Is it normal for newly wed to fight?

It's normal to fight but not that often and not over stupid stuff like that.

Butch

brother the first year is the hardest fights every day just hang in there youll make it

kyle g

Sounds like she is young. Only young people get in a huff over insignificant stuff. Who cares if you stared, did you leave, did you get a number are you going to rendezvous? As time goes on you'll either get over it or you'll divorce. Decide quick as not to waste much time.

Jon

its normal to fight when you are together because thats how you two learn each other so that you will have a better marriage. Of course, just dont fight on silly stuffs and make sure the fight dont get physical.

LJC

I have been married for seven months now.... bickering and such is completely normal and I think very healthy for a relationship.... to an extent. Anyone who says they never fight is full of crap or their relationship is fake. To me... small fights show that you still care and that you are envolved in eachother.

Huge blowouts on a regular basis... probably not so good because it causes a lot of stress and tension between the two of you. If that is the case, you should both take a look at what starts the arguement. Is it petty, but gets blown way outta proportion? If so you could sit and discuss ways to keep it from escilating.

It took me and my husband a long time to pick our battles. We still work on keeping from picking at eachother and making eachother mad for no real reason sometimes. Marriage is hard work. The best thing to have is communication and you must learn how to talk through things.

Thinking you are staring at other girls sounds like insecurity. You (as in both of you) need to learn how to fix that. If you are truly in love and want to be together.... you would not have gotten married to her if you wanted to get with someone else. All I can say is TALK TALK TALK TALK TALK!

You'll have to learn to ignore her. She's going to find something to fight about. The first year of marriage is always the toughest. I know it was for me. If you can get past it, you both will get used to each others ways and the little things you fight about now, won't be a big deal later. You just have to weather the storm.

Jessica

There is no 'normal'. I would say that is a lot of fighting to be so newly married. My husband and I have been married for 2 years and haven't fought yet and are extremely happy. But my mom and step dad have been married for 4 years and fight all the time, but are very happy. Everyone is different. If you are unhappy, I would suggest going to a marriage counselor. Might as well fix the problem before it gets really big and divorce comes into the equation.

Goodbye....â™¥

I think she sounds insecure. Try to do things to make her lose the insecurity... If that does not work, go to plan B.

What is plan B?

Suthern R

Yes, you are working at combining two lives into one marriage and there are differences to work out along the way. It sounds like she may not be secure in your marriage yet, so make sure you are showing her and telling her how important she is to you, how beautiful she is, call her during the day to just let her know you are thinking about her. Date her just like you did before you were married. She sounds nervous and you are the only one that can make her feel secure. Just be genuine in the things you say and do, not fake or make things up, that will make her radar go off and things will really get hard to explain even when it is all good. She wants to and needs to know that she is the only one for you and that take time and patience on your part, but it is worth it.

sexy grandmother

Perfectly.
I'm married for last 40 years with the same guy and we do fight everyday, religiously.
Our words during fight will make a sailor blush.
So what. Enjoy it.

Buzzy B

Its all courtesy you MIL and her grooming her daughter. If you really love your wife and want to continue your married life go to a post mairtal councellor ASAP before things get worser!!

Also chk www.saveindianfamily.org; www.498a.org

Kris H

No. My husband and I have been married for over a year and have not had a fight yet.

AngelBleu

First, make sure you're not staring at other girls. If you are then you're making your new wife insecure and being unfair to her. If you're not, then recognize that she is insecure and just needs extra reassurance from you that you still care now that you're married.

Some couples hardly ever fight, others seem to always fight. Everyone is different. Ask yourself what you're contributing to the fight. It takes two to have the argument in the first place. If you can take a step back and look at her side of things before you react perhaps you can stop some arguments before they begin. When you do react try to do it without an excess of emotion. The calmer you are the calmer she will be.

Be sure when you do argue that you fight fair. Discuss the behavior that is at issue. Don't belittle the person who demonstrates the behavior. If you each maintain respect for the other while talking out your problems you'll do a lot less arguing as time goes by.

Hang in there. The first year or two is like a roller coaster ride. Just hang on to the good times and focus on loving each other. Then the tough times won't come as often or feel as bad.

