Is it a bad idea to cheat as a revenge after your spouse cheated on you?

Jimbo

First of all what are you going to achieve and accomplish by doing that, that you are a low as he is. You are who your are, and you can not change that, unless you have all this anger that you have bottled up inside you that you can't see straight and it makes you to do things that are against your morals. I know you are pissed off and you have every right to be of what your husband did, but why don't you take that anger and put it towards some good use, like your marriage and you child and try to find some Harmony that is left in your relationship. Yes, he did something really, really stupid and hurt full to you and your family (child), but you need to try to work things out because it is expected from both sides in a marriage to do so, both Husband and Wife no matter who is at fault. I don't know if you remember in your vows, where it says, for better and for worst. Because girl this is the worst that they where talking about and it can't be anything worst than this orther than death. And you will always know this, that you have tried to be that wife that tried to keep the family together and only you. It is not going to be a easy task at all and it will take allot of pride and work to do this, but you owe it to your child and to yourself. You might not see it now, but if it works out with your husband and you, you can look back at all this and be proud of what you have accomplish for the marraige and for the family. So don't give up so soon that everything is over because that is the easy way out, by getting a divorce. Good Luck and I wish you the best to come to you.

elvlayarvvi fEisty wife and mom

Yes, bad idea.

Personally, I'd feel better running up their credit cards, draining their bank account, letting the air out of their tires, etc... get alimony, child support, etc...

=)

The best revenge would be divorce and finding a better man =)

Mary

The Internet Is Yours

yes. if you think about it..it makes no sense.

If you were single would you sleep around so recklessly?

why let another person drive you to doing something you are not known to do.

Now me on the other hand....I was a tramp before I settled down. I'd have females lined up like a 2 for 1 sale at victoria secrets

crazy8eddie

Revenge will only hurt you. It's bad Karma

Kitten,Doc

The first thing a guy does is go out on the town and find the biggest fricking walking venereal skank there is , That is not a conquest ,So if you want to go to his level then cheat

Quasimodo

Then here's my question to you. What do you think that will accomplish?

There's an old saying..."If you seek revenge, dig two graves". Try thinking. Why would you lower yourself, your standards and morals to the same level that your husband did? Will that make you feel any better or do you think you'll feel cheap and used the following day?

I understand you're wounded deeply. To have the trust and the fact that an intimate act between two people that is the best expression of love become a common, physical act is unconscionable.

You look to be an attractive woman and you seem to have a good head on your shoulders so I'm making the assumption that you have intelligence socked away in the head as well. Don't do something you'll regret later. He can't undo what he did. Do the same and of course neither can you.

If you're going to divorce then do so. If you become involved in a relationship further down the road you'll have no regrets that you lowered yourself to the level of a common streetwalker just to hurt the person who hurt you. In actuality you'll do more damage to yourself than he did to you.

chinamigarden

Yes it is a bad idea. This is not how you resolve the problem This will compound the problem. You know the old expression 2 wrongs don't make a right. This is the situation that this expression comes from. Once you have this revenge, will this make what he did better? Will you forgive him, or be less upset? Or will you feel worse for having stooped to this level and have denigrated yourself for revenge?

drifter69

Yes. Value yourself more and don't become a part of it. Degrading yourself by cheating as well will affect you as well. Like they say 2 wrongs does not make a right. I know you must be terribly hurt but be strong, hold to your values and give it time for the pain of betrayal to subside.

dad

What you really need is a better husband . You do what he does is just as bad making you ignorant to

loving mommy life!!

yes seems immature. either move on or forgive him. id move out personally but dont cheat back thats dumb

Brian S

Bad idea is probably an understatement.

He screwed up without a doubt. You have two choices for that one - you can either forgive and stay or not forgive and divorce. Stooping down to that same level should never be seen as an option though. If you do, than you are no better then he is and show a lack of maturity. Basically it will than turn into an argument with you saying "well you did it first!"...something that was expected of kids but not from adults.

Be the bigger person.

Mean Carleen

The best revenge for a cheating spouse is a divorce!

dasani_ragin

Two wrongs don't make a right. Sometimes it is good to forgive not to forget. Don't cheat on him to hurt him back. Doesn't make sense. If it hurts so badly file for a divorce from your husband.

texconservative

Sorry to here that you are going through this. The fact of the matter is that you willnever trust him again, and your relationship is basically over. I too have experienced this with my first wife after she became pregnant from someone else. I stood by her for the sake of my kids and thought we could get through it. After a few more times, I came to realize that she would never change. Eventually, I did exactly what you are suggesting and it didn't make things any better. She continued to cheat until she actually left for good with someone else. Best advice; cut your loses now while you are young and give it several years before you're ready to move on with someone else. The time is right for a new relationship when you can look back and honestly say "I don't care who my ex goes out with".

Mad Man

How can stooping to their level help you?

Now What?!!

Yes, you only end up hurting yourself. The best revenge is to leave.

Mrs. Naumann

of course. It won't fix anything and in fact it only makes things worse. If your tired of it than leave and if your not than deal with it.

keepin it real

yeah b/c you are only hurting your body, puting you at a greater risk of contracting something. The best revenge is forgiveness....then if he cheats again, revenge is to leave and find a man trustworthy

Shlane

moving on and becoming a scucces and being indifferent to him is revenge. Don't focus on him but yourself. make sure YOU are happy

Song

Terrible idea. Forgive, especially if he shows he regrets it and is truly sorry. People make bad decisions sometimes. It's what your husband does after his bad decision that matters. As long as he shows remorse and does not blame you.

I hope whatever you lost will be restored.

Joe L

Yes, and not because revenge is wrong. It's a bad idea because it's completely idiotic. If your spouse cheated on you, I doubt you'll be causing him much damage by sleeping around. A good revenge would leave him completely emotionally destroyed.