Is it OK to date during separation?

mshavik

If there is even the slightest chance of you getting back together then I wouldn 't suggest it. It only makes the situation worse.

Marianne T

No. You should not date until you are officially divorced. Even then, you should not date anyone for about a year. That will give you time to get over the divorce. What happens is if you start dating too soon, you either choose the same kind of person you married....or you choose someone just to be with them because you are lonely right then and need validation that you are attractive, fun, etc. That is why second marriages fail is because people jump in the dating game and try to find a mate right away.

miester44

The big thing supposedly is that during separation the 2 of you should be seeing a marriage councilor and trying to find a way to fix your marriage I don't think dating other people is working towards that goal. If you want to date other people then the best thing to do is just get divorced and move on then you can date all you want.....

tricianglen@sbcglobal.net

i don' think its okay then you mess up your special bond.

misunderstood

LEAVE ASAP

DON'T WALK RUUUUUUUUNNNNNNNNN

who are you anyway??

i think that if you are separated with no intentions of divorce and just taking a breather from each other then no it is not OK.. and if you do date during that (breather) separation then maybe a divorce is needed. but how ready are you to commit to someone else after such a traumatic thing like separation or divorce anyway, i think that after a divorce ppl need to heal themselves and your children. so my advice would be try working on you and your children first. take some time for you and even go out with friends.. but dating while being so vulnerable may be more harmful than good... good luck!

Charlotte's Dad

If there is anything left of this relationship,don't date anyone or a seperation will become a divorce.

nzstarrz

i've found my friends and family that date within their seperation or anothers, someone ends up sleeping with their soon to be ex or getting back together. so i would say, no.
when i seperated with my ex. i was ask out. and that person was seperated also, i said,no i still have unfinished business.

well through time, i found out the guy that ask me out, got back together with his soon to be ex. and i got back together with mine. whewwww that was a close one. no feelings were hurt, no friends lost. common sense thank god for that........

Dalton

I can see why you want to separate but be careful, I don't think it is wise to see other people during the separation. I would recommend to you to seek counseling. Your marriage is danger of ending and you don't want that. I least I hope you don't want that.

dear_vern

Sometimes a separation works for a marriage because he can see what he is doing wrong. But why would you want to jump from the kettle to the frying pan? Take some time for yourself and your children. If time apart does not make him aware of how he is and if he remains that way, then you already have a head start. Physical separation will lesson the mental trauma that you will experience. Be by yourself for awhile, another man will not help, it will cloud your judgement, and may also fuel the fire for your husband to become nasty.

jcanime@sbcglobal.net

No, not if you are planning on getting back together.

spirit2

You just described 85% of men!

kathyw

Your marriage sounds like it has suffered a breakdown. Big time. Try to figure out why.If you can work on that and maybe work together to repair the marriage and forgive each other, all the better for you and him and for the kids.
It's not OK to date during separation because your marriage is not over yet. It is over when it is over, that is when the divorce papers are signed.

Nena S

As I understand it, separation is like a "time-out"...you give each other space so you can sort out your feelings, but you haven't given up on the relationship yet.

If you are thinking about dating other people already, it sounds to me like you want out of your marriage and are already looking for substitutes...! Perhaps you should just proceed to a divorce.

lisa r

As for wanting to date your husband for the way he treats you now ? I wouldn't give him the time nor the day. He is a total jack *** ! Dating him isnt going to solve issues. The man merely even realizes your existance. If you feel unsafe to separate from him and think dating him is your option of safety you should seek Domestic Violence Help. By the sounds of it your in trouble and so are your kids. Thats my opinion.

justme

Separation is not the same as a divorce. You are still married so keep in mind that any relationship that you form while separated will be adultery.

fitzovich

I would be very careful if you decide this course. There are too many things that can bite you in the divorce if it goes that way. Try group activities or with your friends.

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Sophiesmama

I think during the separation, you should focus on seeing if you can repair the relationship and not bring another person into the mix. Divorces don't really take all that long anymore, so give yourself some time to decide what you really want.

Mr. Ed

yes, you have my permission.

sexypornstarsexypornstar

no...... separation ........unless you decide that there,s no going back to your husband or him to you......concentrate on your famillly and making things happpier for yourself and children ....dating someone while you are mixed up wont solve anything......could you reallly date someone while your feelin .......i think your husband wants out and i think you will find happiness again but not yet........start to learn to be happy by yourself and sort out him ......then ,,,,,,,,,,,,,see how you feel ...have friends to help you through this ............you are worth more than being a slave to your husband .....

anismith62

i don't think so, as you are separated not devorced.

rgoody_63

If you are married no because you are still bound to your vows. During separation should be the time when you take the opportunity to get to know yourself and what you actually want as far as your relationship is concerned. I personally would not want anything to do with your spouse. You and your children deserve better than that and you should never settle for less. Especially if he treats you bad in front of your children that can and will scare them for life.

LDJ

No. If you ever get a divorce he can use it on you.

MZ. Latina

Remember that when you date when you are separated it can come back and bite you in the ***.

feysunny

I would suggest not to date.

If things go worse, your date can be brought in the courts during divorce and if you are not in terms with him, you don't want to know what will happen.

Protect yourself and the children and finish with the divorce first.

Good Luck.

And you're still there, WHY?

leopold

1. If you are legally married, No, unless you do not want custody of the children.
2. If you are not legally married, yes, you and the children need to survive, unless you are capable to support yourself and the child,
3. A very irresponsible man to the family, husband to you and a father to the children.

Amanda

I think it is a personal decision to date during separation. Of course if you date someone while separated and then get back with your husband, it could come back to haunt you.

But my question to you is this: If your husband is lazy and selfish, why do you continue to wait on him and bow to his commands?? If he won't help you with the kids, he certainly would NOT be getting breakfast in bed from me. If he thinks he knows how to discipline the kids better than you, take the afternoon off and let him handle it. Disconnect the cable if he watches too much tv. Part of the problems you are having are stemming from you because you are letting him get away with murder. You need to put your foot down. Maybe he isn't aware of some of the things that are bothering you, and that could lead to some type of resolution to your problems.

just my opinion

I would think not, especially if you want to get back with your significant other. It only complicates the situation at hand.

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