Amy D

It is totally normal to have disagreements, I think the first year of my marriage was the hardest, it takes awhile to get used to living together and managing a home, finances, ect. You need to establish a level of trust with her it sounds like. Do things that make her feel special, bring home flowers, call her during the day to say I love you, light candles in the bedroom and draw her a bath and have a magazine in there that she likes, tell her what a great wife/housekeeper/cook she is. Find out what she likes from the above list and do it often. It will get better!!!

fighting is a way to let out frustrations and fears and worries. It is normal as long as no one is hitting and it isn't constant

Tweety

Yes, it's common for newlyweds to fight, even over silly things.
Don't let silly, stupid stuff get in the way of your happiness. Just be patient, loving, understanding, and communicate and deal with things as they come up.

You're a team now and need to learn to communicate and work together.

Debbie D

You probably DO stare at other women. A woman with little or no self esteem, or one with security issues will have a problem with this. Try to be aware of what you're doing and keep it to a minimum around her. If you can honestly say you are not doing what she says you are-you need to talk to her about it. Was she always like this? If yes, you should have known getting married was not going to stop it. The person you marry is the same person they were BEFORE you married them. It's a little late to change things now. If this is new behavior, a calm talk may uncover what started it before it gets out of hand.

m_cyberfriend

NO.. try to know each other well and talk and share as much as you can .. long way to go for you dear.. make her feel you are not a flirt by any chance!!

dizzy r

if you didn't live together b4 you were married, yes it's very normal

Ronnie

Absolutely. Even though you may really be in love, you are going through a huge adjustment in getting used to each other. There may also be a bit of a power struggle going on in the relationship. I know this is a cliche', and alot of men hate this word, but communication is the key. When you don't talk except to disagree, she will never know what you're really thinking, and will become more insecure, and start imagining things like you are looking at other women.

Some ground rules:
1. Don't let the subject go unresolved, but do discuss it.
2. Wait until you are calmer to discuss it
3. Try to avoid using the word "you" in an accusatory way such as "you always do this, and you always accuse me of this". Just try to stick to the facts about why you're upset.

Make sure you have fun making up!

tiffany m

of course its normal to fight every couple does its normal ...im sure these times will pass

Rachel-Pit Police-DSMG

Usually, most of the little things get worked out before the wedding, but don't worry....she may just still be adjusting to married life. I think all couples fight over silly stuff sometimes (my fiance and I almost broke up over a Hawaiian pizza...long stupid story) As far as her thinking you stare at other girls, make sure she knows how beautiful you think she is, and how precious to you. And give her some time....she might still be getting used to things

Lynn

Yes, it's normal but it sounds like she is insecure. Make sure that she knows that she is the only one for you. Also, make a pact to never take each other for granted.

Switch

Getting married actually stopped all those childish fights. Now that you are committed she should trust you more.
Fights are normal so you can get use to eachothers behaviors.

drsgirls1

Couples fight, but it shouldn't be over silly things like that. It also shouldn't be that often. It sounds like you are always at each other, how sad.

A new marriage is supposed to be the happiest time of your life. If it is not you might go ahead and look into a counselor or your pastor.

Blue Eyed Grl

Most Definitely!! I am nineteen years old and have only been married for a couple of months, so fights are apart of our everyday. It's not really the fights the matter, it's how you solve them. Saying your sorry is going to become your first language. Make sure you NEVER go to bed mad at each other and we stop talking about "serious" stuff at ten o'clock every night.

mary ann

its ok to fight but not all the time. because you need this time especially to get to know each other. i am a girl and maybe she's really jealous or maybe a guilty consequence. or the other reason maybe there's a reason for why she doesn't trust you. and maybe she is self-conscious.

jimmy.parker06

Yes it is normal, it's a process of ironing out the plans/rules you want to set forth for living together. This helps you learn each others good and bad habits, what they like and dislike, what sets off their ticker..... You think you have it all figured out when you are dating but living together after getting married is a whole new ball game. Welcome to our world....lol

fire wife

It's normal for all married couples to fight...was she like this before you married her? If so, I think you made a mistake.

john F kennedy

consult a lawyer or go for world tour.

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