayed I would have had trust issues with him and it never would have been ok with us. He destroyed us when he decided to screw somebody else.
Now I am married my husband is in the military and he has screwed around behind my back. I stayed with him because I was pregnant and I had my baby not that long ago and I remember every single day what he did to me.
I know in my heart if someone really loves you no way would they cheat on you. I am leaving this relationship too just later than I did years ago with my first child.
I hope me telling you some about my life helps you some. But there is so many great guys out there we don't desrve to be cheated on and I do know if a man can cheat on you he can do other things as well.
I hope you make the right choice good luck to you.

Satanic Brainsmasher

He will cheat again. Divorce him and dump that so called friend.

cute redhead

I feel i may never be able to forget this and im having a hard time to forgive him which is not fair on either of us.

Hun it wasn't fair to you that he cheated.

I was cheated on by my kids father when i was pregnant with emily she is now 4 and he has cheated again since.

I tried to work it out with him the first time but he did it again when i was pregnant with hannah she is now 2.

I Honestly don't know what to tell you on which way to go but trust your feelings.I didn't trust Charles every time he would leave go do anything i would sit and keep track of how long he would be gone then question him like crazy when he returned,Its not easy after someone has crossed that line.I feel my relationship was never the same after that.

HDRIDER

Not a very good way to start out your pregnancy. He might be remorseful right now. I guess you are the only one who knows if he can change, and be a loyal family man!

Tracy H

If this is happening after a year of marriage, I would be leary. I think you have a lot to think about and a lot of decisions to make.

la vita e bella

My friend went through the same thing, except she found out about his cheating when the baby was two weeks old. It was very difficult for her, in the end she stayed with him and their marriage has gotten a lot stronger since then. I'll tell you how she got over it: a lot of time, and a lot of changes in their lives. He had to stop hanging out with his friends, he had to come home straight from work--he basically had to change everything he normally did. This caused a lot of turmoil but they ended up alright--from what she tells me though she still doesn't trust him completely but the whole experience taught her to be more aware of what is going on in his life. No one can tell you what to do, you have to figure that out for yourself, but know that it will take a long time to trust him again. Perhaps you need some time to yourself. I would suggest you leave--but not with him. Maybe he needs to realize that he is going to lose you. Perhaps you can also go to counseling--by yourself. You don't even have to go away you can kick him out of your place--he deserves that and much more. One more thing, don't stay with him because of the baby--that is not fair to you or to the baby.

The African Queen

If he's trying and was completely honest about it after it happened, maybe he's one of those few guys who won't cheat after doing it once. Make sure that he doesn't mind you being extremely nervous about him doing anything without you because naturally it will take you a long time to trust him again.

And being pregnant, you're going to be needier than ever. You will be worried that he doesn't find you attractive & wants someone who isn't as huge as you. Make sure he knows that you may seem like a jail warden for a while, but he brought that on himself.

Candy B

me might never do it again, then again who knows, get counseling from a pastor, Godly conviction is the best way to make him see intergrity has to be part of his character. yes go with him.

counting days

Get rid of him. Once a cheater, always a cheater.

DOY

you should told too your best friend
and tell her how you feel
and see if you can get his trust back
and if you do really want the baby
or split up if so

Praying for A Blessing!!!!!!

marriage is hard work remember that

crystal

The best thing to do in my opinion is to end the marriage. You have not even been married a year, and he has already cheated. You deserve someone who is going to give you the world and more, so don't let anyone let you think that this behavior is okay and forgivable. Give youself some worth.

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