Is 18 To young to get engaged?

Mrs V

You really shouldn't take advice from people's relationship that didn't work out.

I was 17 when I met my husband, 18 when I married him. I'm still with him. You know when your in love. Your heart melts, your world stops, and nothing in the world matters except for your partner. I am 19 now and still married to my husband that I am deeply in love with. Marriage is NOT a ride on a carousel however, it is what you make it. COMMUNICATION is key. The first year of your marriage will be ROUGH, but if you can get through the first year, nothing else will matter. Its all about both of you putting in the effort. 50/50. Sometimes you'll have to give more, sometimes he'll have to give more. But what it all comes down to... LOVE is UNCONDITIONAL. age isn't an issue when it comes to love. If its LOVE and not just "high school love" where you break up every ten minutes, you should definitely make yourself happy and marry the boy..

Plus being engaged doesn't mean you'll go through with it. Learn to love him as a HUSBAND not just a BOYFRIEND. he's going to be the last person you fall asleep with at night, and the first person you wake up to every single morning. If its love, that will be the best feeling. Knowing that that person is there for you and there to support YOU.

Think about it. Not all marriages survive, but the ones that really are in it for LOVE, always do!

nino4nina

Not too young but stay engaged for a while, don't rush into the marriage until you've experienced more out of life.

Fallen Angel Twinks

i got engaged early and then married and now i am older i realise it wasn't wise people change and grow throughout life sometimes they grow apart. but hun if it is what you really want and you love him with all your heart then go for it, we are all differant and if you really want it you will make it work. good luck

wantstoknow

no, but it is too young to get married, stay engaged for a couple of years and then get married! congratulations!

Bonduesa

I was married at 18 with a baby. It was such a wake up call!! The pressures of the new baby and paying rent and having a husband {he wasn't much help} and cleaning cooking and going to the store and the money problems to boot!!! Do you want adulthood this quick? Way to much work for a 18 yr old Don't get married Enjoy your young careful life. good luck

Confused_mom

No, but definitely too young to get married or have children. Take it from me, I got pregnant and married at sixteen and it has been the longest and most difficult seven years of my life. Be young, have fun.. and give yourself time. People change.

stephanie

YES YES YES!!!

Please take it from a woman who married at 19. Everyday I regret not experiencing more as a single woman. I love my family, but I never went out into the world to see what I could accomplish before I got caught up in marriage, and baby soon after the vows. Go to college, learn, have fun. It's okay to be in a relationship at 18, but marriage is a big deal. You need to learn more about yourself, establish your own identity, before you can truely be ready to be part of a married couple.

wkdwchofwest

i got married at 18 and it was a mistake and way to young to know what to expect. live a little as a single adult first make it on your own before you get married that way if things dont work out atleast you know how to take care of yourself but you do what you feel is right for you dont live your life because of what someone else did good luck to you

Nicky

No..but don't rush into marriage just yet, it is till death do you'll part

Poppet

Nope. You can get engaged at any age. Engagement has no legal boundaries nor defined laws.

So, when are you getting married?

Chianti Man

yes

that girl

THE TRUTH IS YES BUT IT MIGHT HURT YOUR FEELINGS........YOU WILL DO WHAT EVER YOU WANT BUT I WAS MARRIED AT 19 AND NO ONE THOUGHT IT WOULD LAST AND IT DID! I LOOK BACK AND WISH I LIVED A LITTLE MORE BUT I WAS BLESSED TO HAVE HIM FOR AS LONG AS I DID. RIP

nshappe

No! It is to young to get married. You are both still fresh into the world on your own, and will want to try things alone eventually.

fucose_man

Maybe maybe not. I don't know the history of this or how soon you plan to get married.

If this is an engagement for 5 years from now it is sort of pointless.

shellysnapz

no it's not but make it a long engagement, don't rush into marriage because you don't know whats round that corner...have fun with each other before taking that step into marriage get to know each other completely before taking such a drastic step...i was married very young and i was divorced very young...take your time and enjoy yourselves first

Lady Hewitt

No not at all if you are ready for the commitment then go for it!

KC T

if ur exactly where u wanna b in life then go for it, but if financial matters still matter or school is still in the picture that hasnt been painted maybe u should re-evaluate ur life and ur priorities
i mean what good is havin someone to share life with if u have no real life to share

jessys3000

way toooo young...........but if your 18 you dont think so..i know this because i did it....
but hey if u r engaged dont get married for at least 3 yrs ...if you both can wait that long and your still together then it was worth it..............

Caryn R

In my opinion, yes! You need time to explore the world while you are young without being tied down to someone. Even if you have the most understanding fiancÃ©(e) in the world, he or she can hold you back out of fear without meaning to hurt you - and may not even realize that he or she IS holding you back.

My brother and sister-in-law dated through high school, on and off through college (since they attended different universities), and got married when they were 24 (engaged at 22 after college graduation). Their relationship is healthy and they are glad they waited to fully commit to each other because they had the opportunity to grow as individuals as well as together.

bluehands90

Who is to say what age you have to be to fall in love? Yes there are some who regret the decision to get engaged and marry young, but there are also those who got together early and remain happily married.
I'm not saying that marriage will be easy. There will never be a relationship between two people that is easy - it's all about putting the effort into it and getting the results.
If you are prepared to do this though then go for it! Best of luck

Britney

No. When you feel that you are ready for that kind of commitment, then you should go for it.

x Amber x

no if you love them and they mean alot to you NO but just to say it is too young to get married stay engaged for a while

Irish

no necessarily but certainly what a few years b4 u get married. what do your parents think>>? when the time is right to get engaged and married you will know it and it will also be cool with the parents---I happen to think this is important.

lunasage

Technically no - but it really is too young to really know what you want from life and you WILL change your desires in the next few years. I would suggest waiting at least until you're in your mid-20s to tie the knot.

carli8305

I don't know about 18 being too young to get engaged, but it is certainly too young to know what you will want for the rest of your life.
At 18 years old, people have nowhere near matured enough or experienced enough to seriously make a decision on who they want to spend the rest of their lives with, they may be 'in love' with someone now but what happens 5 years on when they have grown up a lot more, have different tastes, opinions, ambitions etc... and most likely have drifted apart from the other person.

If it purely is an 'engagement', where you just have a pretty ring and know you are committed to each other I don't see why it should be any problem, however an engagement is supposed to lead to an imminent marriage or marriage plans, and again this brings up all of the above in regards to being too young/immature (no matter how mature someone thinks they are at 18 - they are not) to make that kind of lifelong decision.

If the engagement in question is not planned to lead to marriage, then what is the point of being engaged? It's not a 'reserved' sign so no-one else can date you, until you decide if this is the person you do want to marry.

There is more to consider than just is 18 too young to be engaged...
Is an 18 year old ready to settle down with 1 person for the rest of their life, and never regret the fact that they didn't have other relationships to experience?
How does an 18 year old know that this person is 'the one' if they've not had a chance to experience other proper adult relationships?
Has an 18 year old had substantial experience of 'real-life' eg working, money, running a home, etc.. to know they can cope with this and a 'proper' relationship.

clutterbug84

from personal experience yes it is. being married is like a fairy tale at 18 and anything you do to get closer seems like the right thing to do, but believe me its not! be in love thats all you need at the moment x

lina

no, just wait a few years before getting married though.

sunbun

nope---u are adult--however, I would recommeng being engaged at least 1 full year before even planning a wedding date

misbehave4me

Yes of course it is

diesel

i think its way too young... if you are engaged, at least stay unmarried for a few more years.

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