Is it Love marriage is better than arrange marriage?

Rahul

Whenever we talk of Indian wedding we try to equate it with arrange marriages. In India the social structure is such that we associate Indian marriages mainly with arrange marriages. Most of us have the feelings that arrange marriage is the concept of Indian society. But history tells us that arranged marriages use to happen even in the Victorian age. The history of England tells us that most of the kings and queens had arranged marriages. In India arrange marriages originated when child marriages was customary in the country. Caste system gave birth to arrange marriages, as the upper caste families didn't want their children to marry outside their community and caste. The concept of love marriage was a taboo in ancient India as India always had a tradition of arranged marriages. But after World War II and industrial revolution people's perception started changing and they became familiar with the concept of love marriages. In India the influence of the British culture gave rise to love marriages. The idea, which was once a taboo, became more open and acceptable in the Indian society. But this change was seen only among the educated and high society Indians. The rural parts of the country remained ignorant and unaware of love marriages. In spite of the social changes arranged marriage persisted.

Love or arranged marriages is still a debatable topic in the Indian society. People still debate on the issue, which one is better. What should be the basis of the marriage love or social norms? We are still confused about these issues. Education and media played a vital role in changing the perception of the Indian mind. As people started thinking beyond the social customs and traditions of arranged marriages. They realized that they have the right to choose their life partner without any kind of social pressure. It is after all their life. They can decide without having to rely on parents, relatives and matchmakers. This change in the mental set up of the people gave birth to love marriages. Now in India people are open to love marriages. It is no more forbidden in the society. In our country we are having both love and arranged marriages.

If we start comparing love and arranged marriages we will see that both have certain pros and cons. But the common factor in both the concepts is physical attraction. When a man and a woman go out on their first date physical attraction is the deciding factor. Same in case of arranged marriage where the relation starts only after the girl or boy likes each other. But there are certain things, which are found in love marriages and not in arranged. Like spending time together and getting to know each other. Because when you have decided to spend your life together it is important you know the person. There should be metal compatibility and understanding among both, and this can only happen when you spend time together. People may argue that even after knowing each other for so long why people get divorced after a love marriage. It is because when two people are in love they are at their best to impress each other. They behave, they talk and they wear what the other person likes. But it is after marriage that you get to know the real person. There are couples who are still discovering each other even after twenty years of their marriage. This is the actual beauty of a relationship where everyday you discover a new thing about your partner.

In case of arranged marriages the relation starts when the girl and the boy get to know each other in a couple of meeting before the final commitment. Before deciding anything the parents check the family background and financial stability. Which is also very important. Most people think that those who go for arranged marriage are not in an advantageous position, but it's not so you may get the right person for whom you have been waiting. Even in love marriages after many years of courtship people find their partner not suitable and they break up. So it is not about spending time together but successful marriage is all about understanding and respecting each other's feelings, love and concern. It is argued that love marriages offer more independence and freedom as compared to arranged marriages since both of them know each other so the social and family pressures are less. If you know somebody before marriage it allows partners to have better respect and understanding for each other's needs and desires. In love marriages expectations are more compared to arrange marriages, as they know each other and want their partner to act in the best possible manner.

Arranged marriages, offer more protection and security to the women as the parents decide the family. Parents make use of their maturity and decision while choosing suitable spouses for their children. The decision of parents sometimes helps to make the right choice. But it doesn't mean that arranged marriages are ideal marriages. Even in an arranged marriage there is a different sor

angel

both the marriags are good
if u r in love with some one and ur parents agree for u both to get married
then its good
but
what ever happens to ur life with her
is ur responsibility u don't have any scope to tell ur parents reagrding ur life partner
however
if u do arrange marriage
atleast u have the scope to discuss about ur parnter with ur parents
so dear
both is good
depensds upon u how u deal with ur partner

Oo Sara Jaan oO

arranged marriage lol :) i love my family & i understand
They`ll pick some one who I like as a husband so everybodyâ€™s happy.

snow_white

LM and AM are two Parallel lines in the sacred institution of marriage. both are bound to have advantage and disadvantage depending upon the persons involved.

constant

Marriage should be carefully planned by taking into considerations all aspects of happy family life forever. Selection of the life partner must be perfect whether one gets through love or arranged. Mostly, God fearing people avoid love marriages. Statistically arranged marriage is considered better as exploration of all qualities of both are done in finer details more systematically in copybook manner. In love marriage, possibility of haphazardity in many aspects is more. Marriage life must be sweet & stable which is more important irrespective of whether it was done through love or arranged which is only forgotten history, none cares afterwards.

Angel

a love marriage that is arranged!

Ganesh

You have success and failures in both cases. Therefore one cannot generalize which is better than the other.

ajay_4586

arrange marriage is traditional and outdated. due to change in mental state of people love marriage is better than arrange.

Nyla

A "love" marriage will be better in the beginning. Its exciting and emotional. But as the years pass it turns into more of a friendship. That's if you decide to stay together at all. Many of these marriages fail after all the excitement wears off. If you get into an arranged marriage with someone you at least like, you are skipping the beginning part and moving right into the friendship phase. Not a bad way to go.

Truth ?

You can never be sure about the either !

Pavan

It does not matter, what matters is "Is there Love after Marriage"

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jagannath_kr

Better make them both combined.

So, that, you will be avoiding many problems and dilemmas.

juliacullen

Hell yeah.

Just make sure you pick the right person to love and they really love you (not think they love you).

Nigah K

well i think arranged lov marriage is the best.in most of the case love marriage is not accepted by the parents and lovers go against their parents and spoil their life taking their curse even though the dont tell it on face but they feel it in their heart and it hurts them badly.and it is also better not to fall in all such tensions and hav a arranged marriage.

choco

Yes!

Hardtostop

Both are good...

Love can be there in an arranged marriage.....

Arranged marriages have much more respect in them than love marriages....

S S

No simple answers dear. Both have their pros and cons. Then it not a question of better - if the relationship works out who bothers if it is Love or Arranged. If you are asking about the chances of success - stats are in favour of arranged marriage in India.

Nee

there are good n bad side of both marriages the solution is how u make it work n how well do u can support n understand ur partner, thats wat u need to take care of

cutie pie

both are equal u can't recognise that which would b more better option as both cases hav their benefits n losses

Kantham J

To my view, love marriage is not good since it may lead to some problems within your family and at that time you may not get the support the parents. If it is an arranged marriage, these problems, if arise can be solved with the help of older people.

Aardvark

I'd prefer to be in one of my choosing, however for whatever reason, arranged marriages work out better more often.

Pinki N

both hav its own importance...

Thennarasu BILLA

LOVE MARRIAGE IS BETTER

JHON CENA

this both are important in an happy life to leave on

Kunal V

depends on the situation

Kartik

definitely...........

Jabaroni

YES

though there is no much difference as in lover marriage love comes first and in arrange marriage, marriage comes first.

Marriage is an institution of mutual understanding and respecting each others feelings. In both the situations a bend is required to cover up all the gaps.

But still love marriages are the best.

Malay

Love marriage and Arrange marriage both better, But it depend on situation.
In Arrange marriage we looking at kundali also, that is plus point in arrange marriage; because that kundali related with astrology and that is also one part of science and one science.it is too important in life if you belive.

In such situation love marriage is also best, it is depend on you.
what you thinking.

KJ jr

well, if i was arranged to marry Jessica Biel, i'd have no complaints.
but with that said, i did pretty good for myself.

to answer your question, i rather roll the dice for myself than my parents.

Radhey S

arrange *** love marriage always success.

Lily

You really don't have much of a choice as arranged marriage is a cultural thing.

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