Is is considered cheating???

anthony J

To be perfectly honest with you, I do believe u have answered your question ! If as you say you are feeling guilty (sometimes or otherwise) about your communications or dealings with this male friend of yours... then more than likely it's something you shouldn't be doing . And , I don't think it's simply the fact of you "talking" to him( your friend) that has you feeling guilty . Perhaps, it has more to do with the nature of the conversation & e-mails being shared between you both that causes the so-called guilt feelings.
Besides, if whatever it is that's transpiring between you & this male -person can't be mentioned to or shared with your husband of 16 years... then chances are that you shouldn't be indulging in it yourself.
I would suggest that you discontinue with your "flirtatious" affair with the gentleman as soon as possible... and, before it gets too far out of control. To the point that it could even jeopardize your marriage.
Also do keep in mind "Murphy's-Law" ( All that can go wrong...Shall go wrong ), eventually ! And once having lost your husband's trust...it will be the hardest thing to ever recover... if u ever can!

Really think about what you're doing; and all you place at stake !
Good luck !

Rose

If you're feeling guilty, that could be a red flag. Don't ignore it.
You probably should cool it.

Just restrict it to just friends introduce him to your husband

BRIAN J R

if you are doin this alot then should , it can only lead to somethin else, you should have to talk to him all the time that should be done w/ husband, talkin sometimes is ok .

JistheRealDeal

Yes, you should stop talking to him! How would you feel if your husband was doing the same? You would hate it and be highly suspicious as any reasonable person would. I can say from experience that casual and friendly communications USUALLY leads to other things(use your imagination).You are feeling guilty because you know it is not right. Respect your husband and the happy marriage you have going for you. Don't ruin a good thing!

Sabrina <3

no. he's a friend-family friend just hang with him if u start to feel that there is more than friendship in this relashonship then back off of him and spend time with your husband!

bill w

it sounds like the first step in the wrong direction

Advisor

I'll take intensions for 5 points

lildevilchild_87

Its not cheating unless you are talking dirty to each other and things of that nature...if you are having feelings for this guy I think its time you sat down with your husband and had a talk as well with the other guy involved....don't feel guilty for having male friends and talking...as long as nothing else is going on.

Dusty Rose

Just talk, can be Innocent, keep it that way, be careful how the conversation goes, and what it leads toward, if you feel uncomfortable with this situation, then quit doing it.

Abhijit

It is cheating only if you feel guilty. Otherwise it is OK. So, you decide what suits you.

Carrie!

I don't see anything wrong with it as long as you keep it friendly. Make sure you aren't flirting with him without realizing it or anything like that. Then it could become something more.

Jessica R

As long as it doesn't go any farther than friendship it's okay,but don't spend more time with him than your husband

Heathen

its not cheating but it may lead to worse things. If you are feeling guilty then stop.

girl176a1

I would not talk to another guy on the phone but emailing is another thing. As long as you know your boundaries with your husband. Boundaries you have made with your husband about other men. Emailing is one thing but talking on the phone is another. You probably should just email the guy. Your husband probably doesn't know of him and would frankly be jeoulus & chat with other girls and make you mad. Remember If he finds out he will want to talk to other girls and email them also. As long as your husband knows of this its ok and hes ok with it. Just know If you dish it out you have to get the same in return.

debbie3968@sbcglobal.net

you should let your hubby know just in case he sees an emial. What kind of feelings do you get when you talk to him do you get anxious when you know your gonna talk to him how do you feel inside cause thats what you need to know whether you will cheat or not

Ruffus Mcghee

I don't know about you... but I think the real question is if you're husband did this to you would you consider it cheating? Assuming that your husband is a man that could possibly cheat on you...

mrs. nighs

it's emotional cheating you dont have to be sleeping someone to cheat

BuffyFromGP

Depends, could you tell your husband everything said in the conversation? If you can say "yes" then no problem, if you say "no", then you have a problem.

whiteparrot

All affairs begin this way. You have taken the first step on a roller coaster. Best stop while you can. And, no matter what the first person said, don't follow your heart if your heart is falling for this man. Do what is right.

Hollynfaith

No honey, it's not cheating. Everyone needs someone to talk to. There is one thing that could make it wrong though, and that's if your husband does not know the two of you converse. He's a co-worker, nothing more, nothing less. As long as you have no intentions of straying from the hubby, it's a healthy friendship.

I have one of those guys too. But my hubby knows about him and we often do things together with this guy (baseball games, football games, bars, etc.) My husband knows that I vent to him as well as he does to me. I think that as long as I don't hide anything, nor have a hidden agenda or any fantasies about this guy, it's okay.

snow l

I think so.

No distractions needed .

xLostLoLx

It is not consider cheating as long as you do not have any affair with him.

cheetah7

The fact that your husband doesn't know and you're feeling guilty about it makes me wonder what your intentions are for having this friend. It may not be considered "cheating" in a sense but if you're sharing intimate information with him that you should otherwise be sharing with your husband then it's considered inappropriate. Consider also: What if u were to let your husband in on it, how would he feel about it? If your husband responds in anger then u can bet that this relationship u have with your friend, however innocent, will be inappropriate.

jpet

Male friends are fine. Just keep it friendly. Being married does not mean we can not have male friends does it? Our life should not stop because we are married. We all need all types of friends. I have very close male friend and it is great!!!

You answered your own question with two words feeling guilty.. If this isn't something you feel you can share with your husband then there is a problem...

jonijuggsoncam

If you are having doubts and guilty feelings and you want to stay with your husband, I'd say stop it before anything happens.

Carlyn

Do you hide this relationship from your husband? If so, why? Do you want something to happen? I think having a little crush on someone is normal but don't step over the line.....good luck.

eMale

Better cool it.

true-mysteryfrom chinese wish

stop how would you feel if he did that to you?

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