Is a 23 yrs age difference too much for marraige?

Azul

For true love the age doesn't matter. Your sister is already an adult and she must know what she is doing. if this makes her happy and if she really loves him... be happy about it and help her.

samantha

my parents are 20 years apart and have been together for 25 years

Yoda

It is a bit wierd for our culture, but it is more common in europe. You cannot control your sister and if you try you will lose her, so it is in your best interest to support her and try to understand that it is her decision.

Yoda out

In Love<3

no not at all. Age doesnt count. Its just a number! What counts is how much love is there or how much care.

Pagan

she should do what makes her happy,not you

fairywater<3

no because these days people are getting married no matter what the age difference is. As long as they are happy and love each other that's all that should matter.

magfry

Age is nothing compared to love. I belive if she loves him it's okay. You said yourself you would have liked him if you hadn't had know him and your sister were dating. Your being narrow minded

TryItOnce

Leave her alone. I was older then him when I had my first child.

You're an inexperienced, under-educated child. You and your family should just butt out.

Brother Otter

Spring / Autumn relationships aren't strange at all. 23 years is a stretch, but there's no reason it can't work. I know a couple whose ages are that different...

ozzie.1947

Not if one is 99 and the other 76.

mark

When she's 50 he'll be 73. Her 50's and 60's will be spent on eldercare

Roy

I agree with y'all,but its her life ,let her live it,if you say to much
y'all be doing it without her.

QTPI_101

If she truly loves him, I'd say Go for it!

apocalypso blues

You're being narrow minded.

If he makes her happy, then YOU should be happy for her.

Woopyalecris

what do you mean by his wife expired?? anyway, I understand your parents are worried but them and you have no business there, it is her decision, if they love and understand each other the will be just fine. Don't make things more difficult for your sister, she will have enough people judging her already, she needs your support.

mikayla_starstuff

It is too much of an age difference for me. I've dated guys 10 years my senior, but that is about as much of an age difference as I can tolerate.

I think that in a relationship guys that are too much older than me seem more likely to consider me a 'child' and not give me as much respect.

Also, with a guy who is that much older, think about how much of her life she is likely to spend as a widow...

BRATYCHIQUITA19

AS LONG AS THEY LOVE EACHOTHER AND ARE HAPPY TOGETHER THATS ALL THAT COUNTS!

david464014

She's an adult. If it's good enough for her then it should be good enough for everyone else.

Lucy in the Sky

It's not about what YOU think, it's about how SHE feels. I am in LOVE with my fiancee, 25 years my senior, and it may be a little bit unconventional but you have no right to judge your sister. All that matters is the happiness and love that they share.

Zac

Your sister is 24? Mind your own business

tricky

what makes her happy..let her enjoy her life

some_kid

To me yea, thats a huge difference and i dont no why she wouldnt want some one her own age. If it was me a would have a huge go at the bloke. But on the other hand if she likes him then its up to her.

Robert G

that is going to be extremely ackward for the 17 year old, it sounds too old, when she is 37 and still full of life he is going to be 60, if her biological clock starts ticking at 30 and she wants kids of her own, not just fully grown step kids, then he will be 53! it would be tough to have kids at that age cuase when they are 12, he would be 65, when they are 20 he would be 73... she needs to think about this long and hard and for way more than one year

The Beast from the Middle East

Not if both are happy with each other.

deepthinker

Chances are it won't work out. The age gap is too much. They won't have anything in common after the "honeymoon" era. I've seen it happen so many times. Sorry to have to say that. I think you and your family are concerned for all the RIGHT reasons.

The One, The Only Krandazzo!

just let her be, if shes happy get over it. answer me this will you how does a wife "expire" lol either they are divorced or is she dead?

kooldude789

she is crazy he's way to old if they have a kid right away when the kid is 10 he'll have a 58 or older dad

áƒ¦Krissyáƒ¦

They sound happy and you even said yourself that if you didn't know he was dating your sister that you would of liked him.

teresathegreat

Well, it's all legal. This type of relationship has been known to work out - not often, but sometimes. Usually the younger woman is just a rebound or an ego boost for the older man, but if he's willing to meet her family he must have some genuine interest in her.

So, yes, it's weird, and it's totally understandable that your family would freak out. And you should talk seriously with your sister about her reasons for this relationship and whether it will make her happy in the long run. Really listen to her reasons and try to understand. Ultimately, all you want is her happiness, even if you don't understand WHY this makes her happy.

So talk with your sister, sniff out this guy, but ultimately, support your sister's decision.

Ellyn

Don't worry about the age difference, worry more about her happiness.

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