In your opinion what is lacking in marriages today that keeps them from maintaining a strong foundation?

Chloe

communication they don't talk like they should and then they read each other's minds which is usually wrong and then its a majoy issue

#1 Lucy Fan

People tend to settle because society portrays being alone as something bad. Therefore they jump into things using their heads and not their hearts.

dekunle2

People need to understand that once you're married, it's no longer 'you' but 'us'. Too often, there is so much selfishness in marital relationships. It is also very important to understand that you're "ONE' now, thus, whatever you do to your spouse, you do to yourself. Those two things will substain marriages.

lovely_linda2003

RELIGION AND KNOWING FROM THE BIBLE THAT WHATS THE DEFINITION OF A MAN IS BEING A HUSBUND,AND WHAT A WIFE MUST DO BE SUBMISSIVE TO HER HUSBAND ITS SIMPLE READ THE BIBLE ON MARRIAGE

tori

First and foremost,a strong relationship with God.Also lack af communication and making time just for each other in todays fast paced world.

Rob

Love for God. Genuine faith and love, along with a personal relationship with the God that created all of us. From that perspective all relationships would be better.

Nick

The fact they don't have a strong foundation to start. You can't maintain what you don't have. Many marriages come about from people who just "want" to be married, they are settling for the person they are marrying. If a marriage was actually based on a strong foundation when problems arise (as they always do in life) the individual could still stand on that foundation. To me a strong foundation is God(this one is if you believe in God which I do), a true friendship and mutual respect.

Angie D

Commitment. People are too willing to just give up and go on to find someone else. Nothing good comes easy, and everyone has problems. When you leave one and go to another, you are just trading one set of problems for another. What's the point of that? Id' rather deal with what I know is there than to trade it for problems that could be much worse!

jake

Support of the community at large. Before the whole community would support and encourage staying together. Now people say, "Do your thing, destroy your kids, leave your spouse but if it makes you feel good and takes no work and is only pleasure, hey, life is short."

sweetgranny06

abusive husbands that hits their wife's and cheating that's whats wrong with marriages that's my opinion

angel1

open truthful communication

Ginns

1 mutual respect
2 taking each other for granted

Sonny

communication! it's everything.

kissmeagainnow

Honesty and trust. and most of all REAL love. Not the mess but the real thing. Don't many people know what the real thing is.

MamaMia

I think that people go into marriage with the thought in the back of their mind "If it doesn't work out, we'll get a divorce". Any relationship is tons of work. I think that couples are unprepared nowadays for that. We are told in movies and books that it will all be rose petals and candles, when that isn't reality. When it sinks in, they go looking for whatever it is they think is missing.

javelin

Honesty

grouki

Honesty, communication , and being real to and with yourself.

Shannon V

communication and the willingness to come together and solve the problem at the time.

david c

Its the good times bad times that people cant put up with ,through thick and thin anymore.
There,s no acceptance of "we will stick together whatever) sort of attitude.
They just give up and say oh well that's another over with,not say to themselves "i,m not gonna give up just because of a few pitfalls" they say ,well i can get a new one (just like a car).
Were in a throwaway society today and people don't value the lets stick together"For better for worse" in the marriage lines.

tannerlady

no morals, just do what makes you happy and not think about what it might do to someone else.

JustAskin

God and a solid faith community. Active participation in a church, with open, prayerful communication.

anna34511

i believe that people are either lazy and unwilling to really work on relationships. the way things are these days people seem to feel that relationships are easily replaceable and respect is very shallow compared to the way it was when my grandparents were in there younger years. not to mention how easy divorce comes these days.

Nena S

Respect, trust, commitment and willingness to work hard and learn to compromise. Also, lack of morals and lack of faith in God.

luciana v

First of all ,i would say that,marriage it's self is lacking..no one really whats to marry any more.. but in any case ,it's honesty & trust..

the lack of respect for each other and the disposable idea of just being able to get divorced and find someone else is easier than making things work. People are too quick to give up and treat each other like they can replaced. I love my man so much that I can not imagine giving up on him, sometimes when we argue he is quick to say something like well if we can not get along we should not be together... but that is not an option for me. He has changed his way of thinking.. (I think) but its that attitude that "Ok its over" and moving on is too easy... I want to grow old with him and hold his hand until my last breathe... It takes some growing up on both parts.

deedee c

In my opinion it lack of communication and trust between both partners dd

lisalisarussell

I think that in the old days divorce was frowned upon and social pressure forced people to figure out how to get along.

Nowadays it's so easy to get divorced, everyone's doing it, and no one will look down upon you.

Most people I grew up with had divorced parents, so how the heck do we know how to stick through a difficult relationship?

The books that have helped me stay married for almost 14 years are "Relationship rescue" by Dr Phil and "His needs; her needs" I forgot who wrote it.

pollardsha76

GOD....GOD....GOD....GOD

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