Is he cheating on his wife with me??

jude

until they are truly divorced, it could go either way here. he could go back to her leaving u hurt and heartbroken so its never a good idea to get involved with anyone still married, divorced or not. if he felt guilty maybe she didn't want this divorce. its always best to wait before committing to a man who is still married just in case he went back to her. i am just wondering why they have been separated for 2 years, with no divorce?

Bobbie

I think that all depends on what he and his 'wife' believe their relationship to be. If they are in agreement that they are separated with the intention of divorcing and no chance at reconciling, then no, it's not cheating.

However, if he is leading her on and she things there is a chance of them getting back together, then yes, it's cheating.

Spanishfly

Technically, it is adultery. He is still married.

Watch IT!

Your relationship is doomed. He has yet to break clean and break free from the wife. He is still attached to her through the children. I'd bet $100 he's seen her in the past 4 months. ("seen her")

Ask him.

BabyDoll

Why would you want to be with a married man. He is legally still married.

Violet Pearl

You're dating a married man. You're the rebounder. It won't last- when people go from one relationship to another, it never does.

Rebecca W

It's a matter of opinion. A year really isn't that long a time to recover from one relationship before starting another.

CRAVIN

You Answered your Own Question

..they arn't together.She doesn't want him and he doesn't want her.

MsTruthful

I say stop the relationship until the divorce is final

Carrie W

I think he left her to be with you, and you should trust him!

Queen of Beer

I guess technically it is, but it has been a long separation. I would never date a guy til he was 100% divorced...too much emotional stuff going on there and I wouldn't want to mess with it.

martha

ask him

when, exactly, did he file, and when, exactly, is his court date?

antonio

well I say no he is not cheating on you there is a process in which 2 people once they marry have to go through. I totally understand because i was in that situation. the only bad thing with this scenario is that the kids and his ex will always be there. so ultimately your gonna have to make the decision what you want?! stay because you love / want it to continue the relationship or leave and start fresh with someone who doesn't have an ex / kids and you can build that relationship from ground up!! your call

jaded

if they are truly divorcing and there is a date set in stone when it is final, i said, final, then you know the timeline.
if there is not he is a married guy who will probably string you along with no guilt. men are not divorcing quickly these days for financial reasons. that means you may and i dont know for sure but you may be the one out of the three of you out of the truth loop.

guard your heart, he isnt really free, he has a whole other family forever and you are the first girl he has dated while newly separated, men tend to break up with gals like you after they string them along for a long time while engaging in family drama. just so ya know. there are plenty of single 25 year olds out there.

Heidi

Sounds like he doesn't intend to reconcile with his wife. If they are going through with the divorce, I don't think you have any reason to worry. The fact that he sees the children once every week or two is not a problem.

If he drags his feet on the proceedings, or makes excuses for why he won't go through with it "yet," you should worry.

By the way, does his ex know about you? If not, she should, and you should find out why your man isn't willing to tell her he's moved on.

mrsbates

too much going on at one time hun. he's not even divorced, but yet dating. that's just one big mess.

Simply Lovely

It all depends on where you live. In CA, once you file for divorce you are your own person, you just can't get married until your divorce is final.

KRDB

my fiance now was still legally married when we got together and I didn't think twice about it. they had been seperated for a while and were in the process of getting divorced. If he is commited to you and you don't have a problem with it then I don't think it matters.

Lily

Even if he is not living w/her, they are married. so unless the ink is dry on the divorce papers, you are still the other woman.

All legs

Well, I think not. But you must follow your heart not your ego. If he makes you feel like a million bucks and he tells you everything then slow down. Let him handle things and you trust in him especially if you don't know anything different. Sit back keep quiet. Remember... everything that is down in the dark always comes to light. So if he is creeping, you dont have to worry because his dirt will come to light.

inoffensive nickname

I think it's always a bad idea to start dating someone when they are married, but in your case, you have cold hard proof that he's actually getting a divorce, and you certainly had nothing to do with their breakup. You're one of those odd cases where it actually may work out. I hope he, you, and his soon-to-be-ex-wife are in one of those rare amicable situations because if you are, the kids will surely benefit.

Good luck!

Kaja

it's not in any way cheating.

don't worry about it.

you are over thinking things.

Total Envy DJ

I have actually known 2 people that were in this same situation. By the sound of it, he is over his "soon to be" ex-wife. The situation he is in makes it difficult for him to prove 100% that he is not in love or attached to his ex-wife anymore. A b/f or g/f can simply say, "do not see them anymore" but when children are involved it is dificult to cut them off from one's life. My suggestion would be to have some faith in him that he is faithful to you, and you only. When you do that you will have a more clear answer for yourself.

Mango P

I think that if they are not interested in each other then just let it go. Are there other issues besides the mentioning of the guiltyness? You shoulnt worry at all.

timmishere

I don't think he is..I mean, its good that you are concerned, but it seems to me that the marriage is over, with you or without you. As long as you are not a part of the break up. They were already having problems before you came on the scene.

cobrasnake

No.Because they have 2 years separated.If he is living with her as a couple,then yes.But in this case, no at all.Good question.

new_mama23

i dont think that it is cheating.. does the wife know about you? i wouldnt worry about it :)

kheserthorpe

They are legally not divorced, but ethically they are separated.

Not cheating. They are not currently a couple.

tedstryker68

as long as he is married...it is cheating..

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