Is it fair or not fair regarding cheating?

Stormin' Norman

I agree with Sunshine. You made a mistake and learned from it. I don't think people realize the consequences of cheating until they are involved in it, whether it be the one who is cheating, the one who is cheated on, or the one who is being cheated on with. I never cheated, but I was the one a guy cheated on his girlfriend with and she was actually someone I knew...in the end, the feeling of guilt was too great to bear. Now that I know the consequences, I can honestly say I would never do that to my husband, ever! So this whole once a cheater, always a cheater crap is B.S. So go ahead and get pissed at cheaters and their cheating ways...you know how disgusting it is more than people who clueless about what emotions are actually involved in being one of the guilty parties in those scenarios.

somanynamestaken

It's guilt that is making you feel that way, hope you get through it.

Sunshine

I think that you learned from your mistake and that is a good thing! You do have room to express your opinion!

susie12345

Yes, you have a right to your opinion. You are obviously very sorry and understand how unfair cheating is.

DCS

It is OK as long as you truly feel sorry for what you did and will not do it again. Mistakes happen and you obviously seem happy that you were given another chance. If it happens again, then you would be a hypocrite.

dmarie_333

no, its good. you are convicted by what you've done, you know its morally wrong. you are unique b/c most cheaters stay cheaters

(WOMAN)

i don't think you have a room to talk because at the end you did it. Just ask this to yourself, if a make a bad comment about a person who has cheated in front of my b/f or friends, what would they think of me? they would definitely say, what a hypocrite, right? so, at the end you've learned your lesson but that didn't take away the fact that you DID cheat. I'm glad though that you have changed but i think that you feel this way because you still feel remorse for what you did.

Invisigoth

if you are remorseful for your past behavior and have a plan in place to avoid temptation in the future then it's perfectly fine for you to feel as you do because you know that for you a little slip can lead to a big fall.

you're only a hypocrite if you are in effect saying "do as I say not as I do." If you are continuing the cheating then you have no room to talk.

twiggy

No you learned the hard way what cheating does to an relationship. I'm happy for you and your bf that the both of you were mature enough to handle this and move on for the better. But not all, people learn from their mistakes. And most people don't realize what they have until it's gone. Your a lucky lady. You lived and learned. But you can't control what others do. They will not listen. They have experience the pain for themselves.

Save me

I guess these so called cheaters remind you of what you have done and you probably don't like the fact you cheated on your boyfriend. Therefore you are making up to him and don't want to do it again.....you have learned lessons from your experience, which is good.
So you know how horrible cheating is and you don't like it and don't like the people doing it.....understandable and it's quite fair, as long as you would not make same mistake!

Sue C

Possibly the tho't of what could have happened to you is what makes you feel so upset by the tho'ts of cheating. You are one of the fortunate ones, & sometimes it's just things of this nature that honestly DO bring us closer together in the long run. You ARE fortunate in having someone who honestly cared that much about you & very obviously loves you. In some cases like yours, "you had to have been there first to be where you are now". Good for you, & many happy yrs. ahead...:)

sloegin

Good for you! You truly learned your lesson. You are right to hate it. Cheating hurts so many people so much.

SaraP

I have too cheated in my past. I don't think you should hold onto your past. To me it sounds like you are a good person and have bettered yourself. People make mistakes, but that doesn't mean that you should beat yourself up over it. It also sounds like you have definitely learned from your mistake and that is why you feel the way you do about cheating now. I do not believe in the saying, "Once a cheater, always a cheater." Maybe you feel so strongly about cheaters because you know first hand what it does to the person that gets cheated on. It doesn't ever feel great to be cheated on. You live and you learn. Just don't freak out too much about cheaters because in reality there is really nothing you can do about others cheating, just controlling yourself. Take care!

Bio hopeful

well glad to hear that your a reformed cheater. You really dont have any room to talk but Glad you dont support cheaters!

Peter N

Where was all that anger a year or so ago?

I never trust anyone who has such dramatic changes in attitude or opinion in a short span of time. It's usually a sign of mental instability.

yoadriannejohnson

no room to judge, sounds like you learned your lesson. it sounds like now your judge and jury to cheaters. just take it has a lesson learned and let it be. move on your not better than the next cheater once one always one,

KerryAnn

YOUR A CHEATER YOURSELF, WHY SHOULD YOU FEEL ANGER FOR OTHER CHEATERS

Magic 8 Ball (Call me BILF)

I vote you have no room to talk. You have cheated, so you are, in essence, a cheater. You are also more likely to cheat in the future than someone who has not cheated before.

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