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answer queen
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It is up to you!my husband and I lived together for almost two years before we got married.
It makes it easier to tell if you are compatible. that is just my opinion |
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RedRabbit
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Yes. Then you know all their habits, their likes and dislikes, and you get use to living together, |
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Mike D
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Yes! You need to do this so the real you and the real her comes out. Otherwise you'll be in for a bumpy ride! |
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Natalie
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I don't think so ... but depends on your culture background. And when couples are married they will try to solve the problem they have more than those who are just living together. |
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...say what?
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sure, I live with my fiancee. You gotta see what you're getting! He can be all smiles, and seem all good when you each go home to your on place....but when you live together, everyone's true colors really come through. Better find out now than later- fter you've said those vows, exchanged rings, and signed that marriage license - it may be too late.
Good luck! :o) |
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morgan j
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I did not live with my first wife before marriage. It didn't work out.
I lived with my second wife for exactly one year. Got a worse result! Better to date for a long time than to shack up. |
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Me777
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Well that is playing it safe and smart . That will give you a chance to realize how well he will treat you , clean , cook and pick up after his self . Then if you are satisfied with his behavior then you can go one from there . Good Luck !!! |
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itsliela
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No |
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Rochelle N
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Yes it is a good idea. If you live with some one before you marry them then you fined out things about them that you might not like. This way you get to realy know a person and fined out if you could live with them the rest of your life. My sister went and married her boyfriend and then found out later that he was on medication. Also that he played a credit card game with his room mate from college and tried to see who could get the most credit cards. She ended up leaving him and divorcing him. I think he was bi polar. |
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Osphronemus G
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yup that way you know if you guys can actually live with each other when you are married. many couples have problems sleeping next to each other and sharing stuff. |
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Ken W
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I honestly dont recomend it.
many times it becomes a issue that one or other in the relationship , wants to stay free and the other wants marriage.
Why buy the cow if the milk is free, attitude often is the norm. Sorry |
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jack
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yep so u can figure them out better. if u dont u could be shoked and feel dumb now ur stuck with them |
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Sublime
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YES! my partner and i lived together for 3 years or so before getting married.
It's the simplest most effective way to determine if you can live with this person the rest of your life. How else would you determine if you'd be able to handle being around them 24/7. I think people that get married without having lived together really only know half the person theyre marrying.
You'll find that you find out alot more about the person by living with them than any other way. |
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Neki
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no it will never be good. what if in case you both back off when your relationship get soured? It is a good idea to go on a long term relationship but not to live together before marriage. To observe each other while you both are not tied up yet is the best. You can always have your choice later on without having lots of regrets. |
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amandafofanda66
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Live with them for 5 years. If you're still together, then get married. |
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Jill M
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I don't think it is a bad idea. You get to see the other at their worst before marriage. But I cannot say it would affect things in the looooong run. People are always changing and growing. I am not the same person I was when my husband married me and vice versa, but we grow and adapt to each other. At least eventually, it does get rocky once in a while. |
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Patrick G
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No, you should however date for at least 2 years to know what they act like in most situations. Live together, no. That doesn't mean don't sleep together, just don't live together. |
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mcbrian2000
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Absolutely!! |
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SS_COPE
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It depends on a lot of things , you don't want to offend family members on eigther side.
If you choose to do so make sure that everything is on the wall ( so to speak) as far as who pays what bills, gercoerys...ect..
I would also sugggest pre-marital counciling. |
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Arnaldo C
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Depends. How long have you been dating? If not very long, definitely.
If one or both of you have been single and living alone for a long time, definitely. Compromising your personal living space and changing your entire life takes a lot of getting used to.
If both of you are pretty flexible, easy-going people that have known each other intimately for a while now, it's not necessary. There's still no harm in it, though. |
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ideally_rational
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Absolutely.
Think of the surprises you will learn, and believe me, you're going to learn about lots of things you didn't know...better to know them before marriage, yes?
But not only that. You will also be grounded in reality this way, day to day stuff, not just romance and dates, and that is how marriage is, day to day stuff.
You will also find out much quicker how you deal with conflict resolution, and you will find out if the two of you can disagree and work things out successfully, or if issues never get resolved. That's the biggest thing you need to know beforehand!
You'll also learn how you feel about living with them, and if you are ready for marriage, because if you aren't it's going to bother you a lot just having them around.
And the wonderful flip side is...you may just find that the two of you live side by side well together :) |
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...Tammy...
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My opinion varies.........I see why you'd want to.To see how you both are and all,then again I think it'll make the man think he can have his cake and eat it to.His excuse will be "We're ONLY living together,not married I can sleep with who i want to.."
Buuuut if someones gonna cheat,they're going to anyways..so wth.....do what you both want :) |
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cuban_wahine
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Yes! I did! There is no way I would've married someone without living with them first! |
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grayeyes4u
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Did that, I still married him and now I'm trying to get out, making a plan |
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ediabullo
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Definately! I lived with my husband for two years before we got married. We had been dating for many many years before that but we really got to know each other with more experience living together. We got all the kinks out before we moved in so it wasn't so odd when we were finally married. |
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K S
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Sure. Then you know exactly what you're entering into when you get married. |
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Randy
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My wife and I lived together for 7 years before we got married. She was really worried that I would change after we got married (it seemed to be a recurring issue for her). I did not change according to her and she was very happy about it. We were married for 12 more years until she passed away from cancer complications. |
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Valerie
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depends on the couple. if u really love eachother and all those feelings that are needed. then go for it. but if u don't think u two are doing as good while living together then maybe one of u should move back to where ever u lived before or find a new place if moving back to the old one isn't an option now |
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duckgrabber
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There has been study after study on this for the last 30 years. It's pretty clear that living together before marriage lowers the probability of success for the marriage. This is indisputable. The problem is this. Living together is sort of an undefined situation. You get used to this relationship. Then you get married, and the relationship fundamentally changes. There are indeed role expectations for husband and wife. Apparently it's hard for people to transition from one type of relationship to another. Marriage is really about committment to each other. Living together is the opposite. This too seems to make it harder for people to transition.
I will add that I did not live with my wife before marriage, but we did take a few trips together. We've been married for 20 years and are very stable. I honestly think we would have ended up like the other couples we knew who lived together first--4 out of 5 divorced. I have a successful marriage and have "been around." I honestly think it's a BAD idea to live together. It's especially bad for a woman. She could get stuck in limbo before eventually getting dumped for a younger woman. I advise against it, strongly. It's not like playing house.
Kent in SD |
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vickie
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Yes you should definitely live with a person before you even decide to marry them. This way you can get used to their ways and if you dont like it then u can get out of the relationship instead of getting a divorce. |
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