Is is wrong to check up on your husband?

www.spunkist.com

Nope you are good. Just a maintenance once a while to make sure things are still in check. Like a computer doing a clean up and defrag.. or a car doing an oil change and a check up. Things should be checked to make sure it is still good. If you ignore to check your car, a small problem can become a huge problem. You are not paranoid where you check on him every day.... just once a while to make sure everything is good.

For people that say you are insecure needs a reality check. They are most likely the people that are in the world of their own and unwilling to face reality. I check my bf blackberry and he is free to read mine. We have nothing to hide. I tell him he can read any of my mail because i have nothing to hide. He has the same concept. He has access to my email and i have his. It is call open and honest policy.

Belinda28

I think there is nothing wrong with doing that periodically.

luvnhatelife

If you know he is not cheating. this sounds like lack of trust in your husband.

lfitz64

Yes! if you know hes not cheating what are you looking for? until he gives you reason to not trust him, stop creating doubt in your own mind. I am sure if he were to find out you were doing this he would be angry, I know I would be!

mommacat

if you don't have a reason to do so, then don't. if he would find out he would be upset that you don't trust him. would you like him to do that to you? goes both ways

Adam L

yes it is. you obviously have trust issues you need help

firefighterwife

Sounds to me like you have trust issues. If there is no reason to look through his stuff than you shouldn't do it. Maybe you should talk with someone about why you can't trust. You should be able to trust him with your life.

Mrs Libra

If you have no reason to think he is cheating then yes it is wrong,

Where is the trust?

jdrumming

If he finds out it will be a mistake for sure. Your distrust of him will not breed his loyalty you can be sure.

If you can find a way to give him all your trust and stop checking behind his back..it would be better for your relationship.

Aderr

Not at all, although if you feel like you REALLY don't trust him, and you do start suspecting him, I'd then talk to a marriage counselor. Its their job to deal with this.

JB's Babygirl

In my personal opinion, I don't think it is wrong. I mean when people are cheating it is usually not blatantly obvious and your spouse doesn't come out and tell you, so people figure out somehow. But you should work on your trust for him, especially if time after time you find nothing.

==the_great_sandwich_maker==

Yes, it is. Please stop, and learn to trust, and not be overprotective.

BloggingPrincess

Be careful of asking questions that you may not want the true answer to. Have you decided what you're going to do if you ever do discover something?

BB'sMom

you have a reason, past or present. so is it wrong? you know they say people find what they look for. That's been my experience with my fiance (over a 12 year period) . When I was looking I found...when I was not looking and there was something to be found it was found... Now I don't look and nothing comes my way. I don't look b/c I don't expect to find. Plus I have a 2 year old so I don"t have time for that @$*! anymore. My point is you're looking b/c you think you might find something. Stop looking completely and see what happens. You're ether going to be pleased or disappointed.

Red Letter

You are wrong. If my wife did that to me, we would have serious problems. You personal insecurity issues do not give you the right to invade someone else's privacy... even if that someone is your husband.

Honey

Yes it's wrong. No adult should be monitored as if they were a child. If you don't trust him, why are you married to him? What would you say if he asks you why you're digging into his phone, that you were tryna ensure he wasn't cheating on you? That's enough to make even the most honest guy uneasy. No one likes to feel as if they're under police search lights when they haven't committed any crimes.

Also, I can tell you from experience that if your husband's a smart guy, you won't find any evidence of him cheating by anything physical you'll find of his. It'll be in his actions. So rather than look through his things, pay attention to his actions. Invading his privacy can lead to trouble. His actions aren't private so if you watch those, you're good.

w.dale95

Depends on you. "People who look under rocks better be prepared to find snakes." If you can't handle what you might find, don't look.

bananas

no, it isn't wrong. it just shows that you really don't want to get hurt. you are only protecting yourself and theres nothing wrong with that.

but you can't keep doing it. you obviously have trust issues with your partner that you should fix before they get out of hand

Ready for Summer

It is wrong if he hasn't given you a reason to check up on him. If you know for sure he isn't cheating then you need to respect his privacy and remember trust goes two ways and if you start breaking his trust by going through his stuff he will do the same.

Eve

Signs of cheating

chihuahua

if you don't trust your husband, then why are you with him. you cannot love your husband if you keep thinking he's cheating on you. and if you keep thinking he's cheating on you.
he will cheat on you.cause your making him to cheat!

**Just Updated**

NOT AT ALL....KEEP DOING IT !

nah

BergenD

I do it. I've even seen him do it to my phone. We aren't cheaters...never in a million years. And I never expect to find anything. But the horror stories you hear these days make it hard to not give in to "what if......"

tanner

I think everyone is guilty of this at one point in their life

lamiakaulitz

HELL NOOO!!!! you do what u gotta do i support that 100%. We need to make sure are doing right by us.

niclala

If you had asked me 12 months ago i would say "yes" its wrong as i would hate him to be checking up on me however, i recently discovered he had a one Night stand and now i check his phone every night!!!
I think if he hasnt given you any reason to be concerned leave his phone alone x x

Lucy

I do too. For no other reason than curiosity.

If we're wrong, I don't want to be right.

Karma_Babyy<3

no. but you need to trust him even though you don't want nothing bad to happen in your realationship. hope you don't find anything bad :]]

jude

i don't see a thing wrong with it, if it eases your mind.

reaper_vicious

well I never though my wife would cheat on me but I check her phone and even befriend her lover and that's how I find out about it. If you have a gut feeling that he is chances are that he is but be careful cause even a gut feeling can be wrong. In my case it was right..

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