Is it OK to lie to your wife?

redpeach_mi

if it was just flirting, then i think you did the right thing. however, in the future, wouldn't it be best just to avoid situations that will lead to lying to your wife.

SLIM in 2008

yes you should have to get to the bottom of why you feel like you need to flirt with other women

mafiosu

Is it OK for your wife to lie to you? Is it OK for your wife to flirt with other men? If you answer "yes" to both of these questions then I guess it is OK for you too.

P.S. I'm not being sarcastic. Lying in a marriage is a slippery slope. Trust is fragile. Long ago I told my children that a lie is so strong that one can destroy a 1000 truths. And once those truths are destroyed it is the lie that will define you. But the truth is powerful too. You can bury it but you can't kill it, and sooner or later someone is going to dig it up.

~nicole~

Nope you dodged a fight. Don't flirt and you won't have to lie in the future.

floridaman39us

Just be honest and quit flirting. Women don't like competition.

eeyore6838

Hunny, if you start hiding things now when will it end. You should have told her.

Ann D

Wife's point of view: No, you shouldn't have told her, it would only cause problems.

BUT, you will be tempted again since you got away with it this time, and next time it may go farther. And don't think your wife didn't know you were lying, we have radar on these kinds of things. She may have just overlooked it since the girl was leaving anyway. She will be keeping a closer eye on you though! Bet on it!

Snake

You lied to your wife it was wrong no doubt. But now as you have lied and the situation is stable and there is no problem between you and your wife! So great and you have saved your relation.

But on the other hand you shouldn't have been flirting with other girl. As you said you love your wife and you really love her, be with her and love her more. Why to go for another girl and flirt? Yeah!

Anyway you made it right! everything is fine and try to be with her, next to her and don't flirt with anyone as long as you have your loving wife! I'm sure she can give you everything you want and even more!

Stay Happy! Don't worry mate what you did was wrong and it's fine as everything has been settled.. Don't do it next time... :)

Badkitty

You self preservation instincts kicked in. Smart man.

i told the cop this morning, that i was doing 65 (when i was doing closer to 80).

was i wrong?

get over it and don't flirt in the future.

You shouldn't have done it in the first place.

x flower power x

So you flirted with a girl...so what, big deal. look as long as nothing happered then the flirting then its really not a big deal and the lying well you didnt want to hurt your wife did you? it was a bit of harmless flirting, it didnt mean anything did it? you love your wife so forget about it and move on in your life. married man do alot worse then flirting these days!!

brooke0707

Its never OK to lie to your wife, It wouldnt do any good to tell her now. You obviously feel bad about it so forget it happened, learn from it, and put that flirtatious energy into your own relationship.

Vivianna

No. Just don't cheat on her, flirting is harmless unless it's taken to the next level.

littledevilinyourcup

should you have lied? No
My guess is your feeling guilty about it. Should you bring it up now propbably not. Should you lie about in the future ? Are you going to get P/O ed when and if your wife flirted or got hit on? Prob Yes but just remember you did it too
As for my hubby and me we are secure enough in our relationship if either one of us starts flirting with someone else we make a joke of it. Seeing another man hit on me actually makes my husband feel good because he knows that the guy can try his best but I will be going home with my husband and plus I can get him free drinks

Ms. GTO

Just let her read this question, it will tell her everything she needs to know.

chefsky2001

Dude all the little so called white lies ad up. If you love your wife like you say if asked talk about it not dance around. From the guy that knows.

Happy. Finally.

I think you need to take responsibility for your actions...and mistakes. You knew what you were doing was wrong, so you should not have done it in the first place. I believe that being your wife, she has The Right to know about it. One secret will soon turn to many small ones, because you will soon get over the guilt you feel now. Then, seeing that it is rather simple, will begin the process all over again, until the problem of just flirting...escalates.

Karen

You shouldn't have been flirting, but that's beside the point.

I guess after the fact, which is the lesser of the two evils? Had you told her what happened, she would have been upset and hurt. You lied to protect her feelings, good intentions. If she ever finds out about the lie, trust will become an issue. So...... which is the lesser of the two evils?

Rebecca Elizabeth

Its not alright to lie to anybody. PERIOD.
Shes your wife....
You should always be truthful. no matter what. You should have told her exactly what happened. She's going to catch you in your lies some day if you continue.
main point is always be truthful, because if you tell the truth, chances are the person will forgive you because you did the right thing but if you lie.. then hey, why would they want to forgive someone who purposely lied to them, they wont trust you anymore!
next time, think before you go lying to your wife, even about stupid things.
xox

PUSSIE WILLOW

A lie is never good, even little white ones..

Belizie_Gurlie

it depends on the extent of the lie, but you should tell her so you could work things out and it wont happen again; one lie leads to another and another

wilma s

Truth always comes out sooner than later.....Who saw you do this flirting???MMMMMMMMM

mick

What's wrong with flirting? If I'm not allowed to flirt with anyone, even harmlessly (which it always is), then I'm never getting married! But there's a difference between harmless chatting and chatting someone up. As long as you know where the line is, why would your wife care if you're just sharing a little banter? As long as you still flirt with her, too, I think it's okay and she's overreacting. If you can't tell her something that small, I think you need to work on the relationship -- and she needs to work on her lack of trust.

SUPERBIHE999

Man! The females on here are rough..whew... HELL NO!!! Did you hear what I said? You dont have to mention that. SAY NO TO THAT HELL. Pardon me. I did not mean to yell. Flirting is a natural occurrence whether people are willing to admit it or not. I understand this all too well. I would never cheat on my wife, even still I flirt now and again at work and the females I do flirt with know my situation and it's harmless. You control all that comes of those situations. I ain't saying go grope and all that, but to me complimenting someone receiving compliments KNOWING HOW TO GIVE AND TAKE THOSE are a part of the whole maturity aspect of things. That's how I see it.

s r f

relationships are about honesty and yes you should always be honest with your significant other

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