Is it Wrong?

raylie

no i wouldn't call it cheating, but i don't think it's fair to your husband that you're keeping this other guy a secret either. of course you like the attention he gives you, especially if your marrige sux. but.......you have to decide if you want your husband or your freedom....can't have both

Angel Eve

It depends...Would your husband consider this cheating? If he would.... then its wrong.

Becky

If you have been married for 14 years, they weren't all bad. Your not cheating yet, but is it really worth 14 years of work and love for a fling?

Lady Dee

I don't think it is cheating. Now if you start to see him phyiscally then you are looking for trouble. I am in a similar situation and let me tell you, the anticipation of just wanting to be with the next person is amazing.

Good Luck cause I know I need it.

sureno

No, it is not cheating. But anyhting besides that is cheating.

Ayumi 23

slightly, yes
Knock it off

wowcanusayit

I just left this same type of question however on the flip side of it.... Yes, it is cheating. Emotional cheating. Not good cuz it will develop into something more.
I would suggest if you want to stay married , drop your H.S. friend and reconnect with your husband.

Honey Dip

No---as long as you don't get emotionally involved with him. This is what we call getting some on the side. (ATTENTION). After being in a relationship so long it's possible that your husband just forgets how much the little things matter...the phone calls...I love you emails..etc. Talk to him and let him know. He must know that way if in turn you do end up leaving your husband for this other man you won't feel guilty because you tried to make it work and you let him know your feelings towards the matter.

phnx

unless you touch his no no then its not.

Hpnotiq

No, it isn't cheating, but it is the gateway to it, If you are having problems in your marriage, you should figure out if you love your husband and still want to be married. If you do, you need to talk to your husband and try counseling.

If all else fails, be real and get a divorce. Don't cheat. It's not right and there's no good reason to. Think about how you'd feel if you were in your husband's shoes.

Good luck.

â™¦cat

You know what's wrong? Staying in an unhappy marriage. While u are in it, happy or not, u have to respect it. Anything that u wont do in front of him or will offend him is considered cheating. If u will let him read ur old classmate's emails then its fine. Attention? yes everybody needs it but it has to come from the right person. Don't use unhappy marriage as an excuse.

luvlisteningtomusic

It is called an emotional affair. There is no contact physically but mentally you are thinking of this man. You are probably fantasizing about this man. I had a friend who recently found her lost love from high school. It was 36 years that she had not seen him. She was excited at first he was bringing back old memories that they shared together. They talked on the phone for 2 months before they actually seen each other. Everytime she talked to him her eyes lit up and she had a big smile on her face. She went to go see him, she came back and her eyes no longer lit up and her smile was gone. She was disappointed because he had changed so much not just physically but mentally as well. We always like to think the grass is greener on the other side and usually it turns out it really isn't.

Mit

Yes this is cheating. If you would put as much effort into your marriage you would be happier.

Why do people look for new when they married with the idea of forever?

Fix your problem and make the sparks fly.

misydoll

Yes, you are on the verge of being with another man who is not your husband.

SimpleGurl

It's not cheating yet. But if it goes beyond that, then yes it is. It also depends on what you two are emailing each other about.

not meant to be tamed

it's not physically cheating, but it could be considered emotionally. Also, anything that you are having to hide from your significant other is most likely wrong.

PDK

Flip it around. If your husband was receiving e-mails from an old friend and he eagerly anticipated each one, would you be mad at him? Would you be jealous if he was doing exactly what you are doing? Instead of feeling distant from him, why don't you talk to him about it before it is too late. At one point in time you had feelings that told you marrying him was the right thing to do. Just talk to him.

JCman2010

It isnt yet, but if you go w/ him it is.

Maliboo562

oh yeah your about to cheat on your husband the more hes around the more your going to like him n then your going to end up cheating on your husband

bluez

Would your husband be upset that you are emailing some guy from high school? If so, it is cheating. Do unto others.............

harmony

no baby girl, not yet. it's a prelude to it. follow the steps to make it right for yourself and your husband.

Neutro

I think u're jsut bored with ur marriage, but don't look at it as a real affair. It's just tht u kinda want a way out of ur marriage

Mash

no way- everyone needs attention and appreciation- u are normal!

slvrdragon2001

its not cheating if you are only friends.

dsjfehiw

as soon as you are happy no problems....if you think that he can attract you so much that he can become danger to your married life....then stop contacting him if you wana save your married life.

eplayerj

Yes but I understand. Get a divorce.

sheepherder

not yet...

giddy

If you have to ask the question, in your mind you have crossed that line, so the physical act can't be too far off

kattiger

well it's not cheating unless you do something-- you can't really control if you feel an adrenaline rush from hearing from him

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