Is a man truly trying to work out his marriage if he still talks to the other woman?

Roland

All right, I must admit you have made your point very clear!
Likewise your wording is quite sound.
Perhaps we must give it a second thought and
Elaborate the other way around as well
Really do you want to get it right?

Ontheotherhand

NO! When you keep talking to the woman, you aren't working to fix the marriage. Boot the fool out. Unless you enjoy being a doormat.

cowboy

no, he is trying to have his cake and eat it too. He is thinking everything will blow over and he can go back to the rutine of having both you and her.

vampiro

He is not confused. His marriage consisted of TWO people not three. If he doesn't respect you enough to not talk to his gf anymore. then you SHOULD LEAVE HIM. He should have been dumped when someone found out he had another woman.

Know it All

Yes, most married men cheat, so don't read into the fact that he is with other women. He sounds like a keeper.

Destiny

He's not trying and you need to pray about what you need to do about the sitsuation...... Good Luck.

babygirl97889

a man after he gets married always cheats on his wife thats all i have to say!!!!!!!

Dave

Been there done that. No.

somanyquestions

Of course not, he's playing both sides of the fence. He's a scumbag.

Esa

I think not, if he was really trying to work out his marriage, I see no concern in this other woman to be in the picture. If he really wanted to work it out he'd discuss it with that person because they're the ones that are going through a situationand trying to get it fixed.

beth h

uh no, DUH! If is truley working on this marriage he will be truly devoted to his wife!

brian k

He is confused.

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talking is not a problem unless he does not talk to his wife

PRINCEZZ

If he is working at his marriage he should not be talking to other women... he's confused....

StraightDrive

What do you mean? He cannot even talk to anyone?? Is he quarantined for life??? How would you feel if similar restrictions are placed on you.

The wife is insecure if she fears another woman. Every marriage evolves over time and it does not mean that the husband cannot talk with a friend after marriage. The emotinal connection becomes stronger with passing days and it depends how each partner works to build the marriage. The fact that he married her means he preferred her to everyone else. So where is the insecurity?

Me and my shadow

I think he could be in love with both. He is afraid to loss you and her. I would give him time to find what he really wants. A separation is in order here.

helping_hand_only_4_u

HE IS AN A**

Samba Queen

No. If he is talking with another woman, he is trying to have his cake and eat it too. There is no in between. He is either working on his marriage with his wife, or he is cheating on her with another woman. This guy cannot be trusted. He is a creep and should be kicked to the curb as far as humanly possible.

nukecat25

Sounds like the best of both worlds for him. I say lay it on the line and make him choose once and for all, no if's, and's, or but's

Legal_Beagle

If he truly wants to work on his marriage than he needs to be committed to it and to his wife. Part of our marriage vows that we take state that "we take this [man/woman] to be our lawfully wedded [wife/husband] ...forsaking all others...until death do us part." Forsaking all others means just that, no one else except your partner.

He was also called to love and honor his spouse. Is contacting you while trying to work things out showing her love or honor. I think that you know the answer to that.

Be respectful, how would you feel if you were her. You may be someday.

lisalisa

I think he is probably confused. If you found him out and he is still chatting with her...you need to put your freaking foot down and tell him to make a choice. No sitting on the fence. If he was emotionally attached to her that can be tough. But if it were me...and it was...it was cold turkey or it was NOTHING. You both probably need to talk to a professional to work this out. If he won't go....GO ALONE...Best money you will ever spend. You have been traumatized. It will take time to heal. Best wishes. I have been there and done that. Luckily....we had a happy ending.

The Last Patriot

Easily, he's still confused. When it's over, it's over. No mas.

riddletricia

There is no confusion here, he wants both. Wake up and smell the coffee.

browneyedgirl

He cannot work out on his marriage one foot in and one out. He has to cut his ties to the other woman. He would still be lying to his wife and any barrier between them would destroy the chances of reconciliation. He owes her and his marriage the best shot. If he's feeling guilty towards the other woman, he needs to tell himself that she's better off too. If he's confused, the best way is to give one of them his all and see how that works. One love said Bob Marley.

shawnthavirgo

There should be NOTHING to talk about, unless its a question about how to spell her name correctly on the restraining order!

the moose

he is not confused. he is a CHEAT

leadbelly

they have a bond.
you shouldn't expect them to have to break it in a way that hurts both of them.
please find it in yourself to give them time to part, say three weeks.
if they haven't you can assume that they aren't going to finish.

smurfette_au2000

He's not truly trying to work on the marriage. If he was, he wouldn't be talking to the other woman. I'd say he's still in love with the other woman and is trying to convince himself he should be with you (i'm assuming you have kids) so that he doesn't break up the family or something. Tell him to leave you alone, and that you don't need him back out of pity. Find someone new. He'll never truly come back to you.

Kat

You talk with your mouth so why would that be a problem for you. Sounds like you have a touch of low self esteem going on. You might want to look in side your self and ask why would ONLY talking to some one (FEMALE) or not matter so much to you. I don't mean to sound like a bit-h but when you have feelings like that it's some thing a lot deeper. Maybe you could talk to some one that knows about things like that, your pastor or a counselor etc, etc.

BeenThereDoneThat

He's going through withdraw symptoms when he doesn't talk to the other woman. These symptoms are depression, anxiety and inability to concentrate. When he talks to the other woman, those feelings dissipate. Unfortunately, if he still talking to her, he's not able to commit to working on the marriage. That is not to say he doesn't want to work on the marriage, but he can't fully commit with her in the background. The only way your marriage can be successful is if he can cut her out completely. If he does cut her out completely, he will no doubt experience depression and anxiety as a result. This will typically last for three weeks, but depending on the length of time spent with the other woman, it could go as long as six months. You're in for a hard battle. I'm living it right now... I feel like I'm staying for my daughter because I just don't got the love for my wife anymore, but you gotta try to give it time to evolve into love for each other again. Good luck.

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