Is it inconsiderate-?

Slaggy

Yes, its completely inappropriate for her to be as rude as she is being to you. Tell him she's not welcome in your house anymore.

Ryan

Absolutely. Understand that it'll piss her off, but she can deal--you need to do what you think is best to get things done for your child.

Alyssa

not at all she has nothing to do with ur son! she has no right to get herself involved

no it is not, tell him just that. he is inconsiderate to bring her to the door.

brian

sure, i would. and hey it's YOUR house, you make the rules at the end of the day. goodluck.

vonmousecat

Yes its very okay. He needs to be more respectful and considerate of you 100%.
There are steps you can take to prevent her from coming to your door... In a way you can call it harassment...
You can even go so far as to get a restraining order against her. If she is unwanted on your property and continually steps onto it, you can make it so she can never do it again.

I had to do the same exact thing with an ex-boyfriend and they serve the restraining order no questions asked.

Tell him you would rather if he didn't bring her and if he continues to do so you will take action.

Lisa

heck yeah......call her and tell her that if she dont stop butting in...then you will do it through a lawyer.....this is none of her business....you have every right to tell her a/s/s to keep in the car

Mr. Bugsme

Why don't you call him at work and try to speak with him when she's not around?

prrfect

no it is not inconsiderate to ask him that, what IS inconsiderate is him bringing her to your door....

LuckyLavs

It may be perceived as jealousy...
whether it actually is or it isn't.

It may also be perceived as hostile/confrontational (by her).

But I suppose if you don 't care about how you are perceived then it doesn't matter.

You can always mail papers to him to sign. But that will cost you 41 cents. And at this point, it sounds like this guy isn't even worth a stamp.

annita g

Yes is OK for you to ask him not to bring her and if he does nothing about it.
It is also OK for you to let her know that you are not talking to her and that you would appreciate it if she would mind her business and wait in the car while your ex picks up your son.

Ivy

most definatly, i would do it

potentiallywonderful

Sounds like they deserve each other.

You could get social services involved if it's important for your son to have insuracne.

Dr.PhilwithBoobsDueInJune

She shouldn't have anything to do with that situation! She is not co-parenting your child. That is a matter that has nothing to do with her and I don't think it is beneficial to the situation by bringing her up and letting her be involved with the pick up.

CREG

Of course... that is YOUR house. If you don't want her there, he should respect you and not bring her there.

Ms. GTO

Maybe she should wait in the car.

He needs to grow a pair, and tell his gf to butt out of his business. It sounds to me like the gf just likes to stir the pot between you two.

Tina

just be assertive and ask him politely to stop bringing her their because it makes u uncomfortable. he should understand.

Seriously?

Yes. Absolutely. Explain that she is distracting when you two are trying to exchange information and that it would look like more of a team approach to the children if the two of you communicated with each other sans gf's/bf's...

Michelle

WOW! you're a better woman than i, i'd have flipped out on her! your son is NOT hers... she needs to realize that.

however, the most effective way would be to ASK your ex, not TELL him. he may respond the best to that, and even do so without a problem.

good luck! â™¥

iiidontknowdoyou

I would have just stepped in and told her flat out you weren't talking to her, and that you would appreciate her not interfering with private matters between you and your child's Father!!! That from now on it would be best for her to wait in the car!!!

dptvegas

absolutely she needs to wait in the car their is nothing wrong with that (good luck to you & your son)

jodman01us

Absolutely, that's acceptable to tell him NOT to bring her around anymore. I can see why you divorced him!! He sounds like a total a$$! If she is interfering, especially with something as important as insurance then she is a selfish b*tch! Sounds like she may be immature too. Is he one of those typical males that went for a younger woman? That what it sounds like to me! I wonder if you can get some type of court order that prevents her interference. She is jeopardizing your right to have a civil relationship with the father of your child.

Riley's Mommy

My fiance has a daughter, and when he goes to pick up and drop off the little one... I don't go. It's out of respect. So yes, tell him to stop bringing her up to your door step. It's none of her business how you two are raising your child.

*~KingA~*

omg.. I would want to kill her. She needs to realize that you and your EX still are going to communicate and have issues that dont involve her.. you have a child together and she needs to respect that and she should have NO say in what the two of you have to discuss b/c it has nothing to fo w/ her. dont feel bad at all to ask him not to bring her.

True

Sounds to me like he has a horrible girlfriend who is jealous and afraid to leave him alone with you.

Being that this is just his girlfriend, I donâ€™t see the problem with asking him to at least leave her in the car when he comes over.

But eventually you and your ex will have to have discussions about boundaries. One of these days the woman that shows up at the door wonâ€™t be just a girlfriend, but a wife. You need to explain to him exactly what you just told us. He needs to be able to explain to his new women that your child comes first and the issues between the two of you should remain between the two of you without interference.

Angela

heck no thats not inconsiderate! thats a bad move on your ex's part!!! tell him how u feel! and good for u to not want him back! that shows lots of courage, confidence and that u r a good person to know that u r better off...lots of people never realize that! so yeah...tell him asap! good luck!!!

Ziggylover

Tell him straight out that it is your house and that you do not want her there. If there is something concerning your son, speak to him and if she is there, tell her that it does not concern her. Your ex needs to understand all things concerning your child is between you and the ex. Not you, the ex and the girlfriend. If she doesn't like it, tell her to leave and not come back!

beni1015

I think you have every right to ask him, but he probably will think that it is because you're jealous. Just say that you would prefer that you and he were the only ones handling your child's affairs and you would prefer if she didn't take part in it. Make it sound very professional and very unemotional otherwise he might mis-read it. Good luck!

bambibalu

no, it isnÂ´t inconsiderate, your son is none of he girlfriends business.tell him to tell her to wait in the car

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