Is fooling around on the net equal to cheating?

Danielle

Yes, I do believe it is some form of cheating. You should be honest with one another, and if it is innocent conversation, the other partner should understand. If not, invite them to join in. Would you like it if your partner was keeping something from you?

CeciliaM

Ask yourself how you would feel about your partner doing this and keeping it secret from you. I personally think it is a form of cheating, because you are sharing yourself in an intimate way that should only be reserved for your spouse.

Bill

Would your partner consider it cheating?
Would you consider it cheating if your partner was engaging in the same activity?

charlie3127389

Yes...the intention is there

no_i_am_asparagus

yes photoswapping etc is cheating if you are keeping it a secret. I can't see anything wrong with simply chatting to someone though, although if you are keeping it a secret that must say something about you and your relationship...

Lil Mama

Weather your female or male, your partner will consider this cheating. Just think of it like this, how would you feel if you found out your partner was doing it? Now increase that by about 50% and that is how your partner is going to feel.

Tears Dry On Their Own

I don't think it's cheating, but it's definitely wrong. You're keeping something from your significant other that they would probably want to know about. I always think about the situation like "What if they were in the room, and if they were, would they approve?" You might not necessarily be cheating, but if you're taking pictures of yourself in provocative situations you're wanting the kind of attention that only your mate should be entitled to give you if you're in a relationship. Now, if it's just simply pictures of you hanging out, or you with your friends, that's harmless. I still think the other person should know, because if you have nothing to hide than why are you hiding it? But, that's just my two cents.

Shark Bait

Absolutley, Its about trust once that's gone its all over. Whomever your hiding it from it will come out in the end they will find it.

so end it now unless your determind to be alone

ShaH

Yes...
Just chatting isn't but swapping pictures and not telling your partner is cheating...

Tay_Chanel

if you feel you have to keep it from your partner then you shouldnt be doing it...so i would say yes its considered cheating if you know that if your partner found out about it they wouldnt like it

Luke P

Chit chat is one thing dude, webcamming, photoswapping and cybering is just stupid and unecessary. If you need to do that stuff you're in the wrong relationship.

RachelR

It depends if it is perverse photo swapping and such. I would wonder to myself why she would keep it a secret if she didn't feel guilty is some way.

Drew G

I would say chit chat is not cheating. If you are getting naked for anyone else or watching someone getting naked then there is cheating involved.

june

I think it is because why would you be looking to share your pics and talk with them via cam if you already have a partner. It is totally up to you, but as a girl I would never do that to my partner, yet alone hide it behind his back. That is just not right in your part, he will be very upset if he finds out, if I where you just stop and never do it again.

Claire S

Absolutely! You are thinking about, and concentrating on the person you are online to. Of course it is cheating - psychological + mental cheating.

askjohn

Yes.

You are robbing your partner of the commitment and security that they are entitled to in a relationship. If you didn't think it was a big deal, why the secret, why not be overt? You know it is wrong, thats why you are keeping a secret.

Ellie

YES YES YES- without a shadow of a doubt and if he tells you otherwise he's trying to appease his conscience. Its an ever growing problem with access to all this technology - but you have to put a stop to it now. If he won't then he doesn't love you enough.

Yeah it is would you like your woman to do those kinds of things on the net? If you are okay with it then it's okay I guess.

n i k k i

On some level, yes it is. You are conciously hiding this behaviour from your spouse, so you obviously know your doing something wrong. How would you feel if you caught your spouse doing this?

Kitty

What does "cheating" mean to you and your partner? If my partner was doing this, I would consider it inappropriate - whether or not I, or anyone else, would call it "cheating". I think, a better question is, what is or is not acceptable in a relationship; you can argue about word definitions 'til you're blue in the face and it won't resolve anything - but setting up the guidelines on what is "acceptable" might be easier to do.

lancej0hns0n

it depends on who you ask - if you're asking me - i would say
NO and NO

ask my wife and she'll say
YES and YES

lily

The main thing it shows is you are not getting what you need from your spouse. That is what you should more concerned about. (Some people think just thinking about someone else is cheating)

sparkleythings_4you

becoming emotionally involved with another person is considered cheating. If it is just general chit-chat then why hide it? being deceitful is as bad as cheating.

KittyKat

Yes and yes and you already know that. The big question is ~ why are you doing it behind your spouse's back? That alone says you are not trustworthy and have broken your vows by sneaking around like a weasel.

I have various friends from my past (male and female) that my husband knows about and I share the conversations I have with them so he knows up front what is going on. I would NEVER think of sneaking behind his back to talk with someone else. Never !!

The only sneaking I do is to surprise him with a birthday party or our anniversary or some special, spontaneous thing I do to remind him how much I love him and how much I cherish him.

Start putting more time into your relationship and stay off the internet if you can't behave yourself.

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