Is it crazy if I tell this guy that I love him first when we haven't met yet?

Giustapporre

No, don't say those words yet. It's too soon. You cannot love someone who you haven't been with in person, face-to-face. You can be attracted to him, you can like him, you can have all sorts of feelings, but you have to know that many of those feelings are projected - feelings that are your own that you are putting onto him. Because you haven't had personal face-to-face contact and time with him, and it's over time that these things develop, you cannot say for sure that this is love. Granted, it's a strong mix of emotions, but to say "I love you" seems like too much at this point. Don't "over-invest" yourself and put so much on the line. Meet him, see him over time and then "decide" if you feel love for him - and if you do - then yes, express it.

cooldude11000000

do not tell him you love him right away..... if you do it'll be over before you can even blink

zqx357

you do not love him you just think you do

gabby

yes...its crazy

Laura

never tell a guy you love him right away .. say you like him as a friend.

I never tell a guy i love them.. if they dont love me first. then see you.

bandaid_46

Yes, it is crazy. It also probably explains why you have had your share of painful relationships in the past. The only connection you have with this man is a network connection. Every single thing he has told you could be a freaking lie, designed to make you feel you are in love. He could be an axe murderer biding his time to get you alone and you would have no way of knowing, based on your relationship with him so far.

Think about that before you jump into anything with him.

Sue C

In all honesty, I just feel you may be jumping the gun a bit too soon. You haven't even met him yet, even tho you've talked to him, seen what he looks like, you still do NOT know him! PLEASE please be VERY CAREFUL when you do meet him. I don't care how well you feel you might know him, don't care how you feel about him, he STILL IS a complete stranger to you regardless. I KNOW you do NOT want to even hear that, but w/ALL the things that are going on in the world today, PLEASE do NOT take even a chance of anything that just could happen to you. DO MAKE SURE if/when you meet him, it's in a place where there are people around & there's NO way he can get you alone until you KNOW him & I just do not mean that you just met him once & that's that. You've heard the saying, "you don't really know someone until you've lived w/them", well you truly do NOT know him at all! Just be on the safe side & do NOT let anything go by chance in the way of meeting him. I feel tho that you ARE jumping the gun tho to actually say you love him even before you met him. I think it would just be wise to keep that one to yourself until you honestly meet him & get to know him better. You're basing everything on your talks etc., BUT you still don't KNOW him at all. Take it SLOW..Best to you...:)

Crystal B

I don't think you are crazy. But you do need to ask him how he truly feels about you first. I met my husband online like you have your bf. We sent pictures back and forth to each other and talked and text every day for at least 3 to 4 months before we actually met. He text me one day and asked me how I was feeling towards him and I told him I wanted him to tell me 1st and he made this statement "I feel myself falling more and more in love with you every day". He treated so much better and talked me so much better than what I was used to. We also had a connection something more than what we ever had with anyone else that we've been with. It was nothing could touch us. And to this day our love is as strong as it can be. We have a son together so we have 3 kids altogether. We could not be more happier than what we are today. We have had people try to break us up due to the fact we were so far apart. And jealous ex's but we are still together to this day and we want to spend the rest of our lives together. So do I think it's stupid the way you feel, my answer is NO!! I say go for it. He could be your night in shinning armor. Don't let this opoportunity pass you by cause you might regret it. If you need to to talk email me at heavensopenarms@yahoo.com. Good luck!!!!!

romika

sorry but you aint falling in love yet, you just have a crush, u can not love a person after 3 months, thats a big commitment. if you love somebody you need to get to know the bad sides too, if you can accept them, and you love the person for their bad ways thats when you can say you are in love. people underestimate love these days. plus when you tell him that, he probably gonna be so turned off, i would...not after 3 months.

As A

I honestly believe its not crazy but it also depends on your emotional attachment to the phrase and the guy too. So if it is a phrase just to pass on affection and wont lead to you to committing yourself or making the other person feel committed it should be ok. Also your perception could be skewed based on your feelings so how can the bystander tell if he is as connected to you as you are to him? Try to honestly evaluate the relationship and if it is worth it to try to become more intimate with a 3 letter phrase and be able to accept the risk that it could backfire.

Also, to all those that keep downing internet relationships, people meeting each other online is now a common occurence. Is it easier to lie online? Yes. Do people tend to act differently online? Yes

But underlying a lot of relationships is a connection that sometimes is deeper than most real life relationships because people lack inhibitions and really get to know each other. This person has gotten to know a person and is trying to share an experience with someone who she has connected to in a deeper manner than most "real life" relationships.

Janet W

This is the marriage and divorce section first of all. But, how the hell can you be in love with someone over the interent. I think you are a little delusional. Do you even know what love is?

vickster

I met someone on the Internet/dating website and we were chatting for about 3 or 4 months thru email and yahoo chat, we have never met, and we saw each other on webcam, skype, etc...I thought I was in love with him but it was a thought of the words on a computer and not a physical touch. It was so different for me because I have never had that connection before with a guy, so after 6 months of chatting, emails, and such, we finally met in person, and it was not the same as when we were chatting online. So needless to say, don't tell him how you feel until you actually meet him face-to-face. And let the relationship develop that way.

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