Is a baby enough to keep you together?

Lorelei

It would depend on the severity of the lack of emotion in the relationship.
I've been married for 10 years and I will admit that the first 4 or 5 years were really rocky. I had 2 babies and my hormones were going everywhere. I was stressed out taking care of the children. My husband was stressed out trying to make ends meet and provide the best for his family.
We were both completely new to marriage and being parents. We couldn't really find the time to enjoy each other and have fun. We didn't treat each other very well because we were venting our frustrations on one another.
A lot of times I felt alone and unloved. But I only felt that way, because I let myself feel like that. My husband was in the exact same boat as I was.
You always think the grass is greener on the other side. It isn't though. With a new relationship, comes new problems.
So you really need to sit down and ask yourself is it as bad as you make it out to be? Is there anything you can do to fix the situation?
Try making yourself feel better and see if that improves anything. If your partner won't make the first move and try to better the relationship, maybe you should.
If you feel unloved, chances are that your spouse feels unloved as well. Ever hear the old saying "You can catch more flies with honey than with vinegar?" Instead of waiting around for things to change, you should change yourself. Try doing loving things for your spouse.
Maybe he will start to feel better and in turn he will treat you with the love and respect that you deserve.
Good luck!

adam g

Never stay together for the child.They can sense the tension and you both will be miserable

M.iiie

No way..

Trust me, the best thing my parents did was get a divorce. Everyone was much happier without the yelling and arguments. It was nice to see my mum and dad happy too because they met other people and fell in love.

You will do yourself a favour if you leave, don't put your kid through hell

Greg N

I know I would certainly stay for the baby if everything else was going bad. But I know from observation and education that a couple having a baby can do far more harm than good to an already strained relationship.

pisces_dreamer06

never stay together for the child. when the child is old enough he/she will sense the tension between you two and it can be very unhealthy. Move on

Classy

never stay or a baby. it'll be harder on you and yoour child it could even make you resent it. lorelei is very smart. her answer is very good

coffee.taylor

Put him on child support and move on to someone who will love you for you and your baby.

yani

No it isn't worth it, It isn't haelthy .

...oh...

No, dont use your child as an excuse. Some parents are able to make it work after the baby is born, but most dont usually work out. If he is a good father then he could stay in the childs life and pay child support too. Both of you need to keep your sanity, dont stick together and you dont love each other-it could drive you crazy. No matter what you will both still b parents to this child. So I suggest you split if you are not happy with each other, but if you dont wanna split, try marriage counseling and see if that will help you.

Grace

Well I believe you should always TRY to make it work, but if it's just not happening definitely end things. It's wrong for parents to stay together just because they have a child. It's not good for the child. I'm sure your child would rather see both parents happy with someone else than miserable together. Have you ever heard the song "Stay Together for the Kids" by Blink-812? That song describes what this kid is going through, having his parents stay together for him. It's really sad. If things don't get better you should just leave.

saaamie

no dont stay together for the child. you need to be happy too and i know a lot of people who are happy whos parents have split, most of my friends in fact

Love Lies Bleeding

Whether you show it or not children know when something is wrong. And the longer you stay together when you know things aren't working, the worse the relationship is going to get which will only stress the child out and have negative effects on him/her. Whereas if you leave, you can explain to the child what has happened and why you decided to leave and that it is in no way the child's fault. The younger the child the better it will be to leave.

Piggy

I doubt it would work for many people - it would only make life harder, more stressful and add a whole new batch of issues to the mix.

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