Is This Appropriate For A Husband To Do?

Gotz V

He's sleeping with her. What can you do, though? Boys will be boys.

Mrs. Jack Sparrow â™¥

i would be upset too...it's good that they are still friends, but he has to respect your feelings and should put an end to the chit chat.

OOO! I know! I know!

I think most spouses would have a problem being in your shoes. I know I would. In fact, if the tables were turned, and you were texting your ex / father of your child (hypothetically) or any other man for that matter, so much about anything, he'd almost certainly have a problem with it.

starlet108

No it isn't right. Fair enough to be friends because the daughter but there is no need to text all day long. xxx

farmersdaughter28

I'd be mad too. if he wants to talk to her everyday he should have stayed with her. right?

Dr Octagonapus

no it is not right for him to do that, you are his wife now not her

Strykerking

Its not right on his part- i can see how that would make anyone mad

Lee21

I'd have left already.
My hubby has a child with his ex and he NEVER talks to her like that. The only time they are supposed to talk is when it comes to the child. They can be friendly and cordial but they don't need to be talking like that constantly.

Gosh I feel so bad for you right now. I can't imagine what you are going through...

And the fact that he gets mad at YOU when you try to tell him that you have a problem with his relationship with her and he doesn't respect that would have been my first red flag that the relationship is probably not going to last.

You can't love a man who doesn't respect you. He should listen and ask why you feel the way you do and then take actions to limit his interaction with the ex.

I hate to say it but I have to go with you on this one.. it sounds like he's still in love with her.

I'm so sorry!

Good Luck

Ugly

I have a similar situation. My ex is the gatekeeper to my 8 year old son. And I have to stay on her good side in order to keep things civil.. even though she is the meanest person I have ever met. But she calls me all the time and she'll talk about absolutely nothing of importance or pertaining to my son. there could be more to it than what you are seeing. He might feel like he has to appease her to keep the peace. But if it is something that bothers you, he shouldn't take her side over yours. You have the right to not feel comfortable with this situation. And he shouldn't get mad at you for it. who ended his old relationship? If it was her.. he probably has some strong feelings for her still. Make sure he knows where you stand.. my wife usually asks me "What if I spoke to my ex boyfriend" it always makes me think differently. He probably doesn't see the wrong in the situation. For the most part he will probably always have feelings for her because of their past and their child... Make sure you keep that in check.. and remind him of why it is over in the first place.

Hope that helps

Anton

You have to put your down on this matter. It is really not doing any good in your marriage. You are now his wife and he has to spend more time talking to you than his ex. He sure is still in love with his ex, no doubt about it. Ask him if he is in your shoes and talking to your ex like he does, what would he feels like? Probably he would say, he won't mind to make an excuse for what he is doing. But if it's me and you are talking to your ex like that, I will tell you OR ELSE because I would feel that my feeling doesn't matter anymore to you..Being in a marriage to to me is making each other happy and work it out. But if the relationship is one way or my way attitude, I will show him/her the highway..

Jan Stolz

He cannot have a decent relationship with you because he's spending all his time and energy with his ex.
I'd deliver an ultimatum. Her or me.

blueskylvr1983

It's completely wrong for him to do that. Ask him to reverse the roles and ask him how he would feel if you were texting and calling your ex all the time? I'm sorry you're going through this! I hope you can work it out!

elfquest

looks like you are in the wrong marriage

chattanoogas_finest

totally inappropriate. If they're not talking about the kid, they shouldnt be talking. I'd kick his @ss

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No, he should be taking your feelings into consideration, and if you're not ok with him being in contact with his ex so much, then he should respect you because you are his wife now.

Latino Heat 4ever

hon, I would suggest that the two of you seek marriage therapy....if he refuses to go, then maybe you should for your sake (and pc of mind) ....maybe the therapist can contact him and ask him to come in to work on saving the marriage (if that is what he really wants). Your husband is in the wrong here...not you. Yes, two parents who have children together do share a closeness....but calling at all hours of the day and texting several times is a bit much. Maybe he hasn't let go of the marriage they had yet....it would be best that you two seek help now....or else you could lose your husband for good.

Mr. Mustard

Sounds like he's getting into her in more ways than one. If I were you, I'd file for divorce.

free_angel

Refuse to put up with this. Send him back to the ex.

Hypnotoad

Not at all, he should respect you as you are his wife now.

If he wants to call her once a week to check up on his child that's fine but every day is too much.

Put your foot down now.

â™¥â˜†Mrs. Roseâ˜†â™¥

This is wrong! Tell him to either stop talking to her so much or you are leaving. You deserve better!!

Hanley's Bar

Right now, I'd be saying "Oh Hell No!". I have step children and believe me, the ex and him DO NOT talk on the phone like that. I have even told him I don't really want it even going on in private. I don't enforce it all the time, because now I don't worry -but you have to make it clear you mean business!
That is BS right there. Yeah, they gotta talk because they have kids, but ALL the time about nothing in particular? What was the point of them getting divorced if they are just so buddy-buddy? He probably IS still in love with her. judging by the way you say he acts. No regard for your feelings or even for your thoughts and opinions for that matter.

Man, I'd put my foot down and say, "Hey buddy, you have to talk to her because she's the mother of your child, and that's great that the two of you are civil with each other. But you don't see me chatting up my ex all day long and disregarding every thought and opinion you have. If you value her thoughts and opinions so much, and not mine -it's clear that the two of you belong together. Go back to her and leave me the heck alone. If you want to make it work with me, you better nip this crap in the bud. If you talk to her from now on about anything other than the child and continue these phone conversations...and if you continue to disregard everything I say and only believe what you hear from her, I'm walking- end of story. If you think this marriage is only going to work on your terms your wrong. It is going to start working on mine as well." That's what I would say...

Raul G

nop, it is not correct fro him to still talk to his ex wifem your are the new one, THE NEW AND ONLY PERSON he should be talking and listening to

michael g

Its not gonna stop. Get a new house before filling for divorce.
Inappropriate or not - it ticks you off and its not going to stop.

George B

Sounds like he sees you as his housekeeper and concubine more than his wife. Let him find you packing to leave when he comes home one day. Tell him why and that you want it to stop. If he does you will have what you want. If he doesn't it'll be time for you to move on.

jmd72inva

you have every right to be angry and I would get to the bottom of this NOW...I have a 9 year old son and his father and I DO NOT communicate that frequently- hell, I don't communicate with ANYONE that much- frankly, it sounds very unhealthy.

Its a tough line to walk, but this can/will kill your marriage if you don't reach a compromise.

Good luck

juicyher

It sounds like you've all ready let him know you aren't comfortable with this. Tell him you don't feel respected and that he needs to work on his relationship with you more than sharing a relationship with her. If he won't do that, then you have to decide what to do at that point, not an easy decision for sure, but you can't "Make" anyone do anything, he should do it because your feelings should be more important to him than talking to someone he isn't sharing a life with anymore.

Seymour Butz

that's pretty shady if you ask me.

David S

It is inappropriate and suspicious for your husband to have such frequent contact with his ex-wife. You might want to hire a private detective to figure out exactly what's going on.

Frank L

the advice is simple and called "giving him an ultimatum." he obvious does not care what you think and if she is so damn special, why is she an ex?

Something tells me he is a man that will lose his new wife if he does not realize where his true loyalties and priorities are

Barb S

He is still very much attached to his ex and yes it is a problem. It's nice that he has a good relationship with her because of the child but I think he has gone over the top.

